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Happy Gay Uncles Day! Hug the 'Guncle' in Your Life Today

Yes, Gay Uncles Day is a silly, made up holiday — but underneath all the smiling photos of gay men with their nieces and nephews is an important message.

It all started three years ago in August: the Internet lit up with the hashtag #GayUnclesDay, accompanied by countless adorable pictures of gay men beaming for the camera alongside their nieces and nephews. And just like that, another fake holiday was born.

But National Gay Uncles Day is not just another silly social media antic — beneath all the smiling pictures is a message that is at best aspirational — from gay men who dream of parenthood but haven't been able to make it happen for themselves —and at worst, for the many gay men not allowed in the lives of their siblings' children, a reminder of how far we have yet to go.

So yes, it's a silly, made up holiday — but one we're more than happy to support. So a very happy Gay Uncles Day to us all!



"We have a responsibility to give them exposure to people / cultures that are different from them" 

Shane and Taylor from Saint Paul, Minnesota are the proud gay uncles to six nieces and nephews

"Our nieces and nephews are from rural areas in central Wisconsin. We love that we are able to teach them about diversity, other cultures, religions, political points of view, and the world outside their tiny bubble. We have a responsibility to give them exposure to people/cultures that are different from them so that they grow to be well-rounded humans who understand that diversity is what makes the world such a beautiful place!"

Do Shane and Thomas see children in their own future?

"Absolutely! We are now doing our research and weighing the pros/cons of surrogacy vs adoptions. We are so excited to see where this next chapter will take us and we can't wait it to be dads!"

"Only the best guncles get promoted to dad"

Joey from Long Beach, California is the proud gay uncle to one nephew

"I think my favorite thing is helping to teach the little one. He's 4 and really inquisitive so sometimes he'll ask me about something about what certain animals look like, or if he can see a real race car, and I'll get to show him videos and pictures and see him light up as he discovers something new."

Does Joey see children in his own future?

"Absolutely! That wasn't always my answer. I think as I've gotten older I've gotten to appreciate the importance of marriage and family. Helping to take care of my great nephew made me realize, yeah, I could be a dad and it would be the ultimate joy of my life. Now, with dating, the most important thing I ask myself is could I see this man being dad to my future kids. I'm seeing a wonderful man now so stay tuned on that front. All I can say is only the best guncles get promoted to dad."

"I can't wait to be a daddy!"

Sven from Hamburg, Germany is the proud gay uncle to two nieces

"I love to play Barbie dolls with my nieces because I always have to be the blonde Ken with a six-pack! I imagine this is my twin! 😂"

Does Sven see children in his own future?

"Oh yes, I can't wait to be a daddy! I see myself with a house at the sea and my grandchildren will play at the beach around me."

"I love showing them that it's okay to be yourself"

Eric from San Diego, California is the proud gay uncle to three nieces and two nephews

"I love being a positive, uplifting influence to them. I love showing them that it's ok to be yourself."

Does Eric see children in his own future?

"I would love to have children of my own one day but I will not rush the process. Hopefully one day I'll be married with a couple children, traveling the world together. 😊"

"We'd love to have children in our future!"

Angelo and Kody from Raleigh, NC, are the proud gay uncles to one nephew

"We love having our nephew from California for two weeks over the summer and signing him up for various summer camps in the Raleigh area. This is our second year having him with us and we hope to continue this tradition for many years to come."

Do Angelo and Kody see children in their own future?

"Yes! We'd love to have children in the future—I think the debate between us right now is timing and whether to have one or two kids."

"Overflows my heart with love"

Miss Gina Tonic from Vancouver, BC, Canada is a proud gay uncle to one niece

"Watching my niece grow is pure magic. I love her tremendously and every second I spend with her overflows my heart with love. My husband (@chris.mak) and I love spoiling her too. 🥰"

Does Miss Gina Tonic see children in his own future?

"My husband and I are happy being guncles and aren't really thinking about kids of our own at this point; though we absolutely love kids!"

"Seeing what they like and don't like"

Kyle who lives in Chicago, Illinois is the proud gay uncle to two nephews

"My favorite thing about being a guncle (lol), would probably have to be putting different foods in front of them and seeing what they like and don't like. Also, paw patrol."

Does Kyle see children in his own future?

"I would say potentially yes, I'm pretty single at the moment so maybe in the future. I would love to adopt at some point. I'm only 29 so not until late 30's most likely though."

"We are excited to share our love of education, boating and travel with our own someday"

Anthony and Bill from Detroit, Michigan are the proud gay uncles to one niece and one nephew

"We have a unique perspective on life that we are able to share with them that is different than their parents. Being that they are still very young, we are looking forward to introducing them to community events and concerts."

Does Anthony and Bill see children in their own future?

"We do plan on having kids of our own and currently we have had one adoption consultation in order to start the process. We are excited to share our love of education, boating, and travel with a few of our own someday. For now though, we will enjoy being 'guncles' to two amazing little humans."

"Show them a positive role model"

David from Washington, D.C., is the proud gay uncle to two nieces and two nephews

"My favorite part about being a guncle is getting to be a part of my nieces' and nephews' lives and show them a positive role model. I love to spoil them all, each in their own special way, and make sure they know that they are loved no matter how far away I live from them.

Does David see children in his own future?

"I absolutely see myself having children in the future! One thing I love about coaching as a profession is getting to have a long lasting positive effect on their lives and the person they become. I don't know how many kids I will have, but I've had a lot of experience raising other people's children and I am ready to raise some of my own!"

"Showing them different types of love"

Rodney from Providence, Rhode Island, is the proud uncle to four nieces and nephew

"My favorite thing about being a guncle is showing them different types of love. On my darkest days my nieces and nephews are the brightest rays of sunshine ☀️. I love them so much."

Does Rodney see children in his own future?

"I see myself raising a big family. At least 2 children. And I will raise them to love each other and everyone else no matter what. We will recycle positive energy."

Erik from Toronto, Canada, is the proud gay uncle to one niece and one nephew

"My favorite thing about being an uncle is watching these two amazing young humans grow! It shocks me how fast time goes by, and how quickly the change, but seeing them smile, and sharing them love makes me a better person!"

Does Erik see children in his own future?

"I do see myself having children in the future, but I have always said that I will probably adopt a bit later in my life. I want to travel and live my dreams before settling completely down. I am not sure where I will settle down, and with whom yet, but I look forward to raising a couple children of my own and showing them what an amazing thing the human life can be!"

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