Philadelphia: Let Freedom Ring!

Just in time for the Fourth of July (and beyond), a Philly boy gives the lowdown on the very gay-friendly city where America began.

Walk through Independence Park, the symbolic heart of Philadelphia, and across from Independence Hall and within eyeshot of the Liberty Bell stands a lone historical marker dated 1965, a positively futuristic anachronism for a city whose chief claim to fame is 1776.

Turns out, four years before the Stonewall Riots gave LGBTQs a collective voice, a local restaurant refused service to patrons who the manager thought “looked gay.” KA-BOOM! Nothing like a little dumbassery to get the blood flowing. About 150 people staged a sit-in at the eatery and soon morphed into very public July picket lines demanding gay equality just a few yards from where American freedom was proclaimed. The association was unavoidable, particularly since what was to be called the “Annual Reminder” was held every Independence Day.

Marker of early gay rights demonstrations in Philadelphia

So, if a native Philly boy such as me may say it, no offense to New York or San Francisco, but you are Johnny-come-latelies to the party.

The City That Loves You Back

And the Annual Reminders are celebrated 50 years on, commemorated via a ceremonial picket line on July 4 and a massive block party in Philadelphia’s Gayborhood the following day. It is part of a trio of rainbow-themed events on the city calendar, sandwiched neatly between Philly Pride (June 12-14) and OutFest, the largest National Coming Out Day celebration in the world (October 12). FYI, the Annual Reminders are tailor-made to while away the daylight before the Fourth of July fireworks light up the sky at night.

Rev. Gordon Reid, rector emeritus at Saint Clement’s Church, blessing rosaries at OutFest

I chalk up the welcome transformation of the City of Brotherly Love into a gay destination to an acute sense of self-awareness. So identified with the American Revolution is Philadelphia that the city is perceived as being one-note; two-note if you throw in Rocky Balboa and his iconic run up the steps of the Philadelphia Museum of Art. (People still do it, complete with “Rocky dance” at the summit. Just sit back and wait.) Consequently, there has been a hard push to be something — anything! — other than a city whose golden age was 239 years ago or “ADRIAAAAAN!”

To a point, anyway; history is a big draw in Philadelphia. Fresh off a refurb, Independence Park is a veritable shrine to America (declared here), the Constitution (signed here), and aforementioned Liberty Bell (cracked here — oopsy). But the park is more than just a marginally kid-oriented expo for a time gone by, although the sparkling, white marble temple housing the Liberty Bell is quite the marginally kid-oriented expo.

Philadelphia Museum of Art - photo by Anthony Sinagoga for PHLCVB

Part of the renovation was the inclusion of the massive National Constitution Center, a walk-in laboratory of how the document defining American governance actually works in the here and now, and whose 17-minute “Freedom Rising" theatrical production former Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O’Connor hailed as “the best civics lesson in the country.” Women’s rights, racial equality and gay liberation are all explored, and the potholes on the road to freedom get as much press as the flattop. No sugarcoating here.

Gotta See It To Believe It

But Philadelphia can educate the masses in more ways than just jurisprudential intricacies. Aside from the Museum of Art and its staircase calf workout, there is the Rodin Museum, whose collection is outdone only by its Parisian counterpart. Philly’s answer to the Frick and Getty, the Barnes Foundation is an American educational art and horticultural institution; its post-impressionist and early-modern art collections are among the best in the world: 181 Renoirs, 69 Cézannes, 59 Matisses, 46 Picassos, 16 Modigli­anis, and 7 Van Goghs!

There is also the Mütter Museum, where you can see Einstein’s brain chopped up into itty-bitty bite-sized pieces. Wait…what?

In 2011, Einstein’s sushi-ed noodle became the showstopper for a Philadelphia institution already known for stopping shows. The Mütter’s humble origins harken back to Dr. Thomas Mütter, a pre-Civil War teaching physician who relied on a well-pickled smorgasbord of…ah…“visual aids” to document various diseases and conditions. The museum today showcases everything that can possibly go awry with a human body. It is the absolute must for parents whose kids delight in the macabre. For boys, it’s pretty much from age 13 until death — I know; this is me to a T. A skeleton with one body and two heads? Check! A skeleton with two bodies and one head? Check-check! The body of a woman who turned to soap? Checkity-check-check! You can even have your wedding photos done at the Mütter, with the 139-strong Hyrtl skull collection as a backdrop. And I swear to God I am not making this up.

The Hyrtl skull collection at the Mütter Museum

But perhaps you want to save the traumatization of your children to some later date. A more controlled descent is the G-rated Please Touch Museum, from the first stone a 7-and-below haven where kids and parents engage each other through play slyly designed to introduce little minds to big concepts like architecture, ecosystems, and physics. Once the hungry-mind fire is lit, the Franklin Institute, a world-class science bonanza for tweens and adults, throws fuel on the cerebral flames with exhibits a little more advanced (building your own Mars rover), a little more “Mütter” (a two-story model of a neural network you can climb through) and waaaaaay more geeky (“The Art of the Brick”— the largest Lego display on Earth! Woot-woot!).

