Gay Dads Experiencing Southern Hospitality

When people ask us for our favorite places to return to, we’re pretty quick with our answers: Cabo San Lucas in Mexico, Disneyland, Georgia and Florida … Georgia and Florida? Like, the South? Yes, it’s true. On our own blog, we’ve written about how the South is changing and how it’s worth giving it a second chance, and we hold to that. What is it about family travel in the South that these gay dads keep going back for? We’ll tell you: history, warmth and exposure.


A little history – The South is some old country. We live on the West Coast of the USA, so don’t have many old buildings or cool, historical forts to visit. We get those things when we hit up the Southeast. 

And if you don’t know much about United States history, here’s a quick snippet about the area: from colonization until the Civil War in the 1860s there was slavery. It was intense, it was awful and it was everywhere, but mostly in the South in the Confederacy. Fast forward to the 50s and 60s when the Civil Rights Movement took hold and the world opened up for non-white folks all over. Things have gotten progressively better, but there are still loads of issues and tons of folks who still hold onto racial tensions strongly. 

Chris and their youngest son at Stone Mountain Park in Atlanta, Georgia

Story: We went to Stone Mountain Park outside of Atlanta. It was a beautiful day to snap some family travel photos at sunset looking out at the Atlanta skyline. It was also a great day for Confederate sympathizers to hold a protest against the placement of a Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. monument on the mountain. While we only caught the end of the protest, it was a reminder of where we were and that this same group has strong animosity towards families like ours and that they’ve taken violent action in the past towards members of the LGBT community.

Do you know what else is in the South? A lot of churches. A lot. The nickname for the region is the Bible Belt. This is both good and bad. It’s wonderful because you have very strong communities who really make southern hospitality shine as bright as can be. It’s bad because many, many, many of these communities remain set in their exceptionally conservative ways. What does this mean for us as a gay family traveling through these communities? It actually doesn’t mean too much. I know, you were expecting something dramatic, but it’s not really. Sure, we definitely get the standard looks that any gay dads are (sadly) used to and we get the long pauses before people ask us questions or start to say something family-oriented, but we’ve not experienced much that’s outright awful.

Chris and his son running into the surf at Jacksonville Beach

Story: Chris was pushing our youngest in the stroller trying to get him to sleep while were having a day at Jacksonville Beach, Florida. There was a man holding a sign up to him telling him to repent of his sins. The end. Nothing more happened, but it was awkward and reminded us that even the beach is in the South. You’ll experience that odd interaction in any city no matter who you are. It wasn’t just because we were the only gays with kids at the beach, but it again reminded us that we were in the South.

Warm water … and people – We mentioned before that the strong sense of community in the South is behind the well known southern hospitality, but that hospitality goes beyond that. We’ve stayed in several hotels in the South. Recently we stayed at the Casa Marina Hotel in Jacksonville Beach and were welcomed without question. The staff in the hotel and the different restaurants we dined at were all super friendly and treated us like normal customers. It was great not to have awkward questions about “Where’s their mom?” or “So, who’s the father?” during dinner. Yeah, that sometimes happens at really inappropriate times from servers in restaurants … but not when we were in Florida!

Rob on Jacksonville Beach, Florida, with his eldest

Story: The one awkward moment of being gays with kids in a restaurant actually came from some other guests, and it wasn’t even to our face. Our oldest and I simply said hello as we passed a group of ladies and then sat back down at our table. Immediately I heard one say to another, “My sister is a lesbian now. I don’t know when that happened …” And then there was me SMH (“shakin’ my head”). I’m sure that’s the perception of many around the globe regarding the LGBT community, but when it’s said with a Southern accent, it’s, well, it is what it is.

Rob and his youngest son playing with Spanish moss at Fort Frederica National Monument, St. Simons Island, Georgia

We did have completely ideal interactions with every guest service, restaurant and tour employee when we went to St. Simons Island, Georgia on that same trip. And every single person we met, hotel guests or random strangers, was completely congenial and didn’t give us a second thought, and if they did, we didn’t catch it. We stayed at the King and Prince Hotel directly on the beach, watching all kinds of people playing in the surf daily and there didn’t seem to be any families like ours anywhere. Even though our perception was that we were a novelty among the rest of the Island’s population, we sure didn’t feel like it. 

Story: When we checked into our hotel and I said that my husband and kids were in the car I got the best reaction ever: “Okay, I’ll hurry so you guys can go relax …” There wasn’t a drop of a questioning tone or a second look. I was sure to refer to my “husband and kids” because as a travel writer, I am always looking for what could go wrong or could be wonderful. The King and Prince Hotel staff passed every test, thank goodness.

St. Simons Island Lighthouse, Georgia

Exposure - We’re not talking about spending too much time in the sun and getting burned to a crisp, but exposing the world around us to us, gays with kids. For our family, that’s a big motivator for traveling out: to show the world that we’re a fun, normal family just like anybody. Going places like the Southern USA, we’re an obvious minority and might be the only gay dads many people will see in who knows how long. In our blog, our tagline is “2 dads raising their 2 sons and traveling the globe, giving the kids a broad worldview.” It’s true that the kids are benefiting from our travels too. Yes, others get to meet us and see that we’re different from them, but the kids also are learning that the world beyond Seattle isn’t a liberal, welcoming, inclusive place. We don’t want our kids to fear the world, but we strive for them to understand the many views people they’ll meet will have. 

It’s true that traveling to a highly religious area may hold some surprises for kids. It’s also true that history can be tough to break from even when it’s morally bankrupt, but in either case it’s our job to prep the kids for their own adventures someday.

Taylor family at Jacksonville Beach, Florida

Overall, the South is a great family travel experience for these gay dads and their kids. We’ll keep going back and enjoying all that there is to do and see, all of the people who there are to meet, and all of the food that we don’t get at home (but that’s a whole other article to write). We want gay families to feel encouraged and empowered to venture someplace new, but proceed with your wits about you. Go show the world that LGBT families are a part of society and that we love to enjoy new places just as much as anybody else. And you know, the South is a great place to discover and enjoy.

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