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Perfect Valentine's Day Gifts for Gay Dads and Dads-to-Be

Looking for that perfect Valentine's Day gift for the gay dad in your life? We got you covered

We know that families come in all shapes and sizes, especially in our own homes. Many of us have had to overcome a lot of hurdles in our lives to be with the men we love and our families. That is why Valentine's Day is the perfect opportunity to express and recognize the special love we have with our partners and children.

However, gift giving isn't for the faint of heart.


We always want to find the perfect item for the special people in our lives, but it isn't always easy. Especially, when it comes to giving gifts to dads or soon-to-be-fathers. For some reason, the men in our lives are often difficult to buy for, requiring partners and children to search high and low for the best gift ideas for dads with little success. Often, we end up resorting to those drab and dreaded time honored coffee mugs or ties.

So whether it is Valentine's Day or an upcoming celebration, we have to get a little creative to find the best gift ideas for dads (and our loves) to show how much we value and appreciate them. To help avoid gifting a cliche box of chocolates this Valentine's Day, please scroll through the following sampler of the best gift ideas for dads:

Designer Duds

Dads love to be spoiled every now and then, especially when it comes to luxurious and frivolous purchases that can fit any budget. For example, you can splurge on a pair of Gucci driving shoes, designer sunglasses, or a special Tom Ford cologne. These gems will make any dad feel special and complete his wardrobe while making him look and smell great.

His Favorite Children's Books

For any father or soon-to-be-dad, consider giving him the gift of a well bound collector edition of his favorite childhood classics. There are also a variety of books now available that celebrate our unique families and highlight how families can be different, but still happy. Listed below are some fun examples for gay dads to consider adding to our libraries: One Dad, Two Dads, Brown Dad, Blue Dads by Johnny Valentine, Daddy, Papa, and Me by Leslea Newman, and King and King by Linda de Haan. As a couple, you can read aloud, bond, and spread the love of reading as a family over the years.

Homemade Gifts

What parent doesn't love getting a special gift crafted specifically for them from their littles? Supply children with a variety of art supplies and let them get creative or search online sites for crafty ideas. Check out this Daddy Gifts Pinterest board for unique gifts ranging from photo ops, keychains, handprint pictures, t-shirt ideas, and more. If you want to put a more unique spin on your gifts to celebrate being gay, look for fun ideas that promote how two daddies are better than one, rainbows, gay pride, and more!

Shaving Products

Men are always on the lookout for affordable and soothing shaving products to take the sting out of maintaining that five o'clock shadow. Whether the man in your life has a beard or is clean shaven, there are a variety of shaving products that make great gifts from Beekman 1802 and Harry's. For the bearded fella, possible gift options can include a nice beard oil or beard care kit.

Good Food

There is an old saying that the key to a man's heart is his stomach. Cater to his inner foodie and stomach with edible gifts. You can sign up for a food service that delivers fresh ingredients and recipes to your front door every month, buy a new French coffee press, an instant pot, or a gift certificate to his favorite restaurant.

Family Pictures

Fathers everywhere know that our children are only young once and each stage deserves to be preserved in photographs. Schedule a family photo session or ask a talented friend to snap a few pics to document your family at this time in life. Print the pictures and mount them in a nice frame for your dad to enjoy for years to come. If the dad in your life likes to take the photos, invest in a nice camera or editing software. Just make sure to snap his photo every now and then so his children will be able to reflect back on these days with him.

A Date Night Out

Being a parent is hard work and our partners deserve a break every now and then. Arrange to hire a babysitter, provide gift certificates to his favorite restaurant, and purchase tickets to his favorite theater to give him a night out on the town. As an added bonus, this gift will allow some special grown up time for the two of you so the two of you can recharge your batteries, friendship, and relationship.

Books or Workshops for Gay Parents

This parenting gig is difficult for any mom or dad, but it can present special challenges for gay parents. Give a gay father the gift of support and guidance with books that share words of wisdom to handle the bumpy road of parenthood that offer ways to navigate the awkward questions or situations that might arise when you introduce your family to new neighbors, schools, or communities. One book to consider is Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight?: Confessions of a Gay Dad by Dan Bucatinsky. Also, consider signing up to attend special retreats or workshops geared toward LGBTQ families.

Flower Arrangements

Flowers have long been a symbol of love or affection. This Valentine's Day splurge and give that special man a thoughtful bouquet or flower arrangement to let him know you care. When given as a gift or used as an accent to our home decorations, a gorgeous arrangement will definitely impress and express your love.

Comfy Pajamas

Dads often think of others first and put their needs last. Wrap up a brand-new pair of pajamas so he can lounge in comfort this year. This is a practical and romantic gesture, which is a perfect combo for any dad.

Family Hand Casting Kits

What dad wouldn't enