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“Promised Land,” a Children’s Book With a Romantic Gay Storyline

“Promised Land” is a new children’s book with a gay storyline created by Adam Reynolds and Chaz Harris, published today, on Valentine’s Day!

As the Odyssey reviewer Cassandra Burge says: “This story has all of the elements of a great children’s book; adventure, an evil villain, a brave hero and even a cute animal sidekick. It also happens to have two male characters that fall in love."

In “Promised Land,” a young prince named Leo and a farm boy named Jack meet by chance in the Enchanted Forest; their newfound friendship soon blossoms into love. However, things get complicated when the Queen’s sinister new husband seeks control of the forest the farm boy’s family are responsible for protecting.

“Promised Land” authors Adam Reynolds and Chaz Harris

The Authors


Co­-author Reynolds said he wanted to tell the type of story he never had growing up, “As a child, everything I saw and heard supported a traditional relationship between a man and a woman. Our hope is to provide a safe environment for children and parents to discuss the different relationships, and help foster acceptance from a young age.”

“So much of what we see through the media and our parents when we are children forms our opinions and attitudes towards others and, more importantly, our attitudes towards ourselves. The conflict in our story does not arise from the sexuality of the main characters; it is merely about two young men who meet, fall in love and find their relationship caught up in the middle of a turf war,” explained co-­author Chaz Harris.

Speaking of why they decided to create the book, Adam and Chaz said that they wanted all children to grow up feeling that Happily Ever After is absolutely possible for LGBTI youngsters. By representing gay characters in this way, they hope it will open the door to more stories like it and help promote a more tolerant, diverse and accepting world for future generations.

Farm boy Jack

Prince Leo

“We know that publishers see a book like this as risky, so we’re putting the project out for pre-orders to prove there is an audience for this book.” On being asked if there may be sequels involving gay parenting, Harris adds with a wry grin, “We can neither confirm nor deny that the Happily Ever After on our final page involves marriage and kids”.

Availability

Promised Land” is released today, February 14, 2017, in honor of Valentine’s Day. It is available in print, ebook and audiobook formats. It is available in electronic format on iBooks and Amazon.

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