Single Dad Mo talks about his experience

Single Gay Dad Says People Assume He's the "Guncle"

Tech marketing professional Mo Derakhshanian always knew he wanted to be a dad. He had casually talked about it with his friends, but it wasn’t until his 39th birthday that he decided he wanted to make it happen as a single parent.

Single Gay Dad Mo

“It was December 2019, and I was sitting on a beach in Maui on my 39th birthday, when I came to the realization that it was time to become a solo dad,” he said. “And I wanted to do it by the time I was 40.”

Single gay dad mo with daughter

Mo’s life-changing decision was made pre-COVID. However, he said the pandemic really helped confirm that it was the right choice for him. As a single man, he decided surrogacy would be the most straightforward path for him to fulfill his dream of becoming a father.

“Throughout my surrogacy journey, everything started to line up,” Mo explained. “I was matched with my amazing surrogate in 6 weeks rather than the four-to-six month wait the agency had estimated. And the stars just lined up for the rest of the journey too.”

In mid-September 2021, Mo’s beautiful daughter Zara came into the world. He said many people questioned his ability to be a single father, but he knew it was the right decision for him.

Mo with his 1-month old baby

Mo is now getting used to life with his one-month-old baby girl in San Francisco, and although he is still fairly new to the whole world of parenting, he is slowly getting the hang of it.

Even in a gay-affirming city like SF, Mo said he still encounters people who are surprised to see a single gay dad.

“Everyone assumes that my women friends are the parents,” he explained, “and I am the guncle.”


For other single gay men considering the idea of becoming a solo parent, Mo said definitely consider taking the plunge.

“Do it!” he smiled. “It’s scary, and it’s never the right time. Be prepared for the journey of a lifetime pre-birth, and then the immense love you have once your baby is here.”

Posted by Brit Smith

Brit Smith is a Staff Writer & Associate Editor at GWK. A native of London, England, Brit started her American adventure nannying and waiting tables in Texas in 2006, and eventually graduated magna cum laude from the University of California, Berkeley in 2017. Brit has previously written and created podcasts for WBZ NewsRadio, iHeart Media, and Different Leaf.

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