It's our favorite time of the month — when we get to congratulate all the new gay, bi and trans dads in our communities, and those who expanded their families! Please join us in giving a hearty GWK round of applause to the following queer men whose houses are a bit fuller this month:
Dads LaJon and Neill Welcome Baby Nilo — Los Angeles
Dads LaJon and Neill Sullivan recently welcomed their children through surrogacy! The two men live in Los Angeles, CA and always knew fatherhood was in the cards for them — but they wanted to ensure their offspring were biologically related to both of them.
"We thank god for my sister, who donated her eggs, and my husband, who contributed his sperm, so that we can both have our DNA in our offspring," said LaJon. "This whole process brought more excitement knowing that we would be able to witness and raise a baby of our blood."
The Sullivans are thrilled to start their family, but their journey wasn't without complications.
"The advice I would give is to be patient. Before our first child, we made a transfer into the surrogate and it stuck!" LaJon said. "We thought we were one and done, but in the fifth month, we lost the baby due to being strangled by its umbilical cord. We had to start the process all over, which was both emotionally and financially draining."
The dads ended up trying trying additional times — but each time the transfer failed to stick. "It took us two years to finally make it all happen again," LaJon said. "So my biggest piece of advice is to keep faith and know this will not happen overnight. It may take some time."
Follow this family on IG: @soul_mn
Dads Anthony and Pete Welcome Baby Nash — Los Angeles
Anthony and Pete are two Australians living in West Hollywood.
Anthony shared, "I started the surrogacy journey as a single gay man about 10 years ago. About a quarter of the way through, it all became too much and I put it on pause."
During that pause, Anthony and Pete got back together (they had dated 8 years prior). The two had always wanted to be dads, so they finally decided to start on the surrogacy journey again — and now they have a newborn son, Nash.
"We were really anxious about the challenges of fatherhood — the lack of sleep, juggling work responsibilities, and just getting it all right. But it just feels like we have slipped right into it! As if being dads is somehow what we were always meant to be!"
Commercial surrogacy — where a surrogate is compensated for carrying a child for other people — is illegal in Australia, which is why the dads relocated to the US to pursue the journey.
"We really hope Australia can get with the times and see that loving families, like ours, can be created through surrogacy."
Single Dad Alan Welcomes Twins — Mexico City, Mexico
Alan is a single dad to three! He first became a dad two and a half years ago when he welcomed a son through surrogacy.
"He's been the world to me and it's been an amazing experience!"
Alan tried again with surrogacy and on April 7, he welcomed twins to his growing brood. "I couldn’t be happier!" he said. "I can't find the words to say how extremely happy and grateful I felt when I held them both for the first time, I can’t describe the feeling, it was a connection that I’m sure I’ll keep in my memory and heart forever."
As a single dad, Alan wasn’t expecting twins, and when he first heard the news, he was shocked.
“I started thinking about all the changes I'd have to arrange in my life; for example, I used to have a Prius, and now, with my twins' arrival, I recently bought a mini van! It’s been a whole new adventure and challenge, but like I said, I can’t describe how happy and grateful I feel."
Follow this dad:@alanthedaaad
Dads Thom and James Welcome Baby Echo — Florida
Thom and James love being dads so much that they wanted to do it again, and became second time papas through gestational surrogacy, but this little one came earlier than expected.
“Our second surrogate lived close to us in Florida, but then we had to move for work in the pandemic," said Thom. "The baby came two weeks early and she was induced the same day we moved to Seattle with our toddler."
Even as seasoned dads, Thom and James say they are continuing to learn brand new lessons everyday.
“We learned that when you have a newborn and come home, your toddler looks like she’s become an adult overnight. We learned that it takes a village to help with multiple children especially when we had to leave our daughter with family and friends and got stuck in Florida for a week with the baby. And lastly we are learning that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed but we still try to remind each other to stay in the moment and enjoy the process.”
Dads Michael and Mark Welcome Baby Madan— Atlanta, Georgia
News Dads Michael and Mark, from Atlanta, GA, recently adopted their new born baby boy through adoption. They told us that they are happy to finally have the little boy that they’ve always wanted — but the process took time and patience.
“It’s worth the wait," the dads told us. "We’ve been on the journey for 20 months since January 2020.”
The two dads had seen case after case of potential matches with birth parents, and went through rejection after rejection — but they didn’t let a closed door stop them from achieving their goal.
“We’ve seen 35 birth mother cases and we were presented 24 times, and rejected 23," the said. "The only way you don’t end up with a baby is if you stop the process!”
Follow these new dads: @mjmusso85
Dads Brian and Andrew Welcome Baby Sawyer—Toronto, Canada
Brian and Andrew are two dads from Toronto, Canada, who became dads through surrogacy.
"Our son was born with the help of so much love, and a lot of science," the dads said. "Like many others, our surrogacy journey involved many conversations and a ton of patience, but we were lucky enough to find an amazing surrogate with a loving family!"
When their surrogate became pregnant, Brian and Andrew were elated. Exactly thirty three weeks and two days later, their beautiful baby boy was born.
“Our surrogate's water broke and she went into labor shortly thereafter," the dads told us. "Though we’re still in the NICU, our son is doing unbelievably well! Who knew you could be so in love after just one moment!"
"For other dads looking at surrogacy, definitely make sure to have patience and advocate for what you need. It’s easy to get lost in the shuffle! Ask a ton of questions from the professionals and the community!”
Pete and Chasten Buttigieg "Overjoyed" To Become Parents
Congratulations to Pete and Chasten Buttigieg, who have announced they are officially parents!
U.S. Transportation Secretary Pete Buttigieg told the world Tuesday on social media that the couple have become parents, but he said the process is not quite finished yet.
It's unclear how the couple have formed their family, or whether their child is with them yet — stay tuned, we'll bring you more as the story unfolds.
Click here to find out more about the Buttigieg's new addition.