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Ralph Reed and the Religious Wrong

Faith and Freedom Coalition founder Ralph Reed said that “social science is irrefutable” that children are better off being raised by a mother and a father.


He made his comments on ABC’s Easter Sunday edition of “This Week with George Stephanopoulos,” during a panel discussion led by host Martha Raddatz in a segment titled “The Religious Right in 2014.”

“This is about what’s best for children here in the United States. And the social science is irrefutable. And it is that a child who grows up in a home without the mother and father present and they both play a very unique procreative, nurturing and socializing role, they’re nine times more likely to end up dropping out of high school. They’re five times more likely to end up in poverty. And they’re three times more likely to end up addicted to drugs and alcohol.”

Those are some serious allegations with scary numbers! But, gay dads, don’t drop off your kids at the nearest orphanage yet.

His statements were checked for accuracy by PunditFact.com, part of the Pulitzer Prize-winning PolitiFact.com, and were rated on their Truth-O-Meter™. Here’s what was found:

The “irrefutable social science” statistics Reed had in mind (from his own book as well as a Brookings Institution report) study the effects of children growing up without a father in a one-parent household. Neither the report nor Reed’s own book investigated gay parenting. The one study by sociologist Mark Regnerus that claims that gay parents are worse than straight parents has been discredited by the American Sociological Association, Regnerus’s own university and many of his colleagues. What these studies do seem to show is that children are better off with two parents. The conclusion: Reed’s statement is false.

The Religious Right? We suggest calling it the Religious Wrong.

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