True Romantics: Daryl and Kevin with Landin

Daryl and Kevin’s story is a tale of two romantics. They were both looking for love when they found each other on Facebook in 2010. Kevin saw a photo of Daryl on a mutual friend's Facebook page and asked the friend to find out if Daryl was single. Daryl took one look at Kevin's Facebook profile and said he instinctively knew that Kevin was the man he was meant to be with. But Daryl and Kevin weren't the only part of that equation. Daryl had a 2-year-old son, Landin, from a previous straight relationship. For Kevin, who had always wanted to be a dad, this couldn't have been more perfect. Here's how the story goes.

Daryl became a dad when he was 19 years old and still confused about his sexuality. For years in was in a relationship with a woman; they got engaged, and she got pregnant. Their son Landin was born April 15, 2007. But when Landin was a little over a year old, Daryl decided to come out and be his authentic self. Daryl and his fiancé went their separate ways, but kept their relationship civil for the sake of their son.

When Daryl ventured out onto the dating scene, he had no illusions that it would be easy for a newly-out gay dad but his priority was to find a man who was family orientated and would love Landin like his own. Then he met 25-year-old Kevin.

Daryl (left) with Kevin and Landin

Daryl knew after only dating a few weeks that Kevin loved kids, so he decided to introduce him to Landin to see if he passed the daddy test, inviting Kevin to spend the night. Daryl remembers waking the next morning and finding Landin snuggled up to Kevin with his cereal and watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse with Kevin on his Blackberry. "This was the moment I knew that Kevin was the man that I would spend my life with, the moment I had found the man that would love my son unconditionally as his own and be there for us as a family," remembers Daryl.

Kevin, who was out to his friends in college, didn't come out to his family until he officially began dating Daryl. "I knew he was someone special," shared Kevin, "It wasn't fair of me to keep him hidden because I was not ashamed of what he and I had." Kevin has an Hispanic background with strong religious beliefs so he was anxious about his family’s reaction.

When Kevin told his family their initial reaction was shock, then denial, but they soon came around and welcomed Daryl and Landin into the family. "Landin was their first grandchild and they couldn't be more happy and proud of him," said Kevin proudly. “Landin calls [Kevin’s parents] Abuela and Abuelo [Grandma and Grandpa] and they would do anything for him. My parents also have a great relationship with Daryl."

Top to bottom: Kevin, Daryl and Landin

Today this family lives in Waterbury, Connecticut. Daryl, 28, was born in Connecticut and had moved around the state and also spent time in Florida before settling in Waterbury. Kevin, 31, was born in Puerto Rico and moved to Connecticut when he was 12 years old. Daryl is a veterinarian assistant, and a clinic lead for a pet health clinic, and Kevin is a sales manager for a telecommunications company.

Daryl and Kevin have been engaged for 3 years and have been forced to push their wedding date back twice. They want to make sure they’re financially ready for the rest of their lives before they have their dream wedding. Both dads are excited to involve Landin in it, possibly as their best man. But in their hearts and minds they’re already married.

They co-parent Landin with his mom; both dads say they’re very happy with how it works. Kevin feels that he is treated as an equal in the relationship and Daryl knows that as long as they all keep an open dialogue and listen to each other, they will do the best by Landin. "It was a long journey to get to where we are but we are finally at the point where the co-parenting is evolving more and more," acknowledged Daryl.

Sharing a tender moment

For Kevin and Daryl, family is the most important thing in the world. They want Landin to grow up respecting himself and others around him. Landin helps his two dads whom he calls “Daddy” and “Daddy Kevin” with cooking, laundry and other household chores, and he also works hard at school. And they couldn’t be prouder of their son.

Family montage

For some gay men, dating a man with kids can be difficult, but Kevin embraced his new family as they welcomed him. Kevin shares some excellent advice to other men dating gay dads.

“A dad's priority is and always should be his children which may turn some gay men down because they aren't getting all of the other person's attention. Be patient and open-minded. In my experience a gay dad is worth the effort because he know how to put someone else before himself. He isn’t playing games or wasting time. Take the journey! The ride may be bumpy at times but in the end the journey will be most rewarding. The gift of parenthood is the most challenging yet most rewarding experience of my life and I have Daryl and Landin to thank for that."

