S3E10: Dads, Let's Talk About Sex! with Dr. Evan Goldstein

You may know him as New York City's "Butt Doctor," or maybe as the gay dad who recently appeared in a Postmates commercial talking about the woes of being a bottom. But performing and discussing anal surgery is just one of the ways elite proctologist Dr. Evan Goldstein helps queer men maintain their sexual health and lead happier sex lives.

"First off, I think the best tops in the world have taken it up the a** themselves," Dr. Goldstein said on this week's episode of GWK.

As a gay dad-of-two and the founder of Bespoke Surgical in NYC, Dr. Goldstein has a lot of solid sexual advice for other gay dads, whether single or partnered. Especially those who are bottoms.

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"We need to look within and understand why we don't either enjoy anal sex, or [why] is anal sex painful," he added. "When you start to dive deeper, you realize they're often tops because their first experience was terrible."

 

On "S3E10; Dads, Let's Talk About Sex!" Dr. Goldstein and GWK host David Dodge discuss everything gay men wish we had been taught in sex ed., like the best way to douche after anal sex to maintain a healthy microbiome, and how tops can be more considerate to bottoms.

"What about if you're mentally more of a bottom, but you can't bottom because it's painful?" Dr. Goldstein said.

"We talk about that. I do a lot of work [surgical and non-surgical,] like with Botox to help relax. There are some people who can take an average size penis, but they want bigger. Or their partner is bigger, or they want to get into fisting, or bigger toys, and they can't."

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Dr. Goldstein also explains what gay men should know about the Monkeypox virus, how its spreads, and what the health risks are for those who might contract it.

"It's not necessarily the sex side of things, it's a lot of the circuit parties too," he said. "[You] take your shirt off and start dancing and the person who's walking past you rubs you without even knowing it, and then; boom."

Dr. Goldstein also talks about proper anal lube use, how gay men can talk to straight doctors about testing them fully for STI's, and how anal health is easily overlooked by medical professionals who don't specialize in the gay community.

"[You may have] extra skin or hemorrhoids that may not be bothering you. But during sex, it creates a nidus for infection," Dr. Goldstein explained on GWK. "The ass itself, sometimes all this stuff creates friction... you now can get irritated and inflammation... A lot of what I see [is] over-douching, douching with water instead of something more appropriate... all of these things nobody really thought about."

Hear the full episode of GWK with Dr. Evan Goldstein below, on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get podcasts.

 

Posted by Brit Smith

Brit Smith is a Staff Writer & Associate Editor at GWK. A native of London, England, Brit started her American adventure nannying and waiting tables in Texas in 2006, and eventually graduated magna cum laude from the University of California, Berkeley in 2017. Brit has previously written and created podcasts for WBZ NewsRadio, iHeart Media, and Different Leaf.



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