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The 'Real Dads of Melbourne' are Engaged!

Gay dads Jarrad and Michael Duggan-Tierney, of the popular Instagram page @the_real_dads_of_melbourne, recently announced their engagement!


Shared via a post on January 22, Jarrad Duggan-Tierney said, "With great excitement we are proud to announce we are engaged to be married! After 17 years of waiting and feeling as if this moment would never happen โ€“ It happened tonight. I proudly got on one knee in front of our son and asked the love of my life Michael to take my hand in marriage."

Jarrad and Michael have been together for 17 years and became dads to son Reid in 2010 via surrogacy in India.

"Reid was surprised and excited when I open the door revealing one of his favorite things in the world - balloons," Jarrad told Gays With Kids. "When I bent down on one knee he screamed 'I knew you were going to do this as I've been dreaming about it.'"

The proposal was kept a secret from both Michael and Reid, which was tough for Jarrad as they have a "no secrets" policy in the house. But this was one he really had to keep to himself.

Jarrad told Gay Star News about the details of the proposal.

"It was a big surprise. I spent weeks planning with a friend to propose. He thought we were calling into a friend's to get a gift. Little did he know we had emptied a room of her home and had it filled with balloons and images of our 17 years together."

Same-sex marriage was only legalized in Australia at the very end of last year, and although Jarrad and Michael were never sure they'd be able to marry on their home soil, they never doubted their love for one another.

"Personally for us it wasn't just about the marriage, it was about equality for everyone. We are proud of our relationship, and have amazing support from all our friends and family so it will be a great celebration of our love."

With the couple's heads still spinning, they're going to first focus on the engagement party, and then enlist the help of a wedding planner for their big day. And rest assured, when it does come time to start planning, Reid will be playing a significant part on their big day. Congratulations to this fantastic family!

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Gay Dads Told One Must Identify as 'Mother' to Enroll in Daycare

The Israeli gay dads told one must identify as mother โ€” like a "normal couple" โ€” in order to receive financial assistance for daycare.

Israeli dads Guy Sadak Shoham and Chai Aviv Shoham were trying to enroll their two-year-old twins in daycare when they were told by a government official that one would need to identify as the "mother" in order to be cleared.

According to Out Magazine, the couple was attempting to apply for financial aid to help pay for the costs of preschool when a government bureaucrat called them to discuss their eligibility.

"I understand that you are both fathers and understand that you both run a shared household, but there is always the one who is more dominant, who is more the mother," the government said, according to an interview on the Israel site Ynet (translated by Out Magazine). "I am just asking for a written statement in your hand which of you is the mother. From the point of view of the work, which works less than the father. Like a normal couple."

The official, apparently, said she was beholden to rules set for in the Ministry of Economy.

"It is mostly sad and a little disturbing," one of the dads told Ynet. "These are concepts that we consider the past. We do not necessarily come up with allegations against this representative, she is ultimately subject to the guidelines and as she said, they are the state. It is also sad that the state's definition of a mother is someone who works less and is at home with the children, and that we must choose which of us meets that definition."

The Ministry of Labor and Social Affairs, fortunately, issued an apology following the incident, and promised to update its protocols. "We will emphasize that the Ministry of Labor and Social Affairs practices explicitly treat all types of families and grant equal rights to all," the ministry wrote in a statement, an apology that was called "insufficient" by Ohad Hizki, the director-general of the National LGBT Task Force.

"The Ministry of Labor and Welfare must sharpen its procedures immediately to prevent recurrence of cases of this kind, as other public organizations have been able to do," he said.

Read more about this story on Out Magazine.

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World's First Sperm Bank Opens for HIV Positive Donors

Sperm Positive, started by three non-profits in New Zealand, hopes to end stigma surrounding HIV and parenthood

"Our donors have so much to give," say the promotional materials of a new sperm bank. "But they can't give you HIV."

The new sperm bank, Sperm Positive, launched on World Aids Day this year by three non-profits as a way to fight stigma surrounding HIV and parenthood. For years, scientists have known that those living with an undetectable level of HIV in their blood thanks to antiretroviral treatments can't transmit the virus through sex or childbirth. Yet discrimination and stigma persists.

The sperm bank exists online only, but will connect donors and those seeking donations with fertility banks once a connection is made on their site. Sperm Positive was started by three New Zealand non-profits โ€” Body Positive, the New Zealand Aids Foundation and Positive Women Inc. โ€” who hope the project will help disseminate science-backed education and information about HIV and parenthood.

Already, three HIV positive men have signed up to serve as donors, including Damien Rule-Neal who spoke to the NZ Herald about his reasons for getting involved in the project. "I want people to know life doesn't stop after being diagnosed with HIV and that it is safe to have children if you're on treatment," he told the Herald. "I've experienced a lot of stigma living with HIV, both at work and in my personal life that has come from people being misinformed about the virus."

We applaud the effort all around! To read more about our own efforts to end the stigma surround HIV and parenthood, check out our recent round-up of family profiles, resources, and expert advice that celebrate the experience of gay dads living with HIV here.

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Adopting Dogs Improves Gay Couples' Relationships, Says Adorable Study

In what may be a "pre-curser to parenthood," 56% of gay and bi couples reported spending more time with their partners after adopting a dog.

As part of what may be the most adorable study you never knew you needed, pet-sitting website Rover.com found that gay and bi couples who adopt dogs reportedly boast stronger relationships as a result โ€” 56% of gay and bi couples said they spent more time with their partners after adopting a dog. More than half of participants also said that owning a dog can help prepare couples for children.

Interestingly, gay and bi couples were also more likely to prepare for potential difficulties in their arrangements โ€” 21% of gay and bi couples reported setting up a "pet-nup" agreement to determine custody of their new pup in case their relationship didn't last. Only 12% of straight couples, in contrast, did the same.

"You can outline the practicalities of what would happen in the event you split from your partner whether you have joint or sole custody," Rover.com dog behaviorist Louise Glazebrook told Australia's QN News. "It's a real tragedy to see breakups results in dogs needing to be re-homed.

There was, however, one clear downside to pet ownership mentioned in the study โ€” 17% of respondents said they have less sex now that they're sharing a bed with their pup.

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"Broadway Husbands" Stephen and Bret explain the exciting reasons they had to hit pause on their surrogacy journey โ€” but don't worry, they're back on track!

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These Gay Dads Lost Everything After Hurricane Dorian โ€” Except Hope

The couple, who live in "Hope Town" in the Bahamas, lost everything after suffering a direct hit from Hurricane Dorian this past summer.

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