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Top Moments From Famous Gay Dads in 2018!

From Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black becoming first time dads, to a gay dad contestant on the Great British Bakeoff, here were some of the top moments from famous gay dads in 2018!


#1. Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black Become Dads!

Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black became new dads this year via surrogacy, and made quite a splash in the process! We brought you numerous stories charting the famous gay dads and their path to parenthood. Earlier in the year, they announced their pregnancy via an Instagram post that went viral. Later in the year, they became Brand Ambassadors for Pampers and announced an upcoming documentary on surrogacy that will premier on the BBC in 2019.

#2. Lance Bass Opens Up About Forming His Family Through Surrogacy 

This year, we learned more about Lance Bass and his husband Michael Turchin's decision to form their family through surrogacy!

#3. Neil Patrick Harris & Family Reveal 2018 Costumes

Every year since the couple's twins were born in 2010, Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka has shared their Halloween costumes. From Alice in Wonderland in 2013, to Family Freak Show last year, they wow and surprise every year. Here was this year's pic, which was one of our top performers!

#4. Gay Dad and British Bakeoff Contestant Kneads His Way into Fans' Hearts

This year's season of Great British Bakeoff features Dan Beasley-Harling, a gay stay-at-home dad of two, as a contestant. Check out our post on his time on the show!

#5. Karamo Brown's Kids Dish on Their Famous Gay Dad

How strict is Queer Eye's Karamo Brown? What stresses him out the most? What has is been like to watch their father's sudden rise to fame? Who is their favorite fab five member, besides their dad? We found out the answers to these and more thanks to an interview with Jason and Christian Brown in Slate Magazine.

#6. Nate Berkus and Jeremiah Brent Welcome a Baby Boy!

On March 29, we learned that the interior decorators and stars of Nate & Jeremiah By Design, Nate Berkus and Jeremiah Brent, became family of four! Read more here.

#7. Fatherhood Gives 'Million Dollar Listing' Star New Lease on Life

Reality star Fredrick Eklund and his husband Derek Kaplan are loving being dads, and this year we brought you the Instagram pics to prove it. Check out our post here!

#8. And Lastly... Famous Gay Dads Blew Up the Gram This Year

From Tom Daley to Neil Patrick Harris, we brought you several round ups of Instagram posts featuring famous gay dads and their kids! Here's one of our top performers from 2018.

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Gay Single Dads Defend Andy Cohen's Right to Be on Grindr

After the Internet rushed to judge Andy Cohen for signing onto Grindr a couple of weeks after welcoming his newborn son home, fellow single gay dads rushed to his defense.

Last week, we wrote a post about reports that "What What Happens Live" host Andy Cohen had been "spotted" on gay dating app Grindr several weeks after welcoming a newborn into his home. This has some of his followers on social media all worked up"

"Get off Grindr and start being a dad," said one follower who appeared to think single parents must take a vow of celibacy the minute they start changing diapers. "You're sad, that kid has no chance," said another.

Well, suffice it to say that this judgment from people who are presumably not single gay dads of Andy Cohen certainly struck a nerve with our gay dad audience! We received well over 100 comments on this post on Facebook, the vast majority of them coming to Cohen's defense. We caught up with two fellow single gay dads to find out why the story struck a nerve.

"We don't have to live like monks!"

One of the most liked comments on our piece came from Owen Lonzar, who wrote the following:

"I have always been a good single father to my biological son who came to live with me when he was 7 years old. He is now 25 years old and we are very close. I used Grindr and dated while he lived with me. I never had anyone sleep over and he certainly never saw some man he didn't know hanging around my home. Single parents have to date responsibly and with sensitivity to their child but that doesn't mean they have to live like monks!"

We asked Cohen to elaborate a bit more on why the backlash against Cohen bothered him. He had the sense, he said, that much of the criticism against LGBTQ parents comes from gay men without children. "Gay men without kids have a lot to say," he said. "And all of it is ignorant, because they have no idea what it means to actually be a father." He said he was particularly disappointed in gay critics, given our shared history of discrimination. "You would think with all the prejudice we have faced that gay men would be less judgmental themselves," he said.

"Are we supposed to be celibate?"

Another commenter, Josue Sebastian Dones-Figueroa, who is a divorced father of five, questioned what Cohen's critics would prefer him do. "So what, parents are supposed to become celibate because they have kids?" he asked.

We followed up with Josue to ask him to elaborate a bit more: "The idea that just because he is a dad that he would need to stop being a man," he said, questioning why Cohen should have to put his life hold and stop dating, or having sex, just because he's now a father. "If the child is cared for loved and not neglected what is the problem? Life goes on right?"


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New Dad Andy Cohen Is Back on Grindr

Andy Cohen, who is single, has been criticized for being on the gay dating app Grindr just a couple weeks after welcoming a newborn into his home

A recent Page Six article claims the What What Happens Live host, Andy Cohen, was "spotted" on gay dating app Grindr several weeks after welcoming a newborn into his home. This has some of his followers on social media all worked up.

"Get off Grindr and start being a dad," said one follower who appeared to think single parents must take a vow of celibacy the minute they start changing diapers. "You're sad, that kid has no chance," said another.



Fortunately, others came to Cohen's defense. "You think once people have children they should just be celibate?" one person asked. "I support Andy and grindr!" said another. "We're all human bro!"


The only thing crazy to us about Andy Cohen being back on Grindr is that the app repeatedly kicks him off, thinking he's impersonating himself. So maybe better to try Scruff?



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The First Ever "Gay Dads Day" Was a Smashing Success!

