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All the information contained on this web site and within these World Wide Web Pages is Copyright Gays With Kids ("GWK"). All Rights Reserved.

All Trademarks mentioned herein belong to their respective owners.

Gays With Kids and GaysWithKids.com is published online by Gays With Kids. All the information contained in the GWK web site pages is provided "as is". GWK disclaims all warranties with regard to this information, including all implied warranties of merchantability and fitness for a particular purpose. In no event shall GWK be liable for any special, indirect or consequential damages or any damages whatsoever resulting from loss of use, data or profits, whether in an action of contract, negligence or other tortious action, arising out of or in connection with the use or performance of this information.

The information contained in the GWK web site could contain technical inaccuracies or typographical errors. GWK reserve the right to make changes to any information contained within its web site pages and to make improvements and or changes in the products and programs described in its web site pages at any time and without notice.

Privacy Policy

Protection of Personal Information at Gays With Kids

Gays With Kids privacy officer may be contacted as noted below.

Brian Rosenberg
Privacy Officer
Gays With Kids
brian@gayswithkids.com
New York, N.Y.

Editorial Team

Editorial and content inquiries may be directed to David Dodge at david.dodge@gayswithkids.com.

Third Party Cookies

In the course of serving advertisements to this site, our third-party advertiser may place or recognize a unique cookie on your browser.

Gays With Kids ("GWK") is committed to the on-going protection of your personal information. The Personal Information Protection and Electronic Documents Act (PIPEDA) now extends to most businesses in Canada. Similar legislation may exist in your jurisdiction. PIPEDA changes the way businesses and other organizations are permitted to collect, use, and disclose personal information in the course of commercial activities.

What do we collect?

GWK collects personal user data directly from our users, all of which is necessary to provide our services and products.

How is this information used or disclosed by GWK?

In order to protect you, we will not collect, use or disclose your personal information for any purpose other than those that we identify to you and with your permission. All records are kept in a secure area with strict access control and are shredded when they are no longer required. Your personal information is only used to complete the tasks which you have agreed to, such as collection of unpaid charges.

How you may change your information or withdraw your consent to the use of your information

At any point you may withdraw your consent, refuse to allow us to obtain, use, or share your information, subject to legal or contractual restrictions and considerations. You may also advise us of any updates or changes in your personal information, which will help us serve you better.

Electronic correspondence.

GWK cannot guarantee the privacy of electronic correspondence. Although we do not allow access to our computers and any printed materials to anyone other than the staff of our office, due to the nature of electronic correspondence, privacy cannot be guaranteed. All electronic correspondence is therefore deemed insecure. DO NOT SEND CREDIT CARD OR SENSITIVE INFORMATION VIA EMAIL, or any other information you wish not to be shared without consent.

Openness

Our Privacy Policy is available to clients and the general public. The Privacy Policy may be updated regularly without notice. We encourage you to visit this webpage to see if any of the changes will affect you.

If you have any questions regarding our Privacy Policy or anything else related to the use and disclosure of personal information; please email GWK at the above noted email address.

Terms of Use

Acceptance of Terms of Use

IT IS IMPORTANT THAT YOU READ ALL THE TERMS AND CONDITIONS CAREFULLY. Gays With Kids ("GWK") owns and operates this Website, located at https://www.gayswithkids.com (the Web site). This Terms of Use Agreement (this Agreement) states the terms and conditions under which you may access and use the Web site. By accessing and using the Web site you are indicating your acceptance to be bound by the terms and conditions of this Agreement. If you do not accept these terms and conditions, you must not access or use the Web site. IF YOU ARE DISSATISFIED WITH THE TERMS, CONDITIONS, RULES, POLICIES, GUIDELINES OR PRACTICES OF GWK OPERATING WEB SITE, YOUR SOLE AND EXCLUSIVE REMEDY IS TO DISCONTINUE USING IT. GWK may revise this Agreement at any time by updating this posting. Use of the Web site after such changes are posted will signify your agreement to these revised terms. You should visit this page periodically to review this Agreement.

