While shopping for my son’s clothes it’s easy to feel blue. Blue sweat pants. Blue and white pajamas. Blue t-shirts. And, of course, blue jeans. Now, to be fair sometimes there are sometimes green shirts in the little boy’s department---but they usually have camouflage trim or dinosaurs on them.

Breaking away from the baby blues and dressing our kids in more fresh and fun colors was harder than I thought it would be. It is difficult to find basic, easy to wash kids clothes at a reasonable price.

For that reason, I was glad to discover Primary---a kid’s clothes company founded by two moms who had the same frustrations with kid’s clothes that I did. Primary is working hard to help us dress our kids in colorful clothes that aren’t overly gendered or gooped up with logos. 

Best of all: There’s no weird writing on any of the clothes at Primary---which is totally great since all the “I Love My Dad” and “Mom’s The Boss Here” onesies don’t really make sense for a baby with two proud papas.

I checked in with Primary to see if they had suggestions on how to dress kids for Pride celebrations. They shared some photos to show how to create beautiful rainbow outfits for your kids. I am kind of jealous---I wish they sold dad sizes too!


Now, not every day feels like a rainbow. Basic black is always appropriate for adults. But is hard to find black clothes in toddler sizes---especially if you don’t have a rock star budget. So if you’re not feeling the Roy G. Biv vibes, head over to primary to check out their neutrals from slate blue to olive.

But for now, enjoy our picks from Primary.com, just in time for your Pride celebrations:

For the Future President of the Pride Committee

A collection of 7 babysuits in primary colors (great gift for new babies too), $48:

For the Future Rocker

The hoodie in black, $18.

For Miss Sunshine

The baby dress in tangerine, $18:

For the Beach Bum Baby

The rash guard in grass green, $16:

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Pride celebrations are coming up! Do you have your family's outfits planned yet? If not, we've got you covered! Check out our picks for the best pride t-shirts for toddlers.

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Wedding season is officially here! To celebrate, we’re flipping through the wedding albums of some of our favorite famous gay dads.

Elton John and David Furnish

Cheyenne Jackson & Jason Landau

Broadway actor and singer Cheyenne Jackson and actor Jason Landau were married in 2014, and welcomed twins Willow and Ethan in 2016.

Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka

Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka celebrated their wedding under fireworks in Italy in 2014. Their twins were born in 2010.

Matt Bomer & Simon Halls

Matt Bomer managed to keep his marriage to Simon Halls secret for three whole years before finally starting to speak about it publicly in 2014. The two are dads to 12-year-old Kit and 9-year-old twins Henry and Walker.

Nate Berkus & Jeremiah Brent

Nate Berkus and Jeremiah Brent were the first same-sex couple married in the New York Public Library back in 2014. Their daughter Poppy was born in 2015.

Tom Ford & Richard Buckley

Fashion icon Tom Ford secretly married Vogue editor Richard Buckley in 2014. Their son was born in 2012.

Dan Savage & Terry Miller

Dan Savage and Terry Miller tied the knot in Seattle on the first day same-sex couples could marry after voters legalized marriage equality in Washington in 2012. Their son from open adoption is now 18-years-old.

Alec Mapa & Jamie Herbert

Alec Mapa and Jamie Herbert wed way back in 2008 in California in the brief window when same-sex marriage was legal before Proposition 8 overturned it. Alec and Jaime are dads to an adopted son, Zion.

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Not too long ago, companies wouldn't have dared feature same-sex parents in their advertising for fear of a backlash. But today, we seem to be taking over every commercial break! With Father's Day around the corner, we hope to see many more inclusive ads featuring dads of all types and varieties. In case companies are in need of some inspiration, we've rounded up some recent examples of commercials featuring gay dad families. Enjoy the roundup below, and then check out 12 television shows that also feature gay dad families!

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Like millions of other American families, my husband, our toddler son, and I are heading out on a trip for the long Memorial Day weekend. Unlike most other travelers, I'm suddenly thinking twice about our travel arrangements.

Do gay dads and our kids have to worry about being treated differently when we travel this summer?

We've seen two upsetting gay dad travel stories cross our Facebook feeds and gay news sites: Southwest didn't allow a gay dad family traveling with their kids and an 83 year old grandmother board together and United detained a gay dad for having his hands too close to his son's genitals.