The Franklin Institute - photo by Paul Loftland for PHLCVB

Calendar Boys

But asking a Philadelphian when it’s the best time to visit the city is the best way to see a head explode. We’re a torn bunch: Some will say the Fourth of July; what better place to experience the holiday than in the city that created it? The panorama of a sky on fire over the Museum of Art is an Olympian experience, not least of which is because the museum is built as a fabulously ornate Greek temple.

Mummers Parade, 2013 – photo by Robert Moran

But then there are the Mummers. Every New Year’s Day the wide boulevard of Broad Street is washed over wholesale by wave after wave of sequins, ostrich plumes, and string bands: the Mummers Parade, a colorful and musical folk parade. Right along with cheesesteaks and hoagies (like a sub sandwich), the Mummers are unique to Philly and a source of immense pride and identity — and the one of the most family-friendly events the city’s cultural engine revs out. Clubs belong to five larger divisions, Comic, Fancy, Wench Brigade, String Band and Fancy Brigade, and are made up of ordinary citizens in a no-holds-barred show of one-upmanship to come up with the most creative costumes, dances routines, and tunes.

So may this piece represent a rebuttal to Charles Dickens, who infamously called Philadelphia “distractingly regular.” He obviously did not grab a margarita at Woody’s, which are about $5 cheaper than in New York. That alone should bring the crowds in running.


Cover photo credit (Liberty Bell): Andrea Golod for PHLCVB

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5 Fabulous Tips From Gay Dads for Vacationing with Kids

A family vacation with young kids is harder a vacation at all... unless you head this advice from our seasoned gay dads travelers!

It's the summer holidays, and that means family vacation! Now, vacations with kids under 8 might make you break out in a cold sweat, but we've got some tips for you from fellow gay dads to help make family trips easier. From road travel to flying, to helpful planning hints while away, these dads have got you covered.

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The Golden Age of Vacationing With Kids


Ever feel like you need a vacation from your family vacation? For years, we did too. But I'm happy to report that we don't anymore. So what caused the big shift? I'll get to that. First, a little background.

For years, taking our son Max on road trips had its fair share of, shall I say, challenges. From New York City to London to San Francisco to Vegas… we traveled down the road and back again. And while we made wonderful memories along the way… these trips weren't entirely wonderful. Whether it was Max's inflexible sleep schedule, his limited food palate, potty training, his disinterest in walking or his inability to fully express himself, it never quite felt like a real vacation because we never got to actually relax. But now that Max is almost nine years old, we decided to give it another go… and so we booked a much-needed respite in Florida with one goal in mind — cheesecake — okay, two goals: we wanted to catch our breath!

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A Disney vacation is, for many, a once or twice in a lifetime experience. There's a gazillion articles full of Disneyland tips out there but our fresh take comes off of our first trip to Disneyland as a family of four. And gosh did we learn a lot.

Where to stay at Disneyland

The biggest cost for a family when visiting Disneyland what is of course either the transportation to Southern California or the actual Park tickets depending on how many days you are going. Lodging at Disneyland is also expensive, but there are ways to make sure that you are spending your money wisely.

I'm sure this is obvious to most people booking a Disneyland trip but staying in one of the three Disney properties is going to run you the highest hotel bill. There are lots of Good Neighbor Hotels very close to the park from which you can either walk or take the Anaheim Resort Transit. Book a good neighbor hotel and it doesn't even have to be one of the nicest ones, because seriously, how much time are you actually going to spend in your hotel? You are there to be either in Disneyland or California Adventure so just be sure that you pick a property that has great ratings for cleanliness and is close enough for how your family will spend their days.

When to go to Disneyland

One of the most common Disneyland tips we see is when to go to Anaheim with your family. There are a few different ways to determine what is going to be the right time when the parks aren't too crowded. Here are three tips to help you pick your dates for a Disneyland family trip.

Here in the United States we don't have a lot of holiday weeks. But we do have common periods when schools let out for mid-year breaks. This is the prime time for many families to make the journey to Disneyland. This is also when you will find the largest crowds and longest wait times for your favorite rides. If you're cool with pulling your kids out of school, pick a time when most schools, particularly in Southern California, hour in session. This might not coincide with your own kids' spring or winter break, but it'll be a great opportunity to have smaller crowds and win loads of awesome parent points for pulling your kids out of school.