Disclaimer of Warranties

THE WEB SITE AND ALL CONTENT IS PROVIDED AS IS. BY ACCESSING AND USING THE WEB SITE YOU ACKNOWLEDGE AND AGREE THAT USE OF THE WEB SITE AND THE CONTENT IS ENTIRELY AT YOUR OWN RISK. GWK MAKES NO REPRESENTATIONS OR WARRANTIES REGARDING THE WEB SITE AND THE CONTENT, INCLUDING, WITHOUT LIMITATION, NO REPRESENTATION OR WARRANTY (I) THAT THE WEB SITE AND/OR CONTENT WILL BE ACCURATE, COMPLETE, RELIABLE, SUITABLE OR TIMELY; (II) THAT ANY CONTENT, INCLUDING, WITHOUT LIMITATION, ANY INFORMATION, DATA, SOFTWARE, PRODUCT OR SERVICE CONTAINED IN OR MADE AVAILABLE THROUGH THE WEB SITE WILL BE OF MERCHANTABLE QUALITY OR FIT FOR A PARTICULAR PURPOSE; III) THAT THE OPERATION OF THE WEB SITE WILL BE UNINTERRUPTED OR ERROR FREE; (IV) THAT DEFECTS OR ERRORS IN THE WEB SITE WILL BE CORRECTED; (V) THAT THE WEB SITE WILL BE FREE FROM VIRUSES OR HARMFUL COMPONENTS; AND (VI) THAT COMMUNICATIONS TO OR FROM THE WEB SITE WILL BE SECURE OR NOT INTERCEPTED.

The contents of this website and any Gays With Kids publication are the personal opinions of the authors and do not reflect the opinions of the publisher or editors.

Linking

The Web site contains links to third-party web sites. These links are provided solely as a convenience to you and not as an endorsement by GWK of the contents of such third-party web sites. GWK is not responsible for the content of any third-party web site, nor does it make any representation or warranty of any kind regarding any third-party web site including, without limitation (i) any representation or warranty regarding the legality, accuracy, reliability, completeness, timeliness, suitability of any content on any third-party web site; (ii) any representation or warranty regarding the merchantability or fitness for a particular purpose of any material, content, software, goods or services located at or made available through such third-party web sites; or (iii) any representation or warranty that the operation of the third-party web sites will be uninterrupted or error free, that defects or errors in such third-party websites will be corrected or that such third-party websites will be free from viruses or other harmful components.

Security

Please note that information sent or received over the Internet is generally unsecure and GWK cannot and does not make any representation or warranty concerning security of any communication to or from the Web site or any representation or warranty regarding the interception by third parties of personal or other information.

General

Any consent by GWK to, or waiver of, a breach of this Agreement which you have committed, whether express or implied, shall not constitute a consent to, or waiver of, any other, different or subsequent breach. You may not assign or transfer this Agreement or any right or obligation hereunder. If any term or provision of this Agreement is held by a court of competent jurisdiction to be invalid, it shall be severed and the remaining provisions shall remain in full force without being invalidated in any way. This Agreement is not intended to create a partnership, joint venture, or agency relationship between the parties. Except for any agreements with GWK that expressly reference this Agreement, this is the entire agreement between you and GWK relating to the matters contained herein.

Ownership

All materials displayed or otherwise accessible through the Web site, including, without limitation, news articles, text, photographs, images, illustrations, audio clips, video clips, computer software and code (collectively, the Content) are protected under United States, Canadian, and foreign copyright or other laws, and are owned by GWK, its licensors or the party accredited as the provider of the Content. In addition, the Web site is protected under copyright law as a collective work and/or compilation pursuant to United States, Canadian and foreign laws. You shall abide by all additional copyright notices, information and restrictions on or contained in any of the Content accessed through the Web site. ANY USE, REPRODUCTION, ALTERATION, MODIFICATION, PUBLIC PERFORMANCE OR DISPLAY, UPLOADING OR POSTING ONTO THE INTERNET, TRANSMISSION, REDISTRIBUTION OR OTHER EXPLOITATION OF THE WEBSITE OR OF ANY CONTENT, WHETHER IN WHOLE OR IN PART, OTHER THAN EXPRESSLY SET OUT HEREIN, IS PROHIBITED WITHOUT THE EXPRESS WRITTEN PERMISSION OF GWK.

