Six Surprising Facts about Same-Sex Adoption in the United States
Surprising Fact #1:
Mississippi was the last state in the country to legalize same-sex adoption. However, more LGBT couples are raising children in the Magnolia State than in any other in the country! According to the Williams Institute at the UCLA School of Law, 27 percent of same-sex couples in Mississippi are raising children. The District of Columbia ranks last, with 9 percent of same-sex couple raising children.
Surprising Fact #2:
Same-sex couples are four times more likely than straight couples to be raising an adopted child. In fact, in the United States around 16,000 same-sex couples are raising more than 22,000 adopted children.
Surprising Fact #3:
Same-sex parents are more likely to adopt a child of a different race than straight couples. One reason for this is that LGBT individuals are also more likely to be involved in an interracial couple than heterosexual couples.
Surprising Fact #4:
Americans are more likely to support adoption rights for LGBT people than marriage rights. In 2014, the last year Gallup polled on the issue, 63 percent of respondents supported the ability of LGBT couples to adopt. That same year, 55 percent of respondents said they supported marriage rights. (In 2016, Gallup found support for same-sex marriage had grown to 61 percent.)
Surprising Fact #5:
Same-sex parents report higher levels of stress than their heterosexual counterparts. Dr. Nanette Gartrell, a researcher at the Williams Institute who studies LGBTQ families, believes this may be because many gay and lesbian parents feel cultural pressures to justify their ability and right to be a parent.
Surprising Fact #6:
LGBTQ dads and moms should be less stressed, however, when they learn this: The largest peer-reviewed study on the subject of LGBTQ parenting found there is no difference in the wellbeing of children raised in same-sex versus opposite-sex headed households. And in fact, some studies have found slight benefits in emotional stability and physical health for children raised in same-sex households!
For more, read our article “Adoption Glossary Terms Every Adoptive Gay Dad Needs to Know.”
Don’t forget to read our indispensable guide to adoption: “Paths to Gay Fatherhood: The Adoptive Dad.”
The Long Island Adoptive Families support group was created by parents going through the adoption process or who had already adopted. It was a great way to help members navigate the path of adoption whether it be private domestic, international agency, domestic agency or foster care. We spoke with Chemene, one of the founders, and found out how this group is supporting local gay men interested in becoming fathers.
Adam Lozon and Scott Dufour met online and have been together 11 years.They live in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada, with their son Paulo. The couple are both in banking and are engaged to be married. We caught up with the dads to see how fatherhood was treating them!
Guest post from Greg Hutch.
It's two weeks before school starts and I am sitting in my classroom updating the photos in the frames on my desk. These frames used to be filled with pictures of my dogs, of me playing my instrument (I am a music teacher), or of the various other things that I have enjoyed in my lifetime. Today, they are filled with loving pictures of my family, including my son and partner who I raise him with. Times sure have changed…thanks to our son, Clark.
Editor's Note: In this ongoing series, we're shining the spotlight on some of the gay dads behind Gays With Kids as their incredible passion and commitment plays an invaluable role in making Gays With Kids possible. Please contact Brian Rosenberg if you'd like to talk about getting involved, too.
Happy gay uncles day to all the wonderful "guncles" out there! Here at Gays With Kids we know how important your roles are within our families so we want to celebrate you today, and say a big thanks! Enjoy this collection of "guncle" photos and a few words of wisdom and contemplations from the uncles themselves.
Two years ago when Oliver arrived into our lives, my partner Rob and I were living in separate countries. We met in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, and had Oliver when Rob was working in Bangkok and I was in KL. Oliver arrived two weeks early when we received an unexpected message from our agent saying to go to the hospital – our surrogate had been checked into hospital.
The day began like any other. My alarm went off at 4.30am. I snoozed until 5am. I ate breakfast until 5.30am, at which point my son, Felix, woke naturally like clockwork. I fed him mashed bananas, cashew butter and chia seeds. I woke my dad up with a cup of tea and handed the baton over for him to look after Felix as I left for work on my bike at 6.30am. I worked through the day as normal. Then, at 6.49pm I received a call from the police.