Kevin’s and Daryl’s words have occasionally been edited for clarity.

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Gay Dad Penguins Strike Again! This Time in Berlin Zoo

The latest male penguins to care for an egg together are Skipper and Ping in the Berlin Zoo.

First, there was Roy and Silo — the two male penguins in the Central Park Zoo that served as inspiration for the famous children's book And Tango Makes Three. Then Magin Sphen got together in Sydney, where aquarium keepers gave the cocks (Calm down, that's what a male penguin is called!) a foster egg to care for.

And now, please welcome Skipper and Ping in Berlin to the latest list of gay dad penguins! As soon as the two emperor penguins arrived at the city's zoo, they set about trying to start a family, said Berlin Zoo spokesman Maximilian Jaege to DPA news.

"They kept trying to hatch fish and stones," Jaeger said.

So the zookeepers loaned the penguins an egg from a female penguin, who is apparently uninterested in hatching eggs on her own, according to the BBC.

Unsurprisingly, the gay penguins are killing it as parents. "The two male penguins are acting like exemplary parents, taking turns to warm the egg," Jaeger said,

Read the whole article on DPA here.

Change the World

Hungarian Company Raising Money for LGBTQ+ Organization with a LEGO® Heart

Startup WE LOVE WHAT YOU BUILD is helping combat misinformation and prejudice in Central and Eastern Europe


WE LOVE WHAT YOU BUILD is an innovative startup venture that sells LEGO® parts and unique creations. The core values of our company include social equality regardless of gender identity or origin. As LEGO® is a variety of colors and shapes, so are the people.

We all know that LEGO® is a brand that nearly everyone knows and likes between the age of 3 and 99 so this gives a great opportunity to connect unique LEGO® creations and Pride. We started a fundraising campaign for a Hungarian LGBTQ+ organization who's aim is to bring people closer to the LGBTQ+ community, they help to combat misinformation and prejudice regarding LGBTQ+ issues in Central- Eastern Europe since 2000.

You might know that gender equality and the circumstances of LGBTQ+ people is not the easiest in the former communist Eastern European countries like Hungary so this program is in a real need for help. For example a couple of month ago a member of the government said that homosexual people are not equal part of our society.

The essence of the campaign is when one buys a Pride Heart, a custom creation made of brand new and genuine LEGO® bricks the organization gets $10.00 donation so they can continue their important work. This Pride Heart is a nice necklace, a decoration in your home, and a cool gift to the one you love.

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Single Gay Dad Featured on Season Three of GLOW

Actor Kevin Cahoon joins the Gorgeous Ladies of Wresting in Vegas as a single gay dad — and drag queen — on Season Three of the hit Netflix show

For a couple of years now, Hollywood has been obsessed with gay dad characters (and who can blame them?) But the latest show to get hip to a story line featuring gay man raising kids is Netflix's GLOW, which explores a female wresting troop in the late 1980s.

But GLOW is helping represent a gay character that rarely gets time in the limelight:the single gay dad. In Season three of the hit comedy — which stars Alison Brie, Betty Gilpin, and Marc Maron — actor Kevin Cahoon joins the case as Bobby Barnes, a single gay father who plays a female impersonator. (80s divas only, of course — Joan Collins and Babs among them)

"I've never done female impersonation," the openly gay actor told OutSmart Magazine, "so I tried to learn really quick. You will know them all; I was very familiar with all of them. There were plenty of talk shows and performances on YouTube to study. I learned that their breathing was very informative."

A single gay dad AND drag queen on television? It's about damn time if you ask us.

Read the full interview with Cahoon here.


Utah Court Rules Gay Couples Can't Be Excluded From Surrogacy Contracts

The Utah Supreme Court found in favor of a gay couple attempting to enter into a surrogacy contract.


Earlier this month, the Utah Supreme Court ruled that a same-sex couples can't be excluded from entering into enforceable surrogacy contracts, and sent a case concerning a gay male couple back to trial court to approve their petition for a surrogacy arrangement.

As reported in Gay City News, the case concerns Utah's 2005 law on surrogacy, which was enacted prior to the legalization of same-sex marriage in the state. As a result, the content of the law is gendered, saying that surrogacy contracts should only be enforceable if the "intended mother" is unable to bear a child. When a gay couple approached District Judge Jeffrey C. Wilcox to enter into a surrogacy arrangement, he denied them, arguing that the state's law only concerned opposite sex couples.

"This opinion is an important contribution to the growing body of cases adopting a broad construction of the precedent created by Obergefell v. Hodges and the Supreme Court's subsequent decision in Pavan v. Smith," according to GCN. "It's also worth noting that same-sex couples in Utah now enjoy a right denied them here in New York, where compensated gestational surrogacy contracts remain illegal for all couples."

Read the full article here.

Personal Essays by Gay Dads

Thoughts and Prayers Aren't Working:​ One Father's Plea for Gun Reform

One gay dad's plea to our leaders to enact sensible gun control

My articles on GaysWithKids aspire to be lighthearted, helpful and humorous. This one won't be any of those things. Because I'm feeling heavyhearted, helpless and sad. Last week I woke up to news of yet another mass shooting. This time at a family-friendly Garlic Festival in northern California. I don't know if it's because this one hit so close to home, or if it's because the headline included a picture of the innocent 6-year old who was among those killed, but I am overcome with emotion. But mostly I am angry. And I don't know what to do with my anger.

Then, just a few days later came two additional horrific mass shootings that stole the lives of at least 32 more innocent people, many of them children. And then there's the "everyday" gun violence that plagues American cities like Chicago, where guns injured another 46 people this past weekend alone… creating so much turmoil, a hospital had to briefly stop taking patients.

How does one verbalize the collective sadness felt around the world? One can't. And that's why I am asking everyone reading this article to commit to getting involved in some way, to help end this epidemic once and for all. Even though the solution is so obvious, we can't allow ourselves to become numb to mass shootings. Because becoming numb isn't going to save anyone.

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Gay Russian Dads Forced to Flee Moscow

Fearing the Russian government might take their adopted kids into custody because of their sexual orientation, Andrei Vaganov and Yevgeny Yerofeyev fled Moscow

A married couple in Russia, with two adopted children, were just forced the flee their home in Moscow for fear that the authorities would take their children away, according to German news site Deutsche Welle.

Trouble started last month after investigators in Russia opened a criminal inquiry into the proceedings that had allowed the gay couple, Andrei Vaganov and Yevgeny Yerofeyev, to legally adopt the two boys —adoption by LGBTQ people in Russia has typically not been recognized. The government became aware of the adoption proceedings after the gay couple brought their 12-year-old son to the hospital, who was complaining of a stomachache. The boy was fine, but after he mentioned offhand that he was adopted and lived with two fathers, the doctor called the police.

Andrei and Yevgeny granted an interview with Deutsche Welle after escaping Moscow, but on the advice of their lawyers have yet to disclose where they are currently located. Here is a quick recap of that conversation:

"In connection with the 'propaganda of non-traditional values,' the state representatives are accused of having neglected their duty of supervision," Andrei said, when asked to explain on what basis the Russian government might take his children into custody. "This means that lesbian couples could even have their biological children taken away because, through their lifestyle choices, they propagate "certain values."

Yevgeny also explained the events that led to the couple's harrowing escape "I was alone in Moscow at that time. A week after Andrei and the children had left the country, there was a knock on my door, but nobody called 'police, open up.' After half an hour the violent knocking stopped. My parents' home was searched. They were looking for the children and our Danish marriage certificate because we got married in Denmark in 2016. My friends then got me out of the country."

Read the full interview here.

Gay Dad Family Stories

This Couple is Using 'Wheel of Fortune' Winnings to Help Fund Their Adoption

Need to raise money for your adoption fund? Why not try your luck on Wheel of Fortune like these guys!

Doug and Nick Roberts connected three and a half years ago via a dating app, and on their first date, the two immediately felt a connection. Doug, a psychologist, and Nick, a neuroscientist, were married 18 months later. Today the couple live in the suburbs of Philadelphia, and they're ready to start their next exciting adventure together: fatherhood.

The husbands would like to have children, and Nick has always wanted to adopt. "We considered surrogacy, and may consider it in the future as we expand our family," said Doug, "but right now, it is cost-prohibitive. Adoption was easily the right choice for us as we begin to grow our family.

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