Gay Dad Life

Meet the Surrogate 'Angel' Who Carried Her Own Grandchild for Her Son and His Husband

After several leads didn't pan out, Jensy De Los Santos's mother offered to serve as a surrogate for he and his husband, Junior Guzman.

Jensy De Los Santos, 30, and Junior Guzman, 29, always had a strong desire to have a family. "We always wanted to be parents," said Jensy, "to be able to love, protect and guide our children."

Jensy and Junior met through a mutual friend and knew each other for many years before falling in love three years ago. Jensy recalls the first time the topic of becoming dads was raised: "We were at this hotel in front of the ocean in the Dominican Republic and I told Junior that I always wanted to have children, since I was young, and that I would love to have them with him and build our family together." Junior felt the same way and responded with "Let's do it, baby, I want my future with you."


Junior and Jensy on their wedding day

The two were married August 24, 2016

The newlyweds decided surrogacy was the right path for them, but they encountered a few obstacles. Jensy and Junior had some difficulty choosing and scheduling the right egg donor, but once they were connected with someone, they were able to start the process and create viable embryos.

The next step was to find a surrogate. "I asked my sister and she said yes, but a week later she was told she was 4 weeks pregnant with her own child," said Jensy. "Then my husband asked his sister and she said yes, but a week after that, she found out she was 5 weeks pregnant, too." At that point, the once hopeful dads felt lost.

From left to right: Clariluz, Junior and Jensy

"We didn't know what to do … that's when God sent us an angel, my beautiful mom."

Jensy's mom, Clariluz Genao, who was 49 at the time, saw her son and son-in-law desperate to become parents, and offered to be their surrogate. "I would love to carry my grand children," she said, hoping to come to their rescue.

As moved as they were by Jensy's mother's incredibly generous offer, they were unsure if it was even possible considering their genetic tie and her age, but their apprehension was put aside after speaking with a doctor. "She explained that it wasn't a problem because she was not the mother [of the child] genetically, and when she was tested, it was all perfection. We started crying and thanking God and Mom for the miracle."

Jensy holding Diego with Junior

Not long after they received the all clear, Clariluz had two embryos transferred in New York City; only one continued to develop. On November 18, 2018, the dads were thrilled to announce their pregnancy news: they were expecting a son.

Clariluz lives in New Jersey, and the husbands are in the Bronx, New York, so they went back and forth throughout the pregnancy to attend appointments.

On February 23 this year, Jensy and Junior's son Diego was born. The dads were in the room when he came into the world. "It was magical," shared Junior. "The best feeling in my entire life," added Jensy. "When we heard him crying, we melted and cried with him."

The dads are loving life as new parents. Everyone has been very supportive and kind to the new fathers, and Jensy and Junior are excited to bring up their son proud of his Dominican Republic roots. "Most of the time we will speak Spanish at home and he will learn English at school; that way he can be bilingual which will help his future."

The dads will also lovingly share with their son the incredible way he came into the world: with the help of his beautiful grandma Clariluz, who proudly carried him for her sons. "Thank to this admirable and extraordinary woman," Jensy said in an Instagram post, "A beautiful miracle that God sent us as a fallen angel of heaven to carry our baby… we do not know how to repay this majestic gesture, but we will always tell our son in the wonderful way he came into this world."

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