Bloggers Are Independent Third Parties

Bloggers and other third party contributors to the Web site are not employees, contractors, agents or otherwise under the direct control or supervision of GWK. Bloggers and other third party contributors are independent actors and responsible for the content of their own contributions to the Web site. The opinions and content of Bloggers and other third parties does not reflect the opinions and positions of GWK and GWK shall not be held liable for the content posted to the Web site by Bloggers or other third party contributors. GWK's liability shall be limited to $100 in the aggregate in all respects regardless of the cause of the alleged injuries or damages, including all injuries or damages arising from any Tort (including but not limited to defamation or negligence).

Limitation of Liability

SUBJECT TO APPLICABLE LAW, IN NO EVENT SHALL GWK, ITS OFFICERS, DIRECTORS, EMPLOYEES, AGENTS, LICENSORS, BLOGGERS OR THEIR RESPECTIVE SUCCESSORS AND ASSIGNS, BE LIABLE FOR ANY SPECIAL, INDIRECT, INCIDENTAL OR CONSEQUENTIAL INJURY OR DAMAGES OF ANY KIND, INCLUDING, WITHOUT LIMITATION, ANY LOSS OR DAMAGES IN THE NATURE OF OR RELATING TO LOST BUSINESS, LOST SAVINGS, LOST DATA AND/OR LOST PROFITS, REGARDLESS OF THE CAUSE AND WHETHER ARISING IN CONTRACT (INCLUDING FUNDAMENTAL BREACH), TORT (INCLUDING NEGLIGENCE OR DEFAMATION) OR OTHERWISE. THE FOREGOING LIMITATION SHALL APPLY EVEN IF GWK KNEW OF OR OUGHT TO HAVE KNOWN OF THE POSSIBILITY OF SUCH DAMAGES.

IN NO EVENT SHALL GWK, ITS OFFICERS, DIRECTORS, EMPLOYEES, AGENTS, LICENSORS OR THEIR RESPECTIVE SUCCESSORS AND ASSIGNS, BE LIABLE FOR DAMAGES UNDER THIS AGREEMENT, WHETHER ARISING IN CONTRACT (INCLUDING FUNDAMENTAL BREACH), TORT (INCLUDING NEGLIGENCE) OR OTHERWISE, EXCEEDING ONE HUNDRED CANADIAN DOLLARS (C$100)EVEN IF GWK HAS BEEN ADVISED OR OUGHT TO HAVE KNOWN OF THE POSSIBILITY OF SUCH DAMAGES.

IN NO EVENT SHALL GWK, ITS OFFICERS, DIRECTORS, EMPLOYEES, AGENTS, LICENSORS OR THEIR RESPECTIVE SUCCESSORS AND ASSIGNS, BE LIABLE FOR ANY LOSS OR DAMAGE ARISING FROM THE FAILURE OF GWK OR YOUR FAILURE TO PROTECT YOUR PASSWORD OR ACCOUNT INFORMATION.

GWK EXPRESSLY DISCLAIMS ANY AND ALL LIABILITY FOR THE ACTS, OMISSIONS OR CONDUCT OF ANY THIRD-PARTY USER OF THE WEB SITE OR ANY ADVERTISER OR SPONSOR OF THE WEBSITE (COLLECTIVELY, THIRD-PARTY USER). UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SHALL GWK AND ITS OFFICERS, DIRECTORS, EMPLOYEES, AGENTS LICENSORS, BE LIABLE FOR ANY INJURY, LOSS, DAMAGE (INCLUDING SPECIAL, INDIRECT, INCIDENTAL OR CONSEQUENTIAL DAMAGES) OR EXPENSE ARISING IN ANY MANNER WHATSOEVER FROM (I) THE ACTS, OMISSIONS OR CONDUCT OF ANY THIRD-PARTY USER; AND (II) ANY USE OR INABILITY TO USE ANY MATERIALS, SOFTWARE, CONTENT, GOODS OR SERVICES LOCATED AT OR MADE AVAILABLE AT ANY WEB SITE LINKED TO OR FROM THE WEB SITE.

IF YOU DECIDE TO ACCESS OR USE ANY LINKED WEB SITE OR CONTENT, MATERIALS, SOFTWARE, GOODS OR SERVICES FROM A WEB SITE LINKED TO THE WEB SITE, YOU DO SO ENTIRELY AT YOUR OWN RISK.

YOU HEREBY RELEASE GWK AND ITS OFFICERS, DIRECTORS, EMPLOYEES, AGENTS AND THEIR RESPECTIVE SUCCESSORS AND ASSIGNS, FROM ANY DAMAGES THAT YOU INCUR, AND AGREE NOT TO ASSERT ANY CLAIMS AGAINST THEM, ARISING FROM YOUR PURCHASE OR USE OF ANY PRODUCTS OR SERVICES MADE AVAILABLE THROUGH THE WEB SITE OR BY THIRD PARTIES THROUGH THE WEB SITE.

Software Licenses and Ownership

All software embedded in or located on or at the Web site, including, without limitation, all computer code of all types, including all files and/or images contained in or generated by such software (Software) is protected by copyright and may be protected by other rights. All such Software is owned by GWK, its licensors or the party accredited with ownership of such Software. You are hereby granted the right to access and use the Software embedded and integrated into the Web site, subject to (i) the terms and conditions of this Agreement, and (ii) any additional conditions which may be imposed on your access and use of such Software.

If the Web site provides Software for download, unless otherwise provided, you are hereby granted, subject (i) to the terms of this Agreement and (ii) to any other terms and conditions that may apply to your downloading and use of such Software, a personal, non-transferable, non-exclusive license to (i) install and run one copy of the Software in object-code format on a non-networked computer for your personal, non-commercial use; and (ii) to reproduce the Software only as reasonably required to install, run and make reasonable backup copies as allowed by law.

Except to the extent expressly permitted in this Agreement, you may not: (i) use, reproduce, modify, adapt, translate, upload, download or transmit the Software in whole or in part; (ii) sell, rent, lease, licence, transfer or otherwise provide access to the Software; (iii) alter, remove or cover any trademarks or proprietary notices included in the Software; and/or (iv) decompile, disassemble, decrypt, extract or reverse engineer the Software or assist others in doing so.

Nothing contained in the Web site shall be construed as granting you any right, title, interest or other license in or to any Software embedded or integrated into the Web site or made available for download from the Web site, including, but not limited, to any intellectual property rights in the Software.

All Software embedded or integrated into the Web site is provided As Is, without warranties of any kind, either expressed or implied, including, without limitation, any warranty (i) that the Software is of merchantable quality or is fit for any particular purpose; (ii) that the Software will conform with any specification(s) relating to the Software; (iii) that the Software will be free from material defects; (iv) that the Software contains no computer viruses or other contaminants; or (v) that the Software shall process date-related and time-related data without causing any processing interruptions, abnormal termination or process or manipulate any time-related data.

Online Commerce

The Web site may allow you to purchase many different types of products and services online that are provided by GWK (the Wares and Services). When ordering Wares and Services on the Web site, you must provide complete and accurate personal information consisting of your name, address, telephone number, e-mail address, credit card information and shipping address, as well as any other information requested.

Your receipt of an electronic form or other form of order confirmation does not signify our acceptance of your order, nor does it constitute confirmation of our offer to sell. Your submission of an order to us shall be deemed to constitute an offer to purchase, which shall remain open for a reasonable time, unless we agree otherwise, and will be deemed to be accepted by us only upon shipment of the Wares and Services. GWK, in its sole discretion, reserves the right at any time after receipt of your order, without prior notice to you, to supply less than the quantity you ordered of any item. GWK, in its sole discretion, reserves the right at any time after receipt of your order, to accept or decline your order for any reason.

You acknowledge and agree that the price of the Wares and Services is subject to change without notice and that the Wares and Services are subject to availability. The sale of the Wares and Services is void where prohibited by law. GWK, in its sole discretion, shall have the right, at any time after receipt of your order, to decline your order for any reason. In the event that the Wares and Services are listed at an incorrect price, due to a typographical error or an error in pricing information, GWK, in its sole discretion, shall have the right at any time after receipt of your order, to decline your order.

The Web site may allow you to purchase many different types of products and services online that are provided by third parties (the Third-Party Merchandise). GWK is not responsible for the legality, quality, accuracy, timeliness, reliability or any other aspect of any Third-Party Merchandise. If you make a purchase from a third-party web hosted by the Web site or linked from the Web site, the information obtained during your visit to any third-party web site and the information that you give, such as your credit card number and contact information, is collected by the third-party web site and not by GWK.

You release GWK and its officers, directors, employees, agents and their respective successors and assigns from any damages that you incur, and agree not to assert any claims against them, arising from your purchase or use of the Wares and Services or Third-Party Merchandise made available on the Web site or by third-party web sites through the Web site.