Annual pass blackout days

If you are not familiar with Disneyland and its annual pass situations this might sound strange. There are different types of passes that Southern California residents and Beyond can purchase. Each pass has a different set of blackout dates during which they cannot use their passes for the parks. If you research the dates when the most number of passes are blacked out you may hit the jackpot for being at the park with a smaller crowd than usual.

True, blackout dates exist because that's when more people want to be at Disneyland or Disney's California Adventure, but keeping in mind vacationers philosophies about missing crowds and knowing it's busy paired with restrictions on passes and you will find the perfect balance of small crowds and swift lines.

Seasonal transitions

One of our favorite times to be in Disneyland is during holiday time. This is that special moment between Halloween and New Year's (or slightly after) that the park is decked out in lights, wreaths, and trees. Not only is it more festive than you can imagine but also plays off of the first tip we gave: a lot of kids are in school so not a lot of families traveling to Disneyland.

Saving money in the parks

You'd be surprised at all the different ways you'll spend money when you visit Disneyland. It's a lot more than just Park admission and accommodations. From dining in the Parks and random souvenirs, to necessities you didn't plan on that you have to purchase once inside, you can save.

Saving on dining

If you read a lot of family travel articles you'll find people praising and criticizing the families who always have their own snacks with them. Well, this is a necessary step to take both for saving money in Disneyland and for making sure the kids are happy. I don't know about you but our kids get hangry in a heartbeat. There's nothing quite like a hungry, angry child to ruin your magical memories. Be prepared with snacks in your pack at all times. It saves money and heartache.

For mealtime Disneyland tips, we'll tell you that the best options are the ones that are easy and a little out of the way. Does that not make sense? Basically, where the menus have simple options and ample seating you will find the swiftest and most cost-effective dining options. Example: The Hungry Bear Cafe in critter country keeps it simple with burgers or wraps. The menu is small and the cast members are efficient. There is a ton of seating and you can be in and out in a heartbeat for less than dining in one of the full service restaurants. Our favorite quick service dining option is Flo's V8 Cafe in Cars Land (Disney's California Adventure).

Saving on unplanned purchases

Does anybody ever plan to be stuck in Disneyland in the rain? No. But after one experience you'll know that you need to have an umbrella or a rain poncho at the ready. As silly as they are ponchos are the greatest invention ever for a rainy day in Disneyland. This is one of the Disneyland tips that we didn't listen to on our first trip there during a February long ago... and we were drenched.

Another way to save is by traveling with a backup battery/power bank to recharge your devices while you're in the Parks. Disneyland does have portable chargers that you can rent for a certain fee over the course of your visit, but do you want to spend $30 at a charging station when you could just bring your own power pack? No.

Souvenirs are their own thing. Of course there are loads of cute nick-nacks and t-shirts you could buy when you travel, to Disneyland or anywhere else, but do you need them? The best way to save money on souvenirs is to not go souvenir shopping. So simple. You could be doing many other fun things instead of browsing shelves of stuff. The exception to the souvenir thing is a good pair of Mickey Mouse ears. They're a must.

How to plan your days

Before we arrived in Disneyland with the kids we decided that there were a few key experiences we wanted them to have. We researched what times certain shows or parades were happening and then weighed that out against how much time we new they could last within the parks. For us the big-ticket experiences were:

Meeting certain characters

Download the Disneyland app to see where characters are in real time within the parks. There is also a paper guide that you can get when you enter either Park, but the app helped us land our two Disneyland unicorns: boom.

Experiencing Disney Entertainment

Again, the Disneyland app lets you know the times for everything as does the schedule. If you are going to be in the parks for several days don't stress about hitting three different parades in one day and also watching the fireworks. Plan on doing rides or dinner nearby a parade route so that when you are done with whatever you're doing you can just park yourself for a few minutes before the show starts.

Other experiences that might be high on your parent list of what you want your family to do in Disneyland could be different attractions or meeting every single character, so do what you have to do to make the experience as magical for everyone as possible. Don't add stress to it, use the tools that Disney has given you to make it easier.

Best way to capture memories

We wrote an article about tips for taking your best family travel photos, and I think the strongest suggestion we have from our list is to just be comfortable taking a family selfie. A family selfie means that everybody is in the photo so there's not one person missing from every single picture. A family selfie means that the kids will probably cooperate with you better than waiting for a stranger to take their picture. Family selfies bring you into the moment or into the action and you usually get some pretty hilarious faces.

Other ways to ensure you're getting great pictures in the Disney parks is to leverage character hosts (cast members who are hanging out with your favorite characters) and PhotoPass staff. The PhotoPass photographers that you find floating around the Disney parks won't just do their own pictures with the Disney cameras but they'll also help you with your own pics.

With a little planning and prep work, you'll no doubt have an awesome Disney vacation with your family. The biggest key to having fun once you're there is to keep a good attitude and don't get stressed. That's where the prep work comes in and believe me, keeping a relaxed state of mind throughout your whole Disney Experience is going to make it more fun and memorable for everybody.

