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Mayor Pete Hopes His (Future) Kids Are "Puzzled" That Coming Out Was Ever Newsworthy

Mayor Pete and husband Chasten don't have any kids yet, but have talked openly and often about their hopes to be dads one day

Pete Buttigieg, who is making waves in the political world by competing to be the first openly gay and (at 37 years old) first Millennial President of the United States, currently doesn't have any children with husband Chasten. But it's clear from his public comments and writings that he and Chasten hope to become dads one day.

And when that day comes, Buttigieg says he hopes his kids will find it puzzling that coming out as gay was ever a newsworthy event. Back in 2015, well before he began his campaign for president, Buttigieg wrote an essay in the South Bend Tribune that said the following:

"Like most people, I would like to get married one day and eventually raise a family. I hope that when my children are old enough to understand politics, they will be puzzled that someone like me revealing he is gay was ever considered to be newsworthy. By then, all the relevant laws and court decisions will be seen as steps along the path to equality. But the true compass that will have guided us there will be the basic regard and concern that we have for one another as fellow human beings — based not on categories of politics, orientation, background, status or creed, but on our shared knowledge that the greatest thing any of us has to offer is love."

In the meantime, Pete and Chasten are kept plenty busy with their two fur babies, Truman and Buddy.


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Meet the Gay Dad Running For Common Council in South Bend, Indiana

Move over Mayor Pete Buttigieg! South Bend, Indiana may soon have another gay politico in the form of Alex Giorgio-Rubin, a dad of a 12-year-old adopted son.

You've probably heard of Pete Buttigieg, the young gay mayor running to be the Democratic nominee to challenge President Trump in 2020. But the town of South Bend, Indiana, may soon have another gay politico rising star in the form of Alex Giorgio-Rubin, a dad to a 12-year-old son.

Alex is running for a seat on South Bend's Common Council, in part, he says, to help make all families – including ones like his own – feel welcome.

As an out, married, gay dad, living in a Jewish household, raising a son who is on the Autism spectrum, Alex feels he can offer a unique perspective. "We come from the state that produced Mike Pence," said Alex. "We come from the state that made national headlines because of a bill that would allow businesses to discriminate based on sexual orientation; it's fair to say that the cards are stacked against my family, and many, many other families like mine."

Alex, who is currently a stay-at-home dad raising his adopted son, 12-year-old Joseph, is married to Joshua Giorgio-Rubin, a Senior English Lecturer at the Indiana University of South Bend. The two have been together for six years.

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There's No "LGBT Way" to Change a Diaper, Says America's First Gay Dad Governor

Jared Polis, the first openly gay male Governor of a state, talks to POPSUGAR about how being a dad has impacted his policy priorities

Colorado Governor Jared Polis recently say down with POPSUGAR for an interview to talk politics, family life, and what it's like being the first openly gay man to ascend to a state's top executive role.

Though this is a historic moment for the LGBTQ community, and gay dads in particular, Governor Polis says the act of parenting his two children with a male partner, Marlon Reis, doesn't change all that much . Or, as he more succinctly put it, "there's no LGBT way to change a kid's diaper. Or dress your kid for school."

His experience as a parent, though, has impacted some of his policy priorities. "My vision for Colorado is about making Colorado more livable for all families," Polis told POPSUGAR. One of the primary ways he hopes to do so is through family-friendly education policies, like early childhood education.

"The data always pointed to the importance of early childhood education," he says in the interview. "But now as a father of a 7-year-old and a 4-year-old, I really see it in my own kids. I see the difference that preschool and kindergarten can make and how fortunate I am to have been able to afford that for my kids."

Governor Polis is also interested in enacting paid family leave policies that are more inclusive of dads. "We want our state to be the best state to raise a family," he said. "Part of that is making sure new parents can be with their kids in those precious first few weeks that you never get back."

Read the entire interview here.


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Twin Son of Gay Married Couple Recognized as U.S. Citizen by Federal Judge

According to the decision by U.S. District Judge John F. Walter, a child does not need to show a biological relationship to their parents if their parents were married at the time of their birth.

According to Metro Weekly, a federal judge in California has ruled that "a twin son of a gay married couple has been an American citizen since birth, extending to him the same rights and protections that his biological half-brother already enjoyed."

Previously, the U.S. State Department denied citizenship to one of the twins, Ethan Dvash-Banks, whose biological father, Elad Dvash-Banks, is an Israeli national and not a U.S. citizen. Ethan's twin brother, Aiden, was conceived via the same donor egg, but from sperm from a different father, Andrew Dvash-Banks, who does have U.S. citizenship. As a result, Aiden was recognized as a U.S. citizen while his twin brother, Ethan, was not.

The couple worked with LGBTQ legal group Immigration Equality to fight the decision, who helped effectively argue to U.S. District Judge John F. Walter that U.S. law should not require a child to show a biological relationship to their parents if their parents were married at the time of their birth.

