Can Single Gay Men Adopt?

Single parent adoption by gay men is legal in all 50 states of America and Washington, DC. Many states go further in protecting their LGBTQ community and have created laws prohibiting discrimination based on sexual orientation. These include California, Maryland, Massachusetts, New Jersey, New York, Oregon, Rhode Island, Wisconsin, and the District of Columbia.


However, seven states allow state-licensed child welfare agencies to refuse services to the LGBT parents and parents-to-be if it conflicts with their religious beliefs. These states are Alabama, North and South Dakota, Michigan, Mississippi, Virginia and Texas.

We encourage all prospective parents, singles and couples, to seek professional legal council specific to their home state as they begin their journey as an adoptive parent.

Here are three inspirational stories of single gay men who became dads through foster care and adoption.

A Single Gay Dad Finds Family in the Foster Care System


After many setbacks in his quest to become a dad, Andrew Gubany finally formed his family through the foster care system. He lives in La Habra, California with his daughter and son, Dianna and Owen. We caught up with Andrew to see how life as a single gay dad via the foster care system is treating him. Read Andrew's story.

The Human Limits of a Superhuman Single Gay Dad


After decades of fostering at-risk children in Missouri, Allen Bangs adopted two kids — a brother and sister. In the next three years, he adopted four more. Experience the incredible journey of one out father's struggle to create a family — and keep it together. Read Allen's story.

A Single Gay Foster Dad Finds Love and Creates a Forever Family


Sean wanted to become a foster dad, but didn't want to wait for the white picket fence dream to come true. Inspired by his cousin, who had adopted as a single parent, he decided to start the process as a single parent. Read Sean's story.

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