Registration

To use certain features of the Web site, you may be asked to register with the Web site. You agree (i) to provide true, accurate, current and complete information about yourself as prompted by any registration form; and (ii) to maintain and promptly update the information you provide to keep it true, accurate, current and complete. If GWK has reasonable grounds to suspect that such information is untrue, inaccurate, not current or incomplete, GWK has the right to suspend or terminate your access to and use of the Web site (or any portion thereof). GWK's use of any personally identifying information you provide as part of the registration process is governed by the terms of GWK's Privacy Policy.

Termination

GWK may at any time, without notice, in its sole discretion and without cause, terminate your right to access or use the Web site, (or any portion thereof). GWK may also terminate your right to access and use the Web site, or any part of the Web site, if you breach any term or condition of this Agreement.

Trademarks

GAYS WITH KIDS, GWK, GAYS WITH KIDS BLOG, HELPING GAY DADS NAVIGATE FATHERHOOD are official marks or trademarks of Gays with Kids. Other names, words, titles, phrases, logos, designs, graphics, icons and trademarks displayed on the Web site may constitute registered or unregistered trademarks of GWK or third parties. While certain trademarks of third parties may be used by GWK under license, the display of third-party trademarks on the Web site should not be taken to imply any relationship or license between GWK and the owner of said trademark or to imply that GWK endorses the wares, services or business of the owner of said trademark. Nothing contained on the Web site should be construed as granting you any license or right to use any trademark logo or design of GWK or any third party, without the written permission of GWK or the respective owner of any third-party trademark.

No Advice

The information contained on the Web site is for informational purposes only. It is not intended to provide legal, accounting, tax, investment, financial, medical or other advice to you, and you should not rely upon the information to provide any such advice.

Submissions

The Web site may provide features that allow you to post messages and content, to interact with GWK and other users and to upload files, documents or other materials (collectively, Submissions). When using any of the features of the Web site which allow you to post, upload or make Submissions, it is a condition of your use of the Web site that you observe the rules of netiquette and that you do not: (i) restrict or inhibit any other user from using and enjoying the Web site, interfere or attempt to interfere with the proper workings of the site or do anything which in the sole discretion of GWK imposes an unreasonable or disproportionately large load on the GWK website infrastructure; (ii) post or transmit any unlawful, threatening, abusive, libellous, defamatory, obscene, vulgar, pornographic, profane or indecent information of any kind, including, without limitation, any Submission constituting or encouraging conduct that would constitute a criminal offense, give rise to civil liability or otherwise violate any local, state, provincial, national or international law or regulation; (iii) post or transmit any Submission, including, without limitation, articles, images, stories, software or other material, which violates or infringes upon the rights of others, including material which is an invasion of privacy or publicity rights or which is protected by any intellectual property rights, including, without limitation, copyright, patent, trade secret, trademark or other proprietary rights herein, or derivative works with respect thereto, without first obtaining permission from the owner or rights holder; (iv) post or transmit any Submission that promotes racism, bigotry, hatred or physical harm of any kind against any group or individual, could be harmful to minors, harasses or advocates harassment of another person, provides material that exploits people under the age of 18 in a sexual or violent manner, provides instructional information about illegal activities, including, without limitation, the making or buying of illegal weapons; (v) post or submit any Submission which solicits passwords or personal identifying information for commercial or unlawful purposes from other users; (vi) post or transmit any Submission which contains a virus or other harmful component, or provides or creates computer viruses; (vii) post or transmit junk mail, chain letters, unsolicited mass mailing or spam; or (viii) use the Web site for commercial purposes, including, without limitation, posting, uploading or transmitting any Submissions which contain advertising or which engage in commercial activities and/or sales, or which involve contests, sweepstakes, barter, advertising, and/or pyramid schemes.