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Gay Dad Penguins Strike Again! This Time in Berlin Zoo

The latest male penguins to care for an egg together are Skipper and Ping in the Berlin Zoo.

First, there was Roy and Silo — the two male penguins in the Central Park Zoo that served as inspiration for the famous children's book And Tango Makes Three. Then Magin Sphen got together in Sydney, where aquarium keepers gave the cocks (Calm down, that's what a male penguin is called!) a foster egg to care for.

And now, please welcome Skipper and Ping in Berlin to the latest list of gay dad penguins! As soon as the two emperor penguins arrived at the city's zoo, they set about trying to start a family, said Berlin Zoo spokesman Maximilian Jaege to DPA news.

"They kept trying to hatch fish and stones," Jaeger said.

So the zookeepers loaned the penguins an egg from a female penguin, who is apparently uninterested in hatching eggs on her own, according to the BBC.

Unsurprisingly, the gay penguins are killing it as parents. "The two male penguins are acting like exemplary parents, taking turns to warm the egg," Jaeger said,

Read the whole article on DPA here.

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Hungarian Company Raising Money for LGBTQ+ Organization with a LEGO® Heart

Startup WE LOVE WHAT YOU BUILD is helping combat misinformation and prejudice in Central and Eastern Europe


WE LOVE WHAT YOU BUILD is an innovative startup venture that sells LEGO® parts and unique creations. The core values of our company include social equality regardless of gender identity or origin. As LEGO® is a variety of colors and shapes, so are the people.

We all know that LEGO® is a brand that nearly everyone knows and likes between the age of 3 and 99 so this gives a great opportunity to connect unique LEGO® creations and Pride. We started a fundraising campaign for a Hungarian LGBTQ+ organization who's aim is to bring people closer to the LGBTQ+ community, they help to combat misinformation and prejudice regarding LGBTQ+ issues in Central- Eastern Europe since 2000.

You might know that gender equality and the circumstances of LGBTQ+ people is not the easiest in the former communist Eastern European countries like Hungary so this program is in a real need for help. For example a couple of month ago a member of the government said that homosexual people are not equal part of our society.

The essence of the campaign is when one buys a Pride Heart, a custom creation made of brand new and genuine LEGO® bricks the organization gets $10.00 donation so they can continue their important work. This Pride Heart is a nice necklace, a decoration in your home, and a cool gift to the one you love.

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Single Gay Dad Featured on Season Three of GLOW

Actor Kevin Cahoon joins the Gorgeous Ladies of Wresting in Vegas as a single gay dad — and drag queen — on Season Three of the hit Netflix show

For a couple of years now, Hollywood has been obsessed with gay dad characters (and who can blame them?) But the latest show to get hip to a story line featuring gay man raising kids is Netflix's GLOW, which explores a female wresting troop in the late 1980s.

But GLOW is helping represent a gay character that rarely gets time in the limelight:the single gay dad. In Season three of the hit comedy — which stars Alison Brie, Betty Gilpin, and Marc Maron — actor Kevin Cahoon joins the case as Bobby Barnes, a single gay father who plays a female impersonator. (80s divas only, of course — Joan Collins and Babs among them)

"I've never done female impersonation," the openly gay actor told OutSmart Magazine, "so I tried to learn really quick. You will know them all; I was very familiar with all of them. There were plenty of talk shows and performances on YouTube to study. I learned that their breathing was very informative."

A single gay dad AND drag queen on television? It's about damn time if you ask us.

Read the full interview with Cahoon here.


Utah Court Rules Gay Couples Can't Be Excluded From Surrogacy Contracts

The Utah Supreme Court found in favor of a gay couple attempting to enter into a surrogacy contract.


Earlier this month, the Utah Supreme Court ruled that a same-sex couples can't be excluded from entering into enforceable surrogacy contracts, and sent a case concerning a gay male couple back to trial court to approve their petition for a surrogacy arrangement.

As reported in Gay City News, the case concerns Utah's 2005 law on surrogacy, which was enacted prior to the legalization of same-sex marriage in the state. As a result, the content of the law is gendered, saying that surrogacy contracts should only be enforceable if the "intended mother" is unable to bear a child. When a gay couple approached District Judge Jeffrey C. Wilcox to enter into a surrogacy arrangement, he denied them, arguing that the state's law only concerned opposite sex couples.

"This opinion is an important contribution to the growing body of cases adopting a broad construction of the precedent created by Obergefell v. Hodges and the Supreme Court's subsequent decision in Pavan v. Smith," according to GCN. "It's also worth noting that same-sex couples in Utah now enjoy a right denied them here in New York, where compensated gestational surrogacy contracts remain illegal for all couples."

Read the full article here.

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