Personal Essays by Gay Dads

Gay Dads Left "Speechless" by Daughter's Reaction to Learning Her Birthmother's Identity

"It felt like a bag of bricks lifted off of us," Erik Alexander wrote of revealing the identity of their daughter's birthmother

I can't believe it's been over two years since I wrote about our 'Open Adoption' for Gays With Kids. In that article I covered the series of long discussions that my husband Douglas and I had that led to our decision to pursue an open adoption. There are several reasons that this was the right choice for our family.

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Gay Dad Family Stories

9-Year-Old Girl Starts Successful Jewelry Line With Help of Gay Dads

Riley Petersen is 9 (!) and already a Creative Director, with the help of her gay dads

Riley Kinnane-Petersen is 9 years old, enjoys playing tennis, being with friends, has a pet cat, and lives in Atlanta, Georgia, with her two dads, John Petersen and William Kinnane. She's also the official Creative Director of a successful jewelry line she founded with the help of her dads. Two years ago, John even quit his day job to assist in the day-to-day operations of the jewelry company.

What began as a long road to adoption for William and John, has become a thriving creative business, and more importantly a family.

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Gay Dad Life

Considering Open Adoption? Be Ready for Anything, Say These New Gay Dads

After reading "The Kid" by Dan Savage, this gay couple realized open adoption was the right path to fatherhood for them.

Guest post written by Dominic Ferraro, on his journey to becoming a gay dad with husband Andy via open adoption

The one

Andy and I met in college through mutual friends, in 2003. I was 18 and Andy was 20, so we were pretty young when we first met. We both went to college at Iowa State, and the Women's Center on campus was having an ice cream social and we were both there. We only spent about 5 minutes together then, but decided to meet for a movie the next night, and the rest is history as they say. We have been together ever since.

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Gay Adoption

Open Adoption, Birth Mother Connection: What Should You Do?

A relationship special and meaningful for some; for others, fraught with fear and sadness.

Many gay dads who choose to adopt struggle with how much involvement they want from the birth mother and other members of the biological family. Sometimes, deciding whether to include the birth family is an easy, even affirming choice that strengthens the family. But sometimes gay dads lose contact with the birth mother and her family. Sometimes the birth mother, despite her good intentions, is unable or unwilling to maintain contact, leaving dads unable how to explain to their child what happened.

Every situation is different, vastly different often. But no matter the situation, you're not alone. In this article, several gay adoptive dads share their own experiences with open adoption and birth mother connections. We hope it will help you sort things out and will make talking to your kids about your unique family a little easier.

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Gay Adoption

4 Do’s and Don’ts for Adopting Dads Meeting the Birth Mother for the First Time

Gay dads Chris and Thomas share tips on how to prepare for a first meeting with a birth mother.

When deciding to adopt, hopeful dads throw wide open the doors of their lives to complete strangers. Often, these strangers don't stay strangers for long. Lawyers, adoption agents and social workers are just a few of the professionals who will spend the following months and years combing through your life. By the end, when a dad finally takes home a child, these people aren't just cogs in a machine; they're family.

However, if you choose an open adoption, there's one more stranger you may soon be calling family: the birth mother.

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This is the second part of Anthony Romeo’s three-part post about the night his son was born. Read the first part of the series here. Tomorrow we will publish the third (and final) part.

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By now, you’ve all seen the video of us bringing our son home for the first time. And it was every bit as wonderful as the musical scoring made it seem. But boy, ladies and gentleman, are there stories to tell. If you’ll indulge a new father, I want to give you the inside scoop on what it’s really like to become a father.

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As it turns out, it was just like they said it would be. You wait, and wait, and wait. And then a cell phone ring inverts your stomach and changes the world forever. I left you with a bit of a cliff-hanger last time, friends. I’m sorry about that. A recap, for folks just jumping on board?

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