This Gay Couple Shows the Disparity In Paid Paternity Leave Policies for Dads

"Patience!" Terrell and Jarius both said, without hesitation, when asked what they've learned after becoming dads to twins via traditional surrogacy. "You learn a new level of patience when you have kids," added Terrell. "But also a new level of love."

The Atlanta-based dads said they were "super scared" to learn they were going to become dads — even though they'd prepared for it. "You can never prepare for that moment," said Terrell. "Reading that pregnancy test, was life changing."

As far as the couple's experience with paid paternity leave, they couldn't have been more different. At Jarius's job, he was offered a full year off — six months for each child — at 80% of his total salary. "It's not like that for everyone," he said. "I was very lucky."

"I was not," Jarius said, who was offered two weeks off — though he was lucky to get even that. "They had just implemented the policy like a couple month before," he said.

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"It's important for all dads to receive paternity leave," said Jarius. "They're part of the child's life, too. Just a few weeks is not adequate enough for such a big life change."

Terrell agreed, saying the time is "important to bond with your child," and also to make sure "your house isn't going to suffer from a financial standpoint."

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