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Dad Life | Personal Essays

Personal Essays | Gay, bi and trans dads from around the world share their stories and talk about their lives as fathers. Read these inspiring stories — and reach out to share your own journey with our community!

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Gay Dads Celebrate 14 Years Together

My Real-Life Leading Man

Honoring Pride Through Understanding My White Privilege

A Gay Dad Learns From his Father How Not to be a Dad

How the Shut Down Opened Me Up to Being a Better Dad

The Visits: A Gay Dad's First Encounters with his Future son

The 'Strange Dichotomy' of Dating as a Single Gay Dad

A Gay Chiropractor Explains Why He Came Out to His Patients

A Gay Dad Asks: Is Destroying an Embryo Similar to Abortion?

Coming Out to My Kids Was the Most Raw and Tender Moment

Getting Schooled by a 3rd Grader

A Painful Christmas Taught This Dad the Meaning of Home

How This Dad 'Redesigned' the Holidays After Coming Out of the Closet

A Newly Out Gay Dad Feels 'Demoted' After Divorce

A Dad Gives Thanks After Finally Saying These Words: "I'm Gay"

My Gay Shame Is Officially Cancelled

Growing a Thicker Skin

Navigating Race, Class and Sexuality as an Interracial Family

'TwoDadsU.K.' Bloggers Welcome Son!

We Gained a Son Through Foster Care — He Didn't Lose his Family

'NolaPapa' Launches YouTube Channel: Story of a Gay Dad

How These Gay Dads Prepared for Twins

Sick of the News? Turn Off the T.V. and Take Action, Says This Gay Dad

7 Things I Learned About Parenting While in Europe

Thoughts and Prayers Aren't Working: One Father's Plea for Gun Reform

The Golden Age of Vacationing With Kids

A "Village of Women" Helped These Gay Men Become Dads

A Gay Dad's Letter to His Sons Before Their First Day of Summer Camp

5 Reasons Why We Love Gays With Kids!

A Brief History of Gay Times

Things I've Learned in the Decade Since Celebrating My First Father's...

Serving Work-Life Balance Realness: How To Be a More Present Father

This Guy Refused to Wait for His Prince Charming Before Becoming a Dad

These Gay Dads Realized Their Dreams of Fatherhood by Refusing to...

Don't Fck With This Fg

This Gay Dad's Search for Reliable Surrogacy Info in Canada Led Him...

"Two Daddies" Are Fighting to Make the U.K.'s Surrogacy Laws Modern...

Do Other Gay Men Judge Us When We Have Kids?

This Gay Dad is Proof: Your Past Doesn't Have to Prevent You From...

What One Gay Dad Learned After Marching in a Pride Parade With His...

This Pride, Let's Get Political

Post Father's Day, One Gay Dad is Sick of All the Celebrating

How My Personal Pride As a Gay Man Has Evolved Since I Became a Dad

One Gay Dad's Personal Hell: A Trip to Disney with 10-Month Old Twins

The One Thing This Gay Dad Would Do Differently if He Had to Come Out...

On Being a Gay Father in a World Full of Chaos

This Gay Dad is Fighting the Example Set by His Abusive Father with...

When Your Therapist Is a Horse

Before Baby, After Baby: One Dad's Comparison

A Gay Dad, Suddenly Squeamish About Sex

How These 'Real Modern Dads' Plan to Celebrate Christmas This Year

Sh*t My Kids Say-Part II

Let Christmas Come Early This Year

How Do I Talk to My Son About Drugs and My Past?

How I Talk About Race With My Black Son

When the "Terrible Twos" Give Way to the "Threenager"

A Gay Dad Learns It's Ok to Skip Like a Sissy

As You Start Kindergarten… A Letter To My Boys

"Times Have Changed" for this Out Teacher

Coping With Your Kid's First Illness

How to Survive Your First Family Roadtrip

Challenges of Being a Single Gay Dad in Rural England

Why I Took My Three Year Old to Pride

A Gay Dad's Touching Tribute to his Father

Talking Terrorism With My Son

Finding Ella

Why This Gay Dad Felt Relief On His Son's College Graduation Day

My Daughter Talks A Lot

Finding Acceptance for My Gay Family in NYC’s Private Schools

A Gay Single Dad Says "Don't Wait"

Nice Daddy Is Going Away for a While

#GayDadStory: Aaron and Chuck in Their Own Words

In San Francisco, March Comes in Like a Crab, Goes Out Like a Lamb

Raising Grounded Kids in Crazy Manhattan

When Everybody Asks a Gay Dad, “So, You’re the Mom?”

Dads, There Will Be Mommy Questions

The Miracle of our Little Angels, and What Came After

American Horror Story: Getting Your Child to Take Medicine

A Gay Dad Talks About His Four Kids With Fetal Alcohol Spectrum...

What Kevin Fisher-Paulson Gave Up on Ash Wednesday

With my Husband’s Help, Becoming a Confident Gay Papa

The Mystery of the Dummy and the Adventure of the Fallen Tree

My Family’s Long Road to Accepting Their Gay Son

Could This be True? My Six-Year Pattern of Change

Like a Tattoo, my Middle Name is my True Self Revealed

Are Adoptive Parents Saviors?

Even Good Presidents and Good Kids Make Mistakes

Strawberry and Cream Cheese Crepes for Your Valentine

How a Gay Dad Unexpectedly Became a Hockey Dad

Truth and Courage Share a Sacred Space

Hoping to Become a Father, but Afraid to Have a Boy

Our Family Car Games: No Winners, No Losers

"If Obamacare Stops For my Son’s Expensive Medication, What am I to...

"Dad, why is my color different from my brother's?"

Almost Unprecedented: A President Without a Pet

What I Learned About Fatherhood From My Dad

Remembering Our Family History With Christmas Tree Ornaments

What Makes Our Christmas Merry?

How to Make Beautiful Christmas Garlands and Centerpieces

What Do We Do When Our Kids Say The World’s Not Fair?

Embrace Hugging

How to Care for a Premature Baby: Learning As We Go

One Dad's Message to Others Living with HIV: You Can Be a Parent, Too

Take a Leap and Help Get to Zero

Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner? – On Meeting President Obama

Make a Difference – Vote With Your Travel Dollars

Thanksgiving Dinner Dessert Recipes From Gay Dad Erik

A Security Blanket for Gay Dad Families

My Family is Special: the Magic and the Heartache

Our Baby's Latest Milestones

Helping Baby Transition to Toddler: Puff, the Magic Snack

The Year of Living Dangerously: Brexit and Trump

Another Gay Dad Reacts to the Election: Finding Strength to Lead by...

Gay Since the 1970s, Dad Dennis Has a Plan to Fight Back Against...

Fear and Hate Continue Past the Election and This Gay Dad Doesn't...

A Gay Dad's Message from the Heart to his Facebook Friends

A Gay Dad's Lesson From his Veteran Dad: Teach our Kids to be Brave

After the Election: Where Do We Go From Here?

How we Built a Perfect Nursery for our Baby

Explaining the Circus

Gay Dad Suffers From Election Stress Disorder

Life With a Newborn: Jordan and Robby

"Mom, Dad, I'm Gay"

The Nine Circles of Homework Hell

Our First #GayDadStory: Erik Alexander Shares How His Family Came to...

Gabe & Ellie: A Toddler's Love Story

Watch: BJ & Frankie Take Milo to Canada's Wonderland

My Favorite Father & Son Movies

Raising a Straight Boy

The Real Streets of San Francisco

Lotions and Potions: Bedtime Edition

But, Who Are Her Female Role Models?

The Magic of Finding Family

Watch: National Coming Out Day and Locker Room Talk

Remembering Duke, Our First Born

Written in the Fortune Cookie of Life for Another Year

23 and Moi; Within Spitting Distance of Family

This Stay-at-Home Dad Wants to Go Back to Work, But Feels Guilty...

Fun and Spooky Bookies for Your Pookies

White Gay Dad, Black Son

Is Divorce Funny?

Yo Yo Ho: He’s Me Lawful Wedded Mate

When The Alt-Right Attacks

You Mean I'm Supposed to Play With Him Too?

A Letter to my Son

Thirty Years in New York City

Let’s Sing About Our Cities Instead

Gay Divorce 101: How to do it Right

Why I Feel the Need to Come Out, Again and Again

Back-to-School Time is All About Hope

Blame It On Rio

MommyDaddy, Like a Drag Queen at a Bridal Shower

Felix Meets His Guncles

A Gay Dad Reminisces About Back-to-School Season

The Wild West of Sperm Bank Regulation

Gay Dad Shares Tips for Back-to-School Success

Boys Don't Play With Dolls

Fantastic Photos: Felix and His Family

Dump Trump: A Moral Imperative

Dear Gabe, Let Me Tell You About Your Papa

Love, Lust and Suicide: Making a Life in my Twenties

How to Talk to Your Kids About Scary News Events

My Kids Don’t Eat Sushi – And I’m Okay With That

A Letter to Birdie, on Her Second Birthday

Solidarity

Raising Kids After Orlando

The Importance of Visibility

Watch: Gay Dad Mike's Amazing New Life

Mixed Emotions About my Mixed-Race Family

Catfish Out of Water

From Obese Dad to Fit Dad: My Kids Motivated Me to Turn My Life Around

Where is Our Kids' Choice in Toys?

