Newly Out Gay Dads

Honoring Dads Who Made the Journey to Out & Proud

In honor of National Coming Out Day, we are proud to celebrate these gay dads, all of whom were in relationships with women and eventually took their own journeys to live authentic lives. We are grateful that they shared their stories with us, hoping that others still in straight relationships will be able to relate and become inspired to make their own life transitions.

Blake McKinney, Milwaukee, WI (The dad on the right)

My ex-wife and I were married for nine years before I came out. We have three kids. We share custody of the kids and she, I and my partner of nine years parent the kids together and are one family unit in two households. I am very lucky!

Chet Atkins, Ft. Worth, TX

My ex-wife and I were married for nine years before I came out. We have two teenaged kids: a 15-year-old-son and a 16-year-old daughter. My husband Terry (to be legalized this month!) and I have co-parented with my ex-wife and her husband for the last 3 years. Our household currently includes not only my kids, but also an exchange student and a couple of others I've been parenting because of family dynamics after they came out.

Christopher Burtt, South Orange, NJ

My ex-wife and I were married for 13 years. We have a 12-year-old son and 9-year-old daughter. I'm out to all my family, friends, and co-workers, and I run Gay Night Out for North Jersey Pride.

Cory LeClair, Yukon, OK

My ex-wife and I were together for 12 years and married for 10. Our kids are 12 and 10 years old.

Ed Murphy, Barbourville KY

I was married for 11 years to my ex-wife. We have two kids. I am very proud of my decision to come out; nor would I change anything from my past as it's made me who I am today!

Allen Lepley, Washington State.

My ex-wife and I were married for seven years before I came out. We have one son. I've had sole custody of our son since he was 7 years old, and he's now a young adult.

Ian Scott, Fife, Scotland

I was in a relationship with a woman for four years. We have one daughter. My daughter has been living full-time with me for the past year and I'm the happiest I've ever been!

Ian Wilson, Ann Arbor, Michigan (Ian's all the way to the right in the photo above, standing next to his partner. Also shown are Ian's two children, and his partner's mother and brother.)

My ex-wife and I were married for seven years. We have a son and daughter. My ex and I are still close; I wouldn't be where I am today without her support and friendship.

Jesse Bryan, Gainesville. FL

I was married to the mom of my two daughters for eight years; I was in a relationship with the mom of my youngest child, my son, for almost two years. I'm out to both of my exes. I'm now 30 years old and, while I co-parent with my two exes, I have primary custody for my two daughters.

John Wescombe, New South Wales, Australia

My ex-wife and I were married for 12 years; she came out as a lesbian seven years after our divorce. We have three children and a grandson, as well as a granddaughter due in December.

John R. Warner, Berkley, MI

My ex-wife and I were married for 13 years. We have two sons. I am now married to a wonderful man who is like a big brother to our two kids. He and I were joined at the wedding by our kids and their wonderful mom.

Kyle Furness, Thornaby, England

I was married to my ex-wife for five years, and came out a year after our divorce. We have two children. I've had a boyfriend for three months and I'm the happiest I've ever been!

Mike Dietrich, Ladysmith, British Columbia, Canada

I was married to my ex-wife for 19 years. We have three sons. All of my sons joined me in my wedding party when I got married in July to my husband.

Mike Rogers, Glen Ridge, NJ

My ex-wife and I were married for 11 years. We have a son and a daughter.

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