Gay Dad Photo Essays

Spring Has Sprung For These Gay Dads!

We're loving seeing gay dads and their kids wearing pink, picking cherry blossoms and enjoying the warmer temperatures! Send your spring pics to dads@gayswithkids.com!

We're seeing something very exciting all over our Instagram feed: pastels, short sleeves, and lots and lots of PINK! Send us your spring family pics to dads@gayswithkids,com for a chance to be featured in this photo essay!!


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Gay Dad Photo Essays

Falling for Fall: 33 Photos of Gay Dads and Kids at the Pumpkin Patch

Oh my gourd, it's fall! To celebrate, we rounded up 33 pics (and whole lot of pun-kins) in our annual fall photo essay!

Don your checked shirt, grab them apples, and shine those smiles while perched on pumpkins — it's the annual fall family photo op! A trip to the pumpkin patch and / or apple orchard is a staple family fall outing, and we're here for it. 🎃🍎🍂👨👨👧👦

Thanks to these dads who shared their pics with us! Share your own to dads@gayswithkids.com and we'll add them to this post!

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Gay Dad Photo Essays

Best Gay Dad "10 Year Challenge" Pics

Whether you've been enjoying this latest social fad or not, we're sure these #10YearChallenge pics will put a smile on your face: dads before and after kids!

If you haven't seen, partaken or know of the #10YearChallenge that is doing the rounds on social media, then you must have been living under a rock for the past couple of weeks. Whether you've been enjoying this latest social fad or not, we're sure these #10YearChallenge pics will put a smile on your face: dads before and after kids!

Some of the photos may be embracing the dad-bod, looking a little tired, but one thing radiates from each image: happiness for achieving their dream of fatherhood.

Except maybe for the last one. That one is just hilarious! #DadLife

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Popular

"Worth Every Hardship": Congrats to Gay Men Whose Families Grew This Month!

Adoptions, births and more: congrats to the guys in our community whose families expanded this month!

Gay men go through a lot of ups and downs on the path to parenthood. It can be one of the most emotionally draining times in our lives. But as each of these 10 families who are celebrating births and adoptions this month: it's worth every hardship. Congrats dads!

Congratulations Matthew and David on finalizing the adoption of their youngest son, Finn!

Matthew and David always knew they wanted to adopt and have created their family through three open adoptions. They finalized their youngest son Finn's adoption May 10 at Marlborough Court House, Massachusetts.

"We feel as though our family is complete with the finalization of our son Finn!" said Matthew.

Their eldest Miles was adopted in 2012, then 3 years later they adopted their second child, Ava. Now they are a forever family of five with sweet Finn.

Congratulations to dads Nick and Sean on finalizing the adoption of their daughter Piper!

Sean and Nick have been Piper's dads since birth and before she was born as they attended appointments with her birth mom. On May 23 in Columbus, Ohio, her adoption was finalized.

"After our first born daughter passed away at age 3 months due to prematurity health issues, we know that Piper's sister loved her daddies so much that she wanted a little sister and for us to be happy again."

We're thrilled for this forever two-dad family!

Congratulations to new dads Markus and Alan on the birth of their twins Luca and Nico!

Luca and Nico were born to proud fathers Markus (Daddy) and Alan (Dad) in San Francisco on May 19, 2018.

"Think about all the happy moments in life... now... combine those moments and multiply by a thousand and that was how we felt when our boys were born and realized that we were dads," shared Markus.

"It's been a six year process for us, in terms of trying to have children," said Alan, "and we finally did it!"

Congratulations to this new family of four!

Congratulations to dads Ryan and Rich on the adoption of their baby girl, Charlie!

Ryan and Rich found out three days before Charlie was born that they were going to be dads. They flew to Nevada and met their daughter when she was 2 hours old.

"You can do all the planning in the world, read every book, article and blog on what parenting is all about," said Ryan, "but nothing prepares you for the first time you hold them and you realize that you are their entire world."

"Everything before that, every hardship, unsuccessful match, months of waiting, were all worth it!" added Rich. "We'd do it again because it brought us our beautiful baby girl and made us a family."

Congratulations to Dennis and John on finalizing the adoption of Brendon and Blake!

Brendon and Blake were first placed with John and Dennis in November 2016. They had already been in foster care since May 2015 and with another family prior to John and Dennis. (They're still close with Brendon and Blake's first foster family.) On November 17, 2017, the boys adoption was finalized, and the dads were over the moon.

"The day of the adoption our hearts were all over the place and our emotions were flying!" shared Dennis. "Sitting int he court room waiting for them to call our names, we cried like babies."

"We knew that those moments would make our family whole and would ensure that our boys would be safe with us forever," added John. "It's just a feeling that's indescribable; it was flood of emotions that felt like our lives had been leading up to that moment."

Congratulations to dads Gabriel and Diego on the birth of their son Gauthier!

On June 2, Gauthier was welcomed into the world by his two doting dads! This Argentinian family is thrilled to finally be fathers.

"I felt like I was missing the air in my chest because it was so full with love!" shared Gabriel as he recalled the first time he laid eyes upon his son.

We wish this new family of three all the happiness in the world!

Congratulations to dads Jason and Brian on the birth of their daughter Sydney!

Jason and Brian became first-time dads through adoption when their daughter Sydney was born on June 4 in Salt Lake City, where they live.

"When we saw Sydney for the first time it felt like time stopped," shared Jason. "As kids growing up in a conservative state, we never thought having a family was possible. And as much progress as the world makes, those tiny doubts never really leave you, making life with Sydney equally surreal and incredible."

We wish this new family of three all the happiness in the world!

Congratulations Steve and Ben on finalizing the adoption of your son Hudson!