Butt Out

A Gay Dad Family Spends a Morning With Justin Trudeau, the Canadian...

Gay Dads and Team Sports: Can’t We Just Get Along?

Why It's Important to be Around Families That Look Like Yours

Lonely Nights

The Unpredictability of Shoelaces: Raising Kids with Mental Illnesses

Dear Frank: How Do I Talk to Guys?

My Son, My Friend

How a Song, a Dance and a Boa Changed My Life

Notification Nation

A Gay Dad’s Cheat Sheet to Your First Baby Registry

The 7 Worst Types of Parents You'll Meet During Playdates

Fish Out of Water

Michael and Richard: Gym Daddies

Father Knows Best

In the Weeds

Being a Public Family

Developmental Delay Without Diagnosis

The Measure of a Man

This is the Part Where we Gush About Gabe

The M-Word

Confessions of a Latter-Day Frozen Fan

To PrEP or Not to PrEP

Great News From Blogger Jason P

Gay Dads Experiencing Southern Hospitality

The Kid is All Right!

Pilot Light Fright

Lives Matter

Home for the Holigays

Little Bird, Big Feelings

Finding My Own Father Figure

F**k Santa Claus

Are Gay Dads Able to Keep The Sex Going?

Nigella, Ina and Lucinda: The Women Helping Me Raise Two Boys

In My Humble Opinion, You’re an Idiot

He Will Always Be There For Me

Three Minutes on the Porch

Are Curious George and the Man With The Yellow Hat a Gay Dad Family?

My Princess Daughter

Death by Christmas

’Tis the Season . . . For Stuff

Cherish the Most Wonderful Time of the Year!

Kids are Expensive!

Double Agent Me

HIV and Gay Dads

A Dad Shares His Family's Experience With Donor Milk

Lake Tahoe: Whizzing Through A Winter Wonderland

10 Things Everyone Should Do After a Breakup

The Dad Fund

The Boy From Berlin

In Fairy Tales, a Gay Man Finds Acceptance and Love

Hello From the Other Side

Creature of the Night

Better Half the Movie

The Coup

Before Signing the Paperwork, the Birth Mother Disappeared

Is Gay Dad Frank Emanuele Ready For Son No. 2?

The Sun Went Down: Love Won

On the Edge of Tomorrow

Enjoying Halloween Through the Eyes of a Child

Navigating Loss and Love

News From Down Under: Gay Dads, Single Mums

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, And Gay Men Are From Pluto

Just When We Thought We Were Having a Girl

Panic! at the Household

Having a Baby via Surrogacy: What to Do and What to Avoid

Thank You For Your (Hateful) Message

Two Dads, One Super Kid

The Waiting Game

How Our Family Fits in at Public School — a Progress Report

My Big Gay Time Machine

“Let’s Go on a Vacation!”

Goodnight, Stegosaurus, Goodnight

Finding a Gay Dad Family in Yellowstone National Park

We Are Family

Becoming Papa

Now Married with Children

Keeping it Gay

Nothing Compares to You

Paths to Gay Fatherhood: Conclusion

Paths to Gay Fatherhood: The Trans Dad

Paths to Gay Fatherhood: The Known Donor Dad

Paths to Gay Fatherhood: Introduction

Rehoboth Beach: Come One, Come All!

Anthony Romeo: Learning From What My Mom Did

How Much Stuff Does a Newborn Really Need?

Nashville: "Adventures by Disney" Takes on Country Music’s Capital

SCOTUS and Me

Say Good-bye to Picky Eaters

The Long, Long March to Freedom

A Gay Dad Reflects On The First Year

Hoping For The End of Gay Family Travel

What Nobody Told Me: The Most Important Thing About Fatherhood

3 Things You Should Know About Rainbow Family Travel

My First Gay Pride

How Do Gay Dads Celebrate Father’s Day?

Happy Father’s Day, Norm!

Milo: One Year Later

Meet Our Newest Blogger: Gay Dad Pioneer Jim Joseph

The Future of Gay Fatherhood

The 6 Things We Talk About on Date Night

Creating a Better World Through Mistakes

Using the Words “Gay,” “Breastfeeding" and "Catholic" in One Sentence

100 Things I Love About My Son

How This Gay Dad Celebrated Mother’s Day: 75 Presents for 75 Mothers

A Straight Mom’s Mother’s Day Ideas for Gay Dads

Changing The Way We Think About Mother’s Day

Motherless Day

Canada Is Nice

April is the Cruellest Month: The Approach of Mother’s Day

10 Questions and Answers About the Same-Sex Marriage Case

Dads, Daughters, and Menstruation

What Makes a Family?