By posting or uploading Submissions to the Web site, you grant GWK a royalty-free, perpetual, non-exclusive, irrevocable, unrestricted, worldwide license to: (i) use, reproduce, store, adapt, translate, modify, make derivative works from, transmit, distribute, publicly perform or display such Submissions for any purpose; and (ii) to sublicense to third parties the unrestricted right to exercise any of the foregoing rights. In addition to the grant of the above license, you hereby (i) agree to waive all moral rights in any Submission in favour of GWK; (ii) consent to your name, address and e-mail appearing as the contributor of any Submission, where applicable, and to the disclosure and/or display of such information and any other information which appears in or is associated with a Submission; (iii) acknowledge and agree that GWK is not responsible for any loss, damage, or corruption that may occur to your Submissions; and (iv) acknowledge and agree that any Submissions you provide for display on the Web site will be considered non-confidential.

GWK may review Submissions before they are posted. GWK may refuse to post any Submission to the Web site. GWK reserves the right, in its sole discretion, to edit or remove any Submission, whether or not the Submission is in violation of the provisions hereof or otherwise objectionable. You acknowledge and agree that GWK may, in its sole discretion, monitor the Web site periodically and disclose any information as necessary to satisfy any law, regulation or other governmental or Court request, to operate the Web site properly or to protect itself or other users of the Web site. Any such disclosure shall be in accordance with GWK's Privacy Policy.

GWK is not responsible for the content of any Submission. Submissions represent the views and opinions of the person(s) posting the Submission and do not represent the views or opinions of GWK.

Governing Law and Jurisdiction

The Web site (excluding linked Web sites) is controlled by GWK from its offices within the Province of Ontario, Canada. By accessing or using the Web site, you agree that all matters relating to your access to, or use of, the Web site and/or the Content shall be governed by the laws of the Province of Ontario and the laws of Canada, without regard to the conflict of laws principles thereof. You agree and hereby submit to the non-exclusive jurisdiction of the Federal Court of Canada and/or the courts of the Province of Ontario with respect to such matters. You agree that the provisions of the United Nations Convention on Contracts for the International Sale of Goods shall not apply.

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Congrats to the dads whose families grew this month!

Congratulations to dads Ryan and Sebastian on the birth of their son, Máximo!!

Ryan and Sebastian's path to fatherhood was through surrogacy and their journey took nearly five years from start to finish. "There were many ups and downs and we almost gave up — but are so glad we didn't!"

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"We are absolutely in love with our baby Bennett! He's doing awesome and his Daddy and Papa have been rewarded with a lot of big smiles! He sleeps a lot and is generally relaxed as he learns about the world around him. He's made us happier than we knew possible and we feel incredibly blessed that he is the culmination of our wonderful surrogacy journey."

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Congratulations to dads Bryan and Zachary on the birth of your son Spencer!

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"Like for most, our journey had many uncertainties with ups and downs along the way," said Bryan. "When you stop and really think about everything that goes into the process and has to take place, it's a true miracle and we feel blessed."

On August 26 this year, their son Spencer was born through surrogacy. "Patience, hope, support and remembering what's eventually to come helped my husband and I during the most stressful times. Now that Gates is here, it's hard to even look back."

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"After Cody's adoption, we 'closed' our home and actually moved a few times before joining the foster parent community again in 2018. When we decided to look to foster and adopt again, Cody was fully on board and that was a big part of our discussions about timing."

Their son Conner was placed with them as an infant in May 2018. Connor's adoption was finalized on October 16, and he was 19 months old at the time.

"Adoption day was a whirlwind," shared John. "We were first on the docket for the judge and he made quick work of finalizing his placement and formally making Connor a member of the family!"

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Denver couple Matt and Ian had been dreaming of the day when they'd become dads. The husbands have been together going on 8 years, married for 5, and had picked out their son's name even before they were married.

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On July 26, the dads welcomed their son Rocco! "We are blessed now with a sleeping, funny, expressive and engaged little spirit in our lives. The process was tough, emotional and downright exhausting. The moment he showed up though, let out a scream then looked at his with his funny little furled brow, every single appointment, lost night's sleep, worry and tear was collectively worth it. We are Dads … and that is simply the greatest thing we have ever been."

Congratulations to Travis and Jay on finalizing the adoption of their son Kathan!

Travis and his husband Jay began their path to fatherhood a little over three years ago when they began the certification process to adoption through the foster care system. "After a little over a year and a half in the making we got the call on June 3rd 2018 at 11:30am. That day changed our lives in so many beautiful ways," said Travis.

At just 4 days old, the dads brought their son Kathan home, and 16 months later, they celebrated his adoption being finalized. "It felt like we had been set free as a family for the first time."

