Gay Dad Life

The Best Way to Celebrate Christmas

What an overwhelming response we received when we asked for Christmas photos! You sent us more happy family photos than ever before. We think these images of gay dad families in Christmas spirit will warm your souls and melt your hearts. It’s clear to us: The best way to celebrate Christmas (or any other holiday) is with your kids. To all of you who sent us photos, thank you!


Bud and Manuel celebrating Christmas with their children, 3-year-old Alvaro and Carmen, who’s almost 2. This family of four was created via surrogacy and live in Spain.

Rocco and Corey with their son 2-year-old Forge. This family was created through co-parenting and they live in Mamaroneck, New York. Watch their video here.

Rob and Zack with 8-month-old son Asher. This family was created through adoption and live in Washington, D.C.

Tom and Tod with their two kids, Eli, 8, and Anna, 9. This family of four was created through adoption and live in Michigan. Photo credit: Put a Smile in It.

Justin and Mo with their 11-month-old son Brady. This family of four was created through surrogacy and they live in Manhattan, New York.

Justin and Brian with their son Trenton, 9. This family was created through open adoption, and they live in San Pablo, California.

Ryan and Marcin with 18-month-old Liam. This family of four was created through adoption and they live in Houston, Texas. Read their story here.

Paul and Ewan with their daughter, 2 and half-year-old Jasmine. This family was created via surrogacy and they live in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Watch their family story here.

David with his two kids, Aaron, 12 and Julianna, 11. This family was created through a previous straight relationship, and they live in Desert Hot Springs, California. Read this family's story here.

Sæþór and Ágúst with 2-year-old Daníel Valur. This family of three was created through altruistic surrogacy, and they live in Reykjavík, Iceland. Watch their family story here.

Michael and Norm with their four kids, Caleb, 13, Jonah, 9, Zechariah, 7, and Levi, 5. This family was created through a previous straight relationship, and they live in Stockton, California. Watch their video here.

Robbie and Allen with their son Dylan. This family was created through surrogacy and they live in Los Angeles, California.

BJ and Frank with their 2-year-old son Milo. This family was created through surrogacy and they live in Toronto, Ontario, Canada.

Dale and Paul with 3-year-old Alysia. This family was created through adoption and live in New York City.

Chris and Paul are two proud godparents to their goddaughter Sienna, 4. They live near one another in Cambridgeshire, United Kingdom.

Rick and his partner Jonathan with Elizabeth, 4, Keith, 9, Calista, 4, and Savannah, 9. Rick created his family via surrogacy, and they live in Bayside, New York. Read Rick's story here.

John and Scott with their 3-year-old daughter Rachel (Rae). This family was created through foster-adopt and live in San Diego, California.

Brent and Doug with 21-month-old Sawyer. This family was created through adoption and they live in Atlanta, Georgia. Read their story here.

Frank and Norm with Luca, 3, and Nico, 1. This family was created via surrogacy and they live in London, Ontario, Canada.

#FlashbackPhoto of Craig with his four kids (and biological siblings) celebrating their first Christmas together with their dad under one roof. This family was created through adoption and live in Indianapolis, Indiana.

Joey and David with 3-year-old Caleb. This family was created through surrogacy and they live in California. Read their story here.

Matt and Ken with their twins, 5-year-old Nico and Kate. This family was created via surrogacy and they live in Seattle, Washington. Read their story here.

Erik and Douglas with 1-year-old Alli Mae. This family was created through adoption and live in New Orleans, Louisiana.

Jason and Eric with Luke, 5, and 3-month-old Sylvia. This family was created through adoption and they live in upstate New York.

Brian and Toby with 1-year-old Anna. This family was created via surrogacy and they live in Brooklyn, New York.

Brian and Corey with Brandon, 2 and Zoey, 2. This family of four was created through adoption and they live in Houston, Texas.

Jatin with his 20-month-old daughter Anjali celebrating Diwali, the Hindu festival of lights. This family was created through surrogacy and they live in New York City, New York. Read Jatin’s story here.

Chris and Eugene with their 7-year-old son Bridger. This family was created through adoption and they live in Salt Lake City, Utah. Read their story here.