Read the whole article here and then check out the emotional video posted by the Dvash-Banks family to YouTube following the decision below:


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The American Bar Association Passes Resolution in Support of LGBTQ Parents

The resolution will allow the American Bar Association to further its advocacy in support of LGBTQ parents

According to an article in Pride Source, the American Bar Association recently just passed a resolution in support of LGBTQ parents. The move came in response to the continuing trend of "religious freedom" bills in the states across the country, which make it legal for state-licensed child welfare agencies to discriminate against prospective LGBTQ parents.

The resolution recognizes that, despite the Supreme Court's ruling in 2015 legalizing same-sex marriage, LGBTQ people still face discriminatory practices and policies. As the article notes, so-called "religious exemption" bills have been passed in North Dakota, Virginia, Michigan, Mississippi, South Dakota, Alabama, Texas, Oklahoma, Kansas and South Carolina.

The resolution states that "any discriminatory law which restricts an LGBT individual's right to parent not only disregards these precedents, but also contradicts longstanding research. Decades of medical, psychological, sociological, and developmental research overwhelmingly conclude that sexual orientation has no bearing on an individual's ability to be a fit parent. This resolution therefore reaffirms the equal parenting rights of LGBT individuals."

By passing the resolution, the ABA is able to position itself to further advocacy in support of LGBTQ parents in front of policymakers, courts, and other organizations. "The policy would also allow the ABA to directly advocate on behalf of LGBT families and make clear its stance that laws which permit discrimination against LGBT individuals are unconstitutional."

Read the full article here.

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Governor Cuomo Proposes Ending Ban on Surrogacy in New York

New York is currently just one out of four states to completely ban the practice of compensated surrogacy

New York's Governor, Andrew Cuomo, recently proposed a law that would permit compensated surrogacy for the first time in New York state. As the New York Post reports, a ban on the practice has been in place since 1992.

"New York's antiquated laws frankly are discriminatory against all couples struggling with fertility, same sex or otherwise," the Governor told The Post in a statement. "This measure rights this wrong and creates a new and long-overdue path for them to start families and also provide important legal protections for the parents-to-be and the women who decide to become surrogates."

This move is the latest in a slew of progressive policies backed by Governor Cuomo since Democrats in the state took control of the Legislature after the 2018 elections.

The law would bring New York in line with most states in the country. Currently, the state is one of only four (including Arizona, Michigan and Nebraska) that ban all compensated surrogacy contracts outright.Andrew Cuomo

New York State Senator Brad Hoylman, who is himself a gay dad through surrogacy, has introduced several bills over the years to legalize the practice.

"For the first time," the Senator said, "I'm seeing movement."

Read the whole article here.

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A Dad Reflects on How Far Fatherhood Has Come for Gay Men

"I grew up closeted and conflicted, scared to be gay because of humiliation, fear of AIDS and because it was viewed as an affliction," said gay dad Frank Bua in a moving Instagram post recently. "Most importantly I was devastated that I could never have kids."

On the day his twins' reached a birthday milestone, dad Frank Bua took a moment to reflect on Instagram how far his life has come.

"My kids turn ten years old today. Double digits. I cannot begin to comprehend this milestone, for so many reasons. It has all gone by so fast, and I never thought any of it would be possible.

I grew up closeted and conflicted, scared to be gay because of humiliation, fear of AIDS and because it was viewed as an affliction. Most importantly I was devastated that I could never have kids.

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Right Wing Pundit Tucker Carlson Allegedly Threatens Gay Dad at Country Club

"Tucker threatened me with physical violence and told me to 'Go back to where you came from," the gay dad said in a statement.

According to cell phone footage included in a story in the Washington Post earlier this month, Juan Manuel Granados, who happens to be a gay dad, was threatened by Fox News pundit Tucker Carlson at a country club last month.

Carlson can be heard yelling "You better get the f--- out of here!" repeatedly on the video dated October 13th of this year. A man with Carlson escalated the encounter by grabbing Granados by his collar. According to The Post, Carlson is not only denying the episode took place, he even admitted that his threw a glass of wine in Granados's face just before the video began. But Carlson is denying that any assault took place, maintaining that Granados provoked the scuffle by insulting Carlson's daughter.

"It took enormous self-control not to beat the man with a chair, which is what I wanted to do," Carlson said in a statement, who maintained Granados referred to his daughter as a "whore."

Granados, an LGBTQ advocate, is no stranger to the spotlight. According to The Post, Granados sued a Virginia-basedsports club back in 2012 when the company refused to give him, his partner and their son a family membership. His efforts resulted in the company ultimately changing their discriminatory policy.

Granados is being represented by Michael Avenatti, the same lawyer working with Stormy Daniels, the woman who was allegedly paid hush money to cover up a relationship with President Trump. Avenatti released statements from two eyewitnesses to the altercation, both of who said Carlson's versions of events were incorrect.

"Tucker threatened me with physical violence and told me to 'Go back to where you came from,' before another patron started filming," Granados said in his statement, according to The Post. Granados is reportedly considering pursuing criminal charges against Tucker for the threats.

Read the full story on the Washington Post.

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