Kathan's adoption day was incredibly personal for the dads so they spent it with close family and took Kathan out for celebratory brunch.

Congrats to this Orange County forever family of three.

Congratulations to dad Derek and Zack on the birth of their daughter Georgia!

On October 18, 2019, dads Derek and Zack, and big brother Hank, welcomed Georgia to the family. The family is over the moon!

"Zack and I were lucky to be able to work with the same surrogate that helped us with our son Hank," said Derek. Their family journey experienced a significant setback when one of their fertility clinic's embryo storage tanks malfunctioned, and they lost all their genetic material - 11 fertilized embryos - that Derek's sister and Zack had donated to create their family. Luckily, Derek's sister was incredible and happily flew out to donate her beautiful genes again.

"Our family is truly the living embodiment of the love of our extended family and our carrier Raelene (and her family) have for us and our dream to meet our children. Meeting Georgia, for me, was the realization of all those feelings of love and hope we felt throughout our journey."

Congrats to this San Francisco family of four!

Congratulations to dads Rob and Scott on the birth of their daughter Sierra!

Rob and Scotty's journey to fatherhood started in December 2014, and they became first time dads eighteen months later when their son Ryder was born through surrogacy. In early October this year, they welcomed their daughter, Sierra, also through surrogacy.

"Holding her for the first time was amazing and warmed our hearts completely," shared Scotty. "Our son loves his baby sister and is very protective of her!!"

Huge congrats to this Sacramento family!

Congratulations to dads Brian and John on the birth of their son Weston!

Brian Wall and his fiancé John Agricola live in Toronto, Canada, and they recently welcomed their son Weston into the world on November 13.

"Our path to fatherhood was made a little simpler because my first cousin offered to be our surrogate," said Brian. "It took about a year total from picking an egg donor and our first successful embryo transfer on March 13."

When the dads first held their son they both agreed it was the most emotional experience they've ever had. "So grateful to our surrogate and he is a healthy boy!!"

Congrats to this new family of three, and can't wait to see wedding photos from your upcoming nuptials!

Congratulations to Ricky and Jeff on finalizing the adoption of their daughter Kylie!

Ricky and Jeff finalized the adoption of their youngest on November 8, the biological sister to their son Kadyn.

"Her birth mom knew that she couldn't take care of her and wanted us to have her," shared Ricky. "We went through the county again and we were able to adopt Kylie 6 months after her birth. The extra cool experience this time around was the fact that we were invited to be there to be part of the birth."

To be finalize Kylie's adoption was "amazing" said the dads. "It means that nothing and no one can do or say anything that would effect her being with us, which almost happened about a month before the adoption day."

Congratulations to this Californian forever family of four!

News

United Nations Calls on Cambodia to End Criminalization of Surrogates

Cambodia's 2016 law criminalizes surrogacy — and requires women who work as surrogate to raise the children they conceived for intended parents as their own.

Last Friday, the United Nations Committee on Elimination of Discrimination against Women (CEDAW) reiterated its support to end the harassment and criminalization of surrogates in Cambodia, according to Voice of America.

The report issued by CEDAW recognized growing international criticism of the unregulated practice of surrogacy around the world, which often leads to the exploitation of women who work as surrogates. However, since surrogacy became illegal in Cambodia, over 60 women working as surrogates — the very people put in danger of exploitation — have been arrested and subjected to criminal proceedings. The women were only released according to VOA, under the condition of raising the surrogate children until they are 18.

"The Committee is particularly concerned that such an obligation creates an additional financial and emotional burden on women who are in precarious situations, which led them to act as surrogates in the first place," the report reads, "and that they face discrimination and stigma from their families and communities for having acted as surrogates."

CEDAW called on the Cambodian government to repeal the October 2016 law — particularly the requirement of raising the children they conceived for other intended parents as their own. This punishment is particularly onerous given that many of these women entered surrogacy arrangement against their will, said Chak Sopheap, Executive Director of the Cambodian Center for Human Rights, speaking to VOA.

"Surrogate women in Cambodia are likely to be at the sharp end of various economic and political hardships that caused them to make the decision to become a surrogate," she told VOA in an email. "We have seen, over the past year, women surrogates raided, charged with human trafficking, and detained, with no transparency from the authorities as to their wellbeing or that of the children they have given birth to."

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