Maybe my privilege is showing here, but I have to say that as a gay dad family in New York City, I don't often think about our family standing out or being exposed to problems like this. I'm spoiled. We are welcomed with kindness---and maybe even an extra nod of encouragement---wherever we go at home. As my childhood hero Mr. Rodgers would say, "the people that we meet when we're walking down the street each day" in our neighborhood show us tremendous support. In the brilliant year and a half my husband and I have been dads, I can only think of one time, at a bank, when we were treated differently---and the manager quickly addressed our concern.

For our first big-ish family trip this coming weekend, we are heading to a gay wedding in a small town in a red-leaning state. I expect that we'll be fine, but I did fall asleep last night thinking about what we might encounter on this trip or other summer travels. Could we get the stink eye from a hotel manager? Would a taxi driver decide not to pick us up because we're a gay dad family? Or maybe something worse.

I appreciate that the dads in both of these travel nightmares went public and shared their stories. I hope the extra attention and awareness helps the travel industry become more accommodating to our families and to all modern families. Gays With Kids is here for our families: to help us learn how to travel safely and to make sure our stories get attention when things don't go as they should.

Taking our baby on the road makes me feel vulnerable. We shouldn't have to worry about United, Southwest or any other travel company treating us or our kids differently because of who we are. We won't travel back in time to being treated like that anymore.

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Sunday is Mother's Day! For some, this holiday is a great opportunity to connect with the women who helped makes us dads. For others, it's not so simple. Whether or not you celebrate this Hallmark holiday, we've got your back this week. We're talking all things Mothers Day, the gay dad way:

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Recently, we asked our readers on Facebook a question: how did you decide which last name to give you children? While the question might have been simple, the answers were anything but. Here are some of the most common (and creative!) ways gay men have figured out the answer to the "name game" question:

#1) The Hyphen

By far the most common response was also the most simple: just stick a hyphen between both names and call it a day!

"We hyphenated our son's last name," said Adam. "And now that his adoption is finalized we are going to legally change our own last names to the hyphenated form as well so all three of us will have the same last name."

Steven and his partner hyphenated as well, but notes it can make for a long John Hancock: "[We] gave our son both of our last names," he said. "Its a long one but makes us a unique family: George Bonilla-Graham-Darby.

Bryan's solution to that particular conundrum? Let the kids figure it out when they're older. "[our kids] can keep or choose one [last name] if they would like when they are older."

#2) Concoct Something Entirely New

Several dads said they ditched both last names in favor of something entirely new. "I was Furness, husband was Moore," Cory wrote. "We became the Fernmoors. Our name change happened just before we adopted our son. Why should we feel we couldn't let go of our old name when our son had no choice but to do the same?"

#3) The Culture Club

Sæþór notes that the "name game" isn't one gay dads in all cultures must play. "In Iceland one doesn't change their name when marrying, gay or straight," he points out. "It is interesting living in a nation where last names change every generation, these things aren't as big a deal."

Others found creative ways to integrate their children's background into their names. "When my husband and I were married, we kept our last names," said Dwight. But they decided on something unique for their son. "We decided to use my last name, and to honor his culture and heritage (he is Chinese) we used the last part of his first name as our sons middle name."

#4) The Single Dad

Many readers pointed out the "name game" isn't a problem for the single dad. "I'm a single parent," said Talon. "So that was an easy one for me."

And what if they partner up in the future? That's a decision for a later date, says Joseph. "Since I am single, obviously [I kept] my last name," he wrote. "Now if I was in a relationship it would be an open communication decision that both parties can agree on."

#5) Leave it to Fate

David let the gender of the child decide the fate of the last name. "We kind of flipped a coin," he wrote. "[We] decided if we had a girl we'd use my mom's middle name and my husband's last name, and if we had a boy we'd use my husband's middle name and my last name."
And the award for the most practical solution to the "name game?" That would definitely go to Dan: "We decided based on what would look better on a soccer Jersey," he said.
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Tomorrow---Friday April 28th---is National Superhero Day! Not all of us can be Teen Wolf (that's probably a job best left to dad-to-be Colton Haynes!) and it may be harder than it looks to pull off a red cape. But we still believe there is something just a little bit super-human about all of us. Check out our roundup this week!

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