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How Gay Dads in Rural Wisconsin Celebrate Pride

Wilson Creek, a rural neighborhood just outside the small town of Spring Green, Wisconsin, hosts the "biggest little gay pride parade in the world," says gay dad Matt Mason

Our farm is nestled in Wilson Creek, a small valley just outside of Spring Green, Wisconsin. Spring Green, despite being the home of Frank Lloyd Wright, The House on the Rock (a long-time midwestern vacation destination) and the American Players Theater, is a town of around 1,600 people. It's a special place in small-town America, to be certain. Though filled with more-than its share of artists and creative types, Spring Green is a typical middle-American town populated with farmers and factory workers — not exactly where you'd expect to find a Pride celebration. Which is one of many reasons that makes Wilson Creek Pride so special.

I moved me and my family of three kids to Spring Green three years ago for love. The transition to farm life in a rural community was not without challenges as a gay man who came out later in life, just a few short years before. I felt like I lost my gay community that I had waited so long to find. The nearest gay bar is an hour away from our farm. Minus my husband, I really didn't know many gay people in Wisconsin. Wilson Creek Pride has always served as a reminder for me, that despite not being surrounded by a large gay community, I'm surrounded by many wonderfully supportive allies and friends who celebrate me and my family for who we are.


The 5th annual Wilson Creek Pride celebration was held on June 2nd, 2019 and was organized by me, my husband Travis and our neighbors and friends Shannon and Ashley. It's a family friendly event that always begins with a parade (which we warmly refer to as "The Biggest Little LGBTQ Pride Parade in the World") down our Wilson Creek country road. The theme this year was "Pride Not Prejudice." Neighbors and friends decorate floats, tractors, ATVs and even themselves. The parade was followed up with performances by Madison drag queen, Cynthia Mooseknuckle -- also, the parade's grand marshal.

Each year we celebrate, I'm reminded of the relevance and importance of our little Pride celebration. Sadly, the first year I participated in the Wilson Creek Pride, it was the morning after the Pulse Nightclub shooting in Orlando which made the entire day resonate deeply. This year, as we were walking the parade route, word spread about a local teenage trans child that had recently run away from their conservative parents. Occurrences like this are far too common. The wish is that our celebration gives visibility and hope for those that are quietly suffering amongst us.

The following is a photo essay I took of this year's Wilson Creek Pride -- where-in, you'll find a magical concoction of joy, fun, kindness, generosity, love, and LGBTQ support. In the middle of rural Wisconsin. The message is a simple one: no matter where you are, you can celebrate Pride. In a world of chaos and uncertainty, the day is a celebration of, and for, everyone.

Thanks to our family, friends, neighbors and allies, Wilson Creek Pride is the true manifestation of the phrase: "Love wins."

Follow Matt Mason on Instagram at @majormattm and Wilson Creek Pride at @wilson.creek.pride!

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On Saturday, October 5, 2019, Philadelphia Family Pride will hold their 10th Annual Family Matters Conference from 9am to 3:30pm for LGBTQ parents, prospective parents and their kids of all ages at the University of the Sciences in West Philadelphia. The theme this year is "Telling Our Stories." Registration is now open!

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Gregory writes that he had hoped to adopt a child ever since his early career working with persons with developmental disabilities. "Several children I worked with were wards of the State of Texas," he wrote. "Their parents having relinquished all rights either owing to egregious acts of abuse or a lack of desire to raise someone with so many needs. There were days when I felt, 'If I could just take you home and raise you.' I knew there was a need for adopting persons with special needs but my own internalized homophobia got in the way yet again. Despite what is probably my own gift in working with children, I never felt worthy enough to be a parent. I always felt that if I were a gay dad it would create more of a liability for the child."

Gregory decision to forgo having children, he says, is his "greatest regret." While he takes responsibility for some of this decision, he also adds: "society's view of homosexuals and its opinions regarding gay adoptions also played a major part."

To critics of Canada's coin, some of who have said its a cheap political pander to the LGBTQ community, Gregory concludes with this thought:

"I don't care if the indulged majority who never had to question marriage or raising children or being secure in a job may feel the coin is frivolous. The coin isn't for them in the first place. It's an acknowledgment for those of us who repressed our true selves and felt oppressed. It is for gays who never lived to see rights and protections enshrined in law. It is for younger LGBTQ people to learn more about how far we've come and to gain a deeper sense of gay pride. For these reasons, the coin has value so much greater than any monetary designation. The coin represents both empowerment and normalization."

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According to Out Magazine, the couple was attempting to apply for financial aid to help pay for the costs of preschool when a government bureaucrat called them to discuss their eligibility.

"I understand that you are both fathers and understand that you both run a shared household, but there is always the one who is more dominant, who is more the mother," the government said, according to an interview on the Israel site Ynet (translated by Out Magazine). "I am just asking for a written statement in your hand which of you is the mother. From the point of view of the work, which works less than the father. Like a normal couple."

The official, apparently, said she was beholden to rules set for in the Ministry of Economy.

"It is mostly sad and a little disturbing," one of the dads told Ynet. "These are concepts that we consider the past. We do not necessarily come up with allegations against this representative, she is ultimately subject to the guidelines and as she said, they are the state. It is also sad that the state's definition of a mother is someone who works less and is at home with the children, and that we must choose which of us meets that definition."

The Ministry of Labor and Social Affairs, fortunately, issued an apology following the incident, and promised to update its protocols. "We will emphasize that the Ministry of Labor and Social Affairs practices explicitly treat all types of families and grant equal rights to all," the ministry wrote in a statement, an apology that was called "insufficient" by Ohad Hizki, the director-general of the National LGBT Task Force.

"The Ministry of Labor and Welfare must sharpen its procedures immediately to prevent recurrence of cases of this kind, as other public organizations have been able to do," he said.

Read more about this story on Out Magazine.

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