Husbands Steve and Ben finalized the adoption of their son Hudson on September 17, 2017. Because they were an out of state adoption they finalized in Louisiana after already having Hudson live with them for a year.

"We were nervous for finalization day, but overwhelmed with joy to know that all of the logistics had finally caught up to what we already knew in our hearts from the moment Hudson was born," said Steve.

This forever family of three live in Orlando, Florida.

Congratulations to dads James and Andrew on the adoption of their daughter Olivia!

Olivia had been with her dads and her forever family for 806 days before her adoption as finalized. Needless to say, the dads are overjoyed to have finally made it official.

"Truly there are no words to describe how we felt," said James after the day Olivia's adoption was finalized. "She was our daughter the moment we held her in our arms, but that day we forever became her fathers legally."

"We are beyond lucky to be her dads and we are so grateful," added Andrew.

Olivia joins little brother Brandon in her forever family of four.

Congratulations to new dads Kunal and Jason on the birth of Alessandra!

Kunal and Jason became dads with the help of a close friend who was their surrogate. Their super girl was born June 24, 2018 and the dad cannot wait to spoil her!

"The moment she was born," shared Kunal, "her little finger grasped both our fingers, and at that very moment we felt our whole life had been waiting for this amazing moment."

The new dads are thrilled to share their love with their baby girl.

Gay Dad Family Stories

These Dads Had 'Twins' — Just Four Months Apart

Angel and Dan's wanted twins, without the complications of a twin pregnancy — so they worked with two separate surrogates at once.

If you have ever been out late on a Saturday night, you may have high hopes of meeting a handsome stranger, but you probably wouldn't expect to meet your future husband. Angel Mario Martinez Garcia, 45, surely didn't when, five years ago on a very early Saturday morning in Barcelona, he casually approached Dan's Mouquet, 40, and asked him, over many gin and tonics, what he wanted out of life. The nightlife setting notwithstanding, Dan's told Angel he ultimately wanted a quiet life, with a partner and children.

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Politics

Gestational Surrogacy Legalized in New York State

The Child-Parent Security Act, which legalizes commercial surrogacy in New York State, was included in the 2020 New York State Budget signed by Governor Cuomo

Yesterday, a years-long battle about the state of compensated gestational surrogacy came to an end in New York when the Governor signed into a law the Child-Parent Security Act in the 2020 as part of the state budget.

The effort stalled last year after opponents, including several Democrats, successfully argued that the bill didn't go far enough to protect women who serve as surrogates — even though it included a surrogate "bill of rights," the first of its kind in the country, aimed at ensuring protections.

"Millions of New Yorkers need assistance building their families — people struggling with infertility, cancer survivors impacted by treatment, and members of the LGBTQ+ community," the Family Equality Council said in a statement about the victory. "For many, surrogacy is a critically important option. For others, it is the only option. Passage of the Child-Parent Security Act is a massive step forward in providing paths to parenthood for New Yorkers who use reproductive technology, and creates a 'surrogate's bill of rights' that will set a new standard for protecting surrogates nationwide."

Opponents, led by Senator Liz Krueger, had once again attempted to torpedo legalization efforts this year by introducing a second bill that would legalize surrogacy in New York, but also make it the most restrictive state in the country to do so. "A bill that complicates the legal proceedings for the parents and potentially allows them to lose their genetic child is truly unfortunate," said Sam Hyde, President of Circle Surrogacy, referencing to the bill's 8-day waiting period. He also took issue with the bills underlying assumptions about why women decide to serve as a surrogate. The added restrictions imply that "they're entering into these arrangements without full forethought and consideration of the intended parents that they're partnering with," he said.

The bill was sponsored by State Senator Brad Hoylman, an out gay man who became a father via surrogacy, and Assemblymember Amy Paulin, who has been public with her experiences with infertility.

"My husband and I had our two daughters through surrogacy," Holyman told Gay City News. "But we had to travel 3,000 miles away to California in order to do it. As a gay dad, I'm thrilled parents like us and people struggling with infertility will finally have the chance to create their own families through surrogacy here in New York."

"This law will [give intended parents] the opportunity to have a family in New York and not travel around the country, incurring exorbitant costs simply because they want to be parents," Paulin said for her part. It will "bring New York law in line with the needs of modern families."


Personal Essays by Gay Dads

Just Like Dad: Ways My Kids and I Are Alike

Joseph Sadusky recounts the ways he and his adopted sons are cut from the same cloth.

Editor's Note: This is the third in a series of excerpts from Joseph Sadusky's new book, Magic Lessons: Celebratory and Cautionary Tales about Life as a (Single, Gay, Transracially Adoptive) Dad. The book contains many stories about my life as a dad, as well as lessons learned, and we're excited to share several excerpts from the the book over the course of the next few months. Read previous installments here!

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Expert Advice

4 Tips for Single Gay Dads Raising Daughters

Here are some ways to create a safe space for your daughter to discover who she is, with you by her side.

There's nothing quite like father-daughter relationships, and when it comes to single dads, your little girl likely holds a very special place in your heart. From the moment she's born, it's as if you can see every moment of her life in front of you, from her first steps to walking her down the aisle at her wedding. You'll be the first man she'll know and talk to, and you'll be her biggest example of what a loving man looks like. She'll come to you for advice on how to navigate challenges, be independent, treat others and grow into herself.

Your relationship with your daughter may be shaped by your personal history, whether you've been through a difficult divorce or breakup, you've transitioned out of a straight relationship, or you made the courageous decision to pursue surrogacy on your own. Whatever your situation is, studies have shown that children with involved fathers excel more in school and have fewer behavioral issues in adolescence.

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