Stay-at-home dad + Stay-at-home business = Happy Family

Indiana Wants Me, But I Can’t Go Back There

My Kid and the iPad

One Interfaith Couple’s Old and New Traditions

Job For Gay Dads: Help End Sexism For Our Daughters

Charts, Chores and Ka-Ching!

Seeds of Greatness: A Trip to Longwood Gardens, Philadelphia

How to Deal With an Unaccepting Family

A Self-Proclaimed Nerdy Gay Dad Coaches Basketball

Homophobic Parents in Our Son’s Preschool

A Shout-Out to the Supportive Grannies & Grandpas, Particularly Mine

On Fathers and Foreskins

When A Stranger Asks Questions About My Daughter’s Racial Background

One World (Not Three)

Getting Muddy With My Little Buddy

A Papa’s Struggle With His Post-Baby Body

Dogs With Kids

Miscarried Adoption Dreams

Confessions of a Gay Dad: I Lost My Cool

Globetrotting Couple Find a New Adventure in Fatherhood

A Young Son Makes his Gay Dad Realize a Shortcoming

Gay Dads, Sons and Organized Sports: Pride and Prejudice

One Family, Two Dads, Three Languages

11 Reasons My Florida Gay Marriage Was Better Than Your Traditional...

5-Year-Old Forces Gay Dad to Play With Trucks

Picture-Perfect Christmas Chaos

The Dads, the Birth Mother and the Naming of Jacob

Saying Good-Bye to the Baby Years

When the Reality of ADHD, Homophobia and Racism Sinks in

The Best Day of our Lives

Gay Dads, Children and Holiday Traditions

A Gay Dad Blessed With Mommy Amnesia

For Our Kids: Remembering Those Who Passed Away

Family Planning: The More the Merrier or One and Done?

The True North, Strong and Free!

What Do You Do With All The Mommies?

Mommified

This is how we do it

How Do You Battle Bullying?

Thanksgiving Holiday Attire

My Sisters-in-Law Gave us an Egg and a Baby!

Your Kids are so Lucky to Have Such Wonderful Parents

The Importance of Being Present

Hippie Hal: The Three-Peat Known Sperm Donor, Part II

Lessons for Gay Dads from TV Moms

Once Upon a Time ... — A "How You Came to Us" Story

Raising a Warrior Princess

The Greatest Gift Ever

Remembering Our First Moments

“Why you gotta be so serious? Oh right, because we’re having a child!”

Innocent Heart Murmurs in Children

The Gayby Dads Story

"Who is my Mommy?"

Generation Spoiled

My Favorite Way to Start the Day

Reality Check

Defining Our Families

#DadFails: Errors on the Way to Fatherhood

Who's the Real Father?

Keeping Busy, Part II

[INSERT BABY HERE]

Co-Parenting: Our Daughter's Perspective

GO FAKE YOURSELF!

The Greatest Gift of Fatherhood

Fighting the Good Fight in Tupelo, Mississippi

Friday Night Lights

Music Class

How IKEA Turned a Boy Into a Man, And a Sap Out of Two Dads

Bringing Up Baby

Carpe Diem -- Seize the Day

The Reality of Raising African-American Boys in America

Nudity – the Long and the Short of it

The Universe Responds

Finally! The Dad Diaper Party

Finding Normal

Being Dad and Daddy in a Mommy World

On Adoption Day, Another Baby on the Way

"Dad, Can You Explain Where my Mom is?"

Gay with Kids: the Gayest I've Ever Been

Concerns of a Gay Dad

How do you spell 'sex'? The answer may surprise you!

Re-thinking the Gay Father Name Game

A Gay Family Goes Glamping

Traveling with children

"Daddy, am I gay?"

“That’s So Gay!”

The Journey To Foster Care: Are You Ready #2

Dance Like No One Is Watching

Father’s Day is upon us: reflections on fatherhood

Celebrating June!

Baby and the Farm: It’s No Place for a Germaphobe

Family Spotlight: Alex & David

The Decision

Donor's Day

"Dad, what do I call Jason?"

5 Tips to Survive Your Newborn

How to Raise A Natural Athlete

Summer Rules!

The Known Sperm Donor

Parenting a Child with ADHD

Parenting Class 101

Ring Out the Wedding Bells in Pennsylvania!

Front to Back, Front to Back!

Where do Babies Come From? Oshawa, Apparently

(Grand)Mother's Day

Dads Change Diapers Too

Thoughts on Mother's Day

A Surrogacy Journey in India

Of Mother’s Days & Father’s Days and how one international family...

Redefining Crazy

Does That Toddler Have A Mute Button?!

The Super-Friendly Skies

Disney Magic: It's a Small World After All

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Give Peas a Chance

Filing Single. When You Have a Husband... and Kids…

Best Cries Ever!

It Takes a Village to Make a Child

"All You Need Is A Suitcase Or A Drawer"

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