Tech marketing professional Mo Derakhshanian always knew he wanted to be a dad. He had casually talked about it with his friends, but it wasn’t until his 39th birthday that he decided he wanted to make it happen as a single parent.
“It was December 2019, and I was sitting on a beach in Maui on my 39th birthday, when I came to the realization that it was time to become a solo dad,” he said. “And I wanted to do it by the time I was 40.”
Mo’s life-changing decision was made pre-COVID. However, he said the pandemic really helped confirm that it was the right choice for him. As a single man, he decided surrogacy would be the most straightforward path for him to fulfill his dream of becoming a father.
“Throughout my surrogacy journey, everything started to line up,” Mo explained. “I was matched with my amazing surrogate in 6 weeks rather than the four-to-six month wait the agency had estimated. And the stars just lined up for the rest of the journey too.”
In mid-September 2021, Mo’s beautiful daughter Zara came into the world. He said many people questioned his ability to be a single father, but he knew it was the right decision for him.
Mo is now getting used to life with his one-month-old baby girl in San Francisco, and although he is still fairly new to the whole world of parenting, he is slowly getting the hang of it.
Even in a gay-affirming city like SF, Mo said he still encounters people who are surprised to see a single gay dad.
“Everyone assumes that my women friends are the parents,” he explained, “and I am the guncle.”
For other single gay men considering the idea of becoming a solo parent, Mo said definitely consider taking the plunge.
“Do it!” he smiled. “It’s scary, and it’s never the right time. Be prepared for the journey of a lifetime pre-birth, and then the immense love you have once your baby is here.”