On March 1st this year, gay dads around the world came together for a moment to celebrate, rather than defend, our families

On March 1, we celebrated the first ever "Gay Dads Day." Yes, it's a made up holiday. But if National Peanut Butter and Jelly Day is a thing, why can't this be?

Whether it be from conservatives passing "religious freedom" bills that make it legal for adoption agencies to discriminate against us, or the millions of microagressions we tolerate daily from other parents, teachers, doctors, neighbors and more--gay, bi and trans dads are often put in the position of having to defend our right to be dads. So, yes, the day may be made up. But it's clear our community appreciated the opportunity to come together to celebrate--rather than defend--our families for just a day.

Here's some of the photos shared with us via Instagram on the day, as well as dads telling us why they think having a Gay Dads Day is important.

We want to hear your thoughts! What do you think of Gay Dads Day? And how should we celebrate it in 2020? We'd love to hear from you - either via the comments section of this post or send us an email.

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This Gay Couple Was Inspired to Become Foster Dads Thanks to the Show "The Fosters"

Matthew and Brian say they used to feel like "unicorns" as gay foster dads. They're happy to see more LGBTQ couples take the plunge into the foster system.

Matthew Hamparian and his husband Brian Lawrence have been together for over 18 years and live in Columbus, Ohio. "We had talked about children for a long time," shared Matthew. They were inspired by the show "The Fosters," and watched it regularly as one of the staffers of the show was a friend of Brian's. In one of the episodes, Matthew remembers a conversation between a foster child and the biological child of his foster parents. The foster child asks if he was okay with the fact that he had to share his home with foster siblings. He responds that he is okay with it, because he and his family have enough of everything.

"It was very meaningful to us as we were both raised that when you got up the ladder, you threw the ladder back," explained Matthew.

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Terrell and Jarius need your help. Earlier this week they were made aware of an act of discrimination against a male transgender student at Johnson High School in Gainesville, Georgia

"Dex Frier was elected by the student body to run for prom king but is now facing backlash from the school's administration," shared the dads via their Instagram. "The school's Superintendent is forcing Dex to either run as prom queen or not run at all. This is very unjust and does NOT reflect the opinion of the parents nor the students."

Watch their video below:

Dex, 17, who came out identifying as male in his sophomore year, spoke with Gainsville Times about being nominated by the student body. "Frier said he kept his emotions in check while at school, but 'the moment I got home, I immediately started crying. I've never been shown so much support before,' Frier added."

He was later informed by school officials that his name had been withdrawn and he could only run in the prom queen ballot.

Sadly, there have been rival petitions started in support of Dex's nomination being withdrawn, and he's received backlash from those who believe he shouldn't be able to run.

Although Terrell and Jarius do not know Dex personally, they were made aware of what was happening through Jarius co-worker who is a parent at the school. "He's such a brave kid and is standing firm in his beliefs, and we should support him," said Jarius.

These dads are asking all of us to take a minute and sign this petition and share with friends and family, or anyone you think could help.

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Learn How These Dads Used Social Media to Find Their Surrogate

In the latest "Broadway Husbands" vlog, Bret and Stephen discuss the rather unconventional way in which they found their surrogate: through a Facebook group.

In this, the Broadway Husbands' sixth video, Bret Shuford and Stephen Hanna discuss the rather unprecedented process they went through to find their surrogate. The lucky couple also chat about winning an "Intended Parents" competition, which granted them the free services of a surrogacy agency who is now helping guide them (and their new surrogate!) on their journey.

In the first video below, get caught up to speed with the dads-to-be. Plus: there's bonus footage! Ever wondered about the financial side of their journey? In the second video, Bret and Stephen talk candidly about how they're managing to afford their dream of fatherhood.

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Internet Conflicted About Advice Given to Closeted Gay Dad in the Guardian

Ok fellow gay dads: if you were the advice columnist at the Guardian, what would you have said?

Recently, in a post titled "I met my girlfriend's parents – and realized I once slept with her father," a man wrote into the advice column at the Guardian with the following predicament:

"Five years ago, I went through a bi phase and used to sleep around with pretty much everyone that came along, including other men. This changed when I fell in love with my new partner, who is everything to me. I recently met her parents and halfway through lunch realised that I had slept with her father. I was going to propose, but when my partner and her mother were away, he told me to end it with his daughter. I'm obviously in love – shall I just ignore him, or tell my partner?"

Pamela Stephenson, the Guardian's columnist, responded as follows:

"I am not sure you could ever have a comfortable future with your new partner. To tell the truth would be to court disaster: a probable break-up, plus the risk of a permanent rift between father and daughter and father and wife. Hiding the truth would lead to toxic secret-keeping that could be equally destructive in the long run. If this whole family was as open-minded and sexually open as you, it might be possible for you to become part of it. However, the father – your former lover – has made it clear that you will not be welcome. Walk away now, and avoid the massive pain that would otherwise be inflicted on your partner, her family and yourself."

Not all commenters agreed with Stephenson's advice.

"Assuming your girlfriend knows that you were bi until falling in love with her and that you slept with everybody in your path [which she deserved to know up front anyway] then you can give HER the option what to do with this bond, rather than leaving the choice to her dad," said one commenter.

Another said, "Walking away without explaining why would be callous and also allow the father to escape the possible consequences of his actions."

It's worth noting that none of these commenters, nor the columnist, are or will ever be gay dads, whose perspective on this bizarre situation may be uniquely valuable. Many gay dads have become fathers while still in the closet. And even those who became dads after coming out can still sympathize with the detrimental impacts of the closet on our lives and those of our families.

So what say you, gay dads, about this man's predicament?

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