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"To Have and To Hold" Features Gay Dads Co-Parenting with Ex-Wife

To Have and To Hold: Charlotte, on Oprah's OWN channel, includes two gay dads and the challenges and opportunities that arise while co-parenting with one of the men's ex-wife

A modern family of two dads and a mom are featured in the latest reality television show, To Have or to Hold: Charlotte, showing on Oprah's OWN channel. And we can't wait to tune in!

To Have and To Hold: Charlotte follows the real challenges couples face, from financial stress, to issues with intimacy, to the ups and downs of parenthood. Dads Joshua Anglero and Peter Anthonii, and mom Juliana Gutierrez are raising their two kids together and are ready to share what life is like as a co-parenting family.


Joshua Anglero met Juliana Gutierrez in college, and after dating for six months, they were married. After awhile together as a married couple, they both decided it wasn't working out. "We discovered that we made better friends than we do husband and wife," said Joshua. But one week after deciding to divorce, they found out Juliana was pregnant. They welcome their first daughter Angelina a few months later, and a year after that, their youngest Rosie.

"We realized a year after that that the love we had for each other was just not the love that a man and a woman should have in a marriage," said Juliana. The two separated.

When Joshua first met Peter, he remembers instantly falling in love. "I can vividly remember how I felt the first time we met for dinner," recalled Joshua. "It felt like all my dreams came true. Peter was that perfect guy for me, not just because of his handsome smile and amazing swag, but I felt like we could relate to one another on a level that I couldn't imagine possible." Peter was ending a seven year relationship with a woman, however, he had no kids and Joshua had two.

Joshua and Peter

Photographs by Peter Taylor

Joshua and Peter have been together almost eight years, and together they co-parent their gorgeous girls with Juliana, their mom. They were approached by a friend about the show. "Well, they had no idea that this gay couple came with some baggage," said Joshua. "And three years later, here we are, given a special opportunity to share a story on how we manage co-parenting and how love isn't always rainbows and sunshine."

Joshua and Peter are very thankful for being part of the reality television series. "This show has helped my partner and I realize, even more so than before, how blessed and fortunate we are to have each other. It almost feels like you have this spot light with a mirror in-front of you, like your being reintroduced to who you REALLY are and how what we say or do can either make or break love," said Joshua.

And not only has it helped their relationships, the co-parenting family are proud to be representing and visible for the LGBTQ community. "The LGBTQ community faces too many adversities in today's political climate. People fear what they don't know or understand, so if we want to make a meaningful change, then we need more families from our community to be seen, heard and understood. We hope they see we are no different from most couples/ families. We have similar issues when it comes to relationships and parenting and even co parenting. We share similar values, principles and responsibilities just like any other family."

Introducing Joshua, Peter and Juliana

"Peter, Juliana and I are friends and with the same goal to put our kids first," said Joshua. "Our day-to-day activities consist of managing the schedule with Juliana, dropping and picking up the kids from school, family activities; all while filming a dope reality show." Of course there is a whole lot more to this story - coming out, the divorce between Joshua and Juliana, and is there going to be a #3 child? - but folks will have to tune in and watch it all unfold.

Watch "To Have or to Hold: Charlotte" on Saturdays 10/9c on Own.

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