Telling the World About His Gay Dads

I remember a few years ago, I was going through training for an anti-homophobia program for Planned Parenthood Toronto called Teens Educating and Confronting Homophobia.


To introduce herself in the very first session, one of my peers said, “I’m queer spawn!”

A few others and I were mystified, so she explained that it’s a self-identifying title for proud children of LGBT families.

As gay and lesbian families become more commonplace in North America and beyond, their children will face new challenges and experiences. As Evan Arnold-Gordon shows, they have new stories to tell.

Arnold-Gordon, a young journalism student, explores how feelings of love and an accepting environment can go hand-in-hand with feelings of shame and loneliness in the children of gay parents.

He tells the story of how he grew up in a family different from other children, how he would see and even take part in homophobic behavior as a child, and how he found comfort and allies in other children of gay parents. “It wasn’t skin color, or religion we all shared,” Arnold-Gordon writes in an op-ed piece for The Advocate. “It was our shared understanding that human beings should not be discriminated against because of who they love.”

Arnold-Gordon speaks of the blessings that can come with being part of a different family, and how he can be part of greater change. “They've said before that when they were first realizing who they truly were, raising a son or daughter was practically an unattainable dream. The older I get, and the more I think about that simple fact, the more I realize I wouldn’t trade my life for anyone’s in the world.”

+ Photo credit: Alan Fryer [CC-BY-SA-2.0 (https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons

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