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Gay Dads Appear on Reboot of "Wife Swap"

The family-focused television show "Wife Swap" is back on television, only this time they're including some gay dads in the line up.

Photo credit: Drayton McJunkins

Wife Swap, a family -focused reality television show created with the premise that two completely opposite families - in every single way - swap their spouses for a week. The relocated spouse must live by the rules of the new house for a week before implementing their own rules the following week. It was hit show from 2004 to 2010, and now it's back. And this time, featuring gay dads!

Millennials, husbands, dads, and Influencers, Terrell and Jarius Joseph have two children, Aria and Ashton, through surrogacy. They live in Atlanta and are excited to be the first African-American gay couple swapping home life with a white hetero couple. We spoke with the dads to get their take on their upcoming episode (to be aired this Thursday, April 25, 9pm EST).


Gays With Kids: Tell us about your experience and emotions on being the first gay couple to appear on the show.

Terrell and Jarius: It truly is an honor to be the first gay couple on the show. We are and will always stand for inclusion for our community and making sure there is a representation for our voice. To be able to show the world what it's like being in a same-sex family and break negative stereotypes associated with it was truly rewarding. Our fight for equality is still underway, but it's an amazing feeling to actually be in the fight and be a part of history and future change.

GWK: What do you hope this episode brings for everyone outside of the LGBTQ Community?

T+J: We hope this episode allows everyone outside of our community to see that our family is rooted in love. We want people to know that our children are loved beyond measure, protected from harm, and are being taught to be kind and accepting of others who are different than them. While our family is non-traditional, we are a family nonetheless!

Photo credit: Drayton McJunkins

GWK: How did this experience affect your family after it was over?

T+J: This experience surprisingly affected us in a positive way. It let us know that we are doing the right things as a family.

GWK: Did this experience encourage you to understand the importance of learning other people's lifestyle outside of their own?

T+J: We strongly believe that we can learn something from everyone we come into contact with and this show was no different. We all have had different experiences in life that shape who we are as people today. With that said, life has provided each of us with a unique perspective on the world and we can all benefit from seeing life through different lenses. If we all embraced that, the world as we know it would be a more accepting and compassionate place.

GWK: How was it facing the contemporary hot-button issues such as politics, classism, gender, and race with the end goal of finding some type of common ground while being on Wife Swap?

T+J: It was tough to face some of the hot-button issues; especially sexual orientation. However, it was a conversation that was needed so we can show the world how it affects us as a community. We understand that growth is sometimes uncomfortable but it is necessary nonetheless. We took this opportunity with great pride because the world needs to see more families like us. Representation really does matter and we hope to inspire others to know that building their own families is possible and that the world is really changing in our favor!


Be sure to check out this week's episode on and follow these amazing dads breaking down barriers!

Check out this snippet of the upcoming show:

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'Do You Feel Like Being Gay is a Sin?' | Wife Swap Official Highlight www.youtube.com

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