Lord Ivar Mountbatten Documentary

Queen Elizabeth's Gay Cousin Is Creating a Documentary About the Impact of Coming Out on Kids

Lord Ivar Mountbatten is not just a cousin of Britain’s Queen Elizabeth II, he is also an out-and-proud gay dad. Now, his 23-year-old daughter Alix is making a documentary exploring how it feels for young children when one of their parents comes out as gay.

Lord Mountbatten is a father of three through his former straight relationship with ex-wife Lady Penny Mountbatten. The couple divorced in 2010, when their daughter Alix was 12 years old. 


Alix, now a freelance television producer, first learned her father was gay at the age of 15, after she read about it in her sister Ella's diary, according to the Daily Mail. Alix said she was hurt that her father hadn’t told her directly about his sexuality.

“My sister had recounted in her diary the time he sat her down when she was 14 or 15 and told her he was attracted to men as much as he was to women,” Alix told the Daily Mail. “When I read that I was really hurt. I was so shocked. I couldn't believe how I hadn't picked up on it. It was such a big secret. I think finding out that way and my father not being the person I thought he was was very unsettling. All my cousins knew my dad was gay before I did. The more I thought about it, the more everything suddenly made sense — the divorce, everything — but I was sad my dad hadn't told me but told other people.”

Lord Mountbatten met British Airways manager James Coyle in 2015 and they were married in 2019, becoming the first-ever member of the extended Royal Family to be in a same-sex marriage. The couple has since starred in ITV's reality television series Keeping Up With The Aristocrats. 


Alix said she went through therapy to deal with the shock of finding out her father’s sexuality. Now she said she now loves each of her “three parents” dearly. Her “incredibly supportive” mother Penny even walked her former husband down the aisle and gave him away to James, which Alix said made her both happy and proud.

“It was such a special, cohesive day. I was so proud of my dad, and of my mum,” Alix told the Daily Mail. “It was her idea to give him away and she even helped organize the wedding. I know she did it all for our sake.”

In her upcoming documentary, Alix said she wants to explore the experience of having a parent who comes out later in life. So, she’s looking to cast other young adults whose parents came out when they were kids.

“I want to create something that's really honest and gives a voice to the children of a parent who's come out,” she told the Daily Mail. “They've all had to deal with similar challenges, and I hope by sharing the feelings and experiences it will help heal the hurt. My family story is really, really positive but my sisters and I are only able to have dinner and share our home with my three parents [they all spent lockdown together at Bridwell] because we have very open communication.”

Alix is currently casting for her documentary. Young adults with gay parents who would like to participate can email alimdoc@yahoo.com.


Posted by Brit Smith

Brit Smith is a Staff Writer & Associate Editor at GWK. A native of London, England, Brit started her American adventure nannying and waiting tables in Texas in 2006, and eventually graduated magna cum laude from the University of California, Berkeley in 2017. Brit has previously written and created podcasts for WBZ NewsRadio, iHeart Media, and Different Leaf.

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