Thiabult and Anthony with their 10-month-old son Charlie. This family was created via surrogacy (in the U.S.) and they live in Strasbourg, France.

Donnie and Chad with their sons Kiptyn 7, Kamrin 10, and Joey, 14. This family was created through previous straight relationships, and they live in Mandan, North Dakota. Read their story here.

Joey and Josh with their 6-month-old daughter Myles. This family was created through adoption, and they live in Atlanta, Georgia.

Jeffrey and Scott with their kids, Victoria, 20, Jacob, 3, and Carley, 4. This family was created through foster-adopt. They live in Scottsdale, Arizona.

Aaron and Josh with their twins, Irene and Hudson, almost 5. This family was created via surrogacy and they live in Ohio.

Michael and Anthony with their sons Blake, 9, and Braden, 6. This family is a blended family and they split their time between Los Gatos, California and Scottsdale, Arizona.

Jerry and Dana with their two daughters, Harper, 4, and Draper, 3. They created their family through foster-adopt and live in Manhattan, Kansas.

Trevor, Steve and their four kids live in San Dimas, California. The family was created through foster-adopt via Wednesday's Child.

Shane and Jorden with 7-year-old Sebastian. This family was created through adoption and live in San Diego, California. Read their story here.

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How Single Dads Are Celebrating Valentine's Day This Year

Valentine's Day is not just for lovers! We caught up with 8 single gay dads to see how they plan to celebrate Valentine's Day with this year.

Valentine's Day is not just for lovers; it's also a day to celebrate our loved ones. And that's exactly what these single dads are doing.

Within our community, GWK has a large group of admirable, active, and awesome (!) single dads and we want to honor them! On Valentine's Day, they and their kids celebrate their family unit in the sweetest possible ways. We asked the dads to share these moments with us, and, where possible, one of the most heartwarming things they've experienced with their kids on Valentine's Day to date.

Hear their stories below.

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This Valentine's Day, we spoke with 11 gay dad couples who've been together for almost a decade or longer to learn what's made their relationships last

You're the peanut butter to my jelly, the gin to my tonic, the strawberries to my cream, the Mr. to my Mr.!

Happy Valentine's Day folks! We're excited to celebrate this day of lurrrrvvve by featuring a few dads in our community who've been together for almost a decade or more! And they're ready to share their secrets to a successful relationship and parenting partnership.

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"Worth Every Blood, Sweat, and Tear": Congrats to Gay Dads on Recent Births and Adoptions!

Wishing all of these gay dads whose families expanded a lifetime of happiness! Congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!

Gay men go through a lot of ups and downs on the path to parenthood. It can be one of the most emotionally draining times in our lives. But as each of these families who are celebrating births and adoptions this month agree: it's worth every hardship.

Congrats to the dads whose families grew this month!

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News

What's it Like to Be a Child of the 'Gayby Boom'?

Tosca Langbert, who grew up with two dads, writes a piece for the Harvard Business Review about what it's like being among the first children of the "Gayby Boom" to come of age.

We've previously written about the pressure on LGBTQ parents to appear perfect, given that so many in the United States still feel out families shouldn't exist in the first place. And we know this pressure trickles down to our kids. But In an article for the Harvard Business Review titled 'The Gayby Boom Is Here to Stay," author Tosca Langbert eloquently writes, from her perspective, about the experience of beingone of the first children to come of age during an era when LGBTQ parenthood is far more commonplace. She and her two siblings, she notes, "were raised in a family that was an impossibility only decades ago."

In the article, Langbert said she knew from a young age that her family was different from those of most of her peers, who had one a father and a mother. But otherwise, she writes, she didn't feel like her family differed much. "Like any other parents, Dad sat in the carpool lane after school and taught us how to ride our bikes," she writes, "while Papa took us to the movies on the weekends and separated the whites from the colors."

Despite this mundanity, her family remained something to marvel at for much of her youth. When the family moved into a new neighborhood in 2006, it made the local newspaper, with a headline titled, "Gay Father Tests Tolerance in the Park Cities."

She and her siblings have spent much of their lives, she explained further, having to respond to the question: what's it like having two gay dads? For Langbert, there is only one correct response, which is: Amazing! "Any other response, even if simply accounting for a family's nuanced experience, might as well be an outright admission of failure on behalf of the entire LGBTQ community," she wrote.

