Gay Dad Life

Trials With Twins: Traveling Edition

We're starting a new series about the highs, the lows, and the downright hilarious moments parents find themselves in while raising twins. With the number of gay, bi, and trans dads raising twins on the rise, we're sure many in our community will be able to relate. First up! Ryan Sirois Heller and Chris Heller share their experience of flying, infant twins in tow.


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We travel often. In the 6.5 months since the twins birth, they've been on 5 round-trip flights with another coming in a few weeks. Chris and I have always been big travelers, so we had a great system for getting through the airport quickly and efficiently with little to no baggage. Alas, all that changes with kids - especially two. Nothing could have prepared us for traveling with two babies — and it's been a learning process every time.

The two experienced husband travelers are now two hustling dads seen shlepping through airports with the following items:
- 2 car seats
- 2 car seat bases
- 1 stroller
- 2 personal backpacks with laptops, etc.
- 1 baby bag stuffed to the max
- 4 stuffed animals on hand
- 2 jackets
- 2 blankets
- oh, and, 2 babies
All the above totaling an immeasurable weight that would make any Crossfit junkie blush.

So what we've learned about traveling with two babies can be said in one word: downsize. You generally don't need all the crap you think you'll need, so check in as much stuff possible at the ticket counter, or have one carry on suitcase to hold everything — including your personal items.

The worst moment by far is the security gate — teamwork is key here! I usually hold both babies and walk us through the metal detector while Chris puts everything on the conveyer, flips over both car seats (because apparently you have to do that), takes care of the stroller and does the dirty work. This may seem easy, but it's a science - especially when the twins are passed out.

We've had some crazy, albeit fun, experiences traveling with Connor and Olivia. There is nothing like the wide-eyed joy your kids get from seeing the world.

All that said, best of luck when you realize BOTH babies just had massive diarrhea and the flight is boarding!

Are you a dad of twins and have your own double trouble story? Share it with us and be featured! Email dads@gayswithkids.com.

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