Children of the 'Gayby Generation,' are also put in the position of having to come out on behalf of their parents, and "often with mixed results," she wrote. She gave the following anecdote as an example:

"My father was asked to step down from his leadership position in my brother's Boy Scout troop on account of his sexuality. Even though my siblings and I were only fourth graders at the time, we understood that our family was under strict scrutiny, and that even the slightest misstep could beget severe consequences for how competent our fathers were perceived as being. In the face of this pressure, the first generation of 'gaybies' recognized the importance of presenting their families as perfect; doing otherwise would only present ammunition to those already dubious about the rights of LGBTQ parents to raise children."

The entire article, which includes the perspectives of multiple now-grown kids that are part of the "Gayby generation," is well worth a read, which you can access here.


Politics

Utah Bill Would Allow Gay Men to Enter Surrogacy Contracts

Rep. Patrice Arent of Utah is sponsoring a bill that will remove a provision that currently prohibits gay men from entering into commercial surrogacy contracts in the state.

Though Utah is not one of the three states that currently prohibit commercial surrogacy contracts, the state's current policy does specifically exclude gay men from doing so. That may soon changed, however, thanks to a bill in the state's legislature that was unanimously voted out of a House Committee that would remove that restriction.

The bill, sponsored by Rep. Patrice Arent, D-Millcreek, a Democrat, was created in response to a ruling by the Utah Supreme Court this past August that found the ban on gay men unconstitutional.

Gay men have been excluded from legally entering surrogacy contracts due to a provision in the current law that requires medical evidence "that the intended mother is unable to bear a child or is unable to do so without unreasonable risk to her physical or mental health or to the unborn child," Rep. Arent told the Salt Lake Tribune — a requirement that clearly excludes gay male couples.

The state's original surrogacy law dates back to 2005, before same-sex marriage was legalized in the state, which accounts for the gendered language. Though the state's Supreme Court already ruled the provision unconstitutional, Rep Arent further told the Tribute that, "People do not look to Supreme Court opinions to figure out the law, they look to the code and the code should be constitutional."

Politics

Colorado Republicans Try and Fail to Outlaw LGBTQ Marriage and Adoption Rights

A bill introduced by four Republican state legislators in Colorado that would outlaw same-sex marriage and adoption rights was voted down.

The "Colorado Natural Marriage and Adoption Act," which would have outlawed gay marriage and adoption in the state of Colorado, was voted down in the state legislature this week. The bill was sponsored by Republican Rep. Stephen Humphrey and three of his conservative colleagues: Dave Williams, Shane Sandridge and Mark Baisley.

If enacted, the bill would have enforced "state law that marriage is between one man and one woman" and restrict "adoption of children by spouses in a marriage ... that consist of one man and one woman."

The bill, which had little chance of success, particularly in Colorado which has trended more progressive over the past several election cycles, was mostly symbolic, according to Sanridrge. "We all know this bill isn't gonna pass in this current left-wing environment," he told Colorado Public Radio. "It's to remind everyone, this is the ultimate way to conceive a child."

In a sign of how far we've come on the issue of LGBTQ marriage and parenting rights, most Republican legislators in the state did not endorse the bill.

Though the bill had little chance of passage, LGBTQ advocacy groups in the state are taking the threats seriously nonetheless. Daniel Ramos, director of the LGBTQ group One Colorado, told LGBTQ Nation that the bills were an attempt to return Colorado to its "hate status" of the 1990s, adding the aggressiveness of the measures were "a bit surprising."

Surrogacy for Gay Men

Dads Talk About Surrogacy Process in New Video for Northwest Surrogacy Center

The Northwest Surrogacy Center interviewed some of their gay dad clients for a video to celebrate their 25th anniversary of creating families through surrogacy!

Image: NWSC Clients

Last year, Northwest Surrogacy Center celebrated 25 years of helping parents realize their dreams. And they celebrated in style by inviting the families they've worked with over the past two and a half decades to join them!

At the party, they took the opportunity to film queer dads and dads-to-be, asking them a couple of questions: how did it feel holding your baby for the first time, and tell us about your relationship with your surrogate.

Watch the video below and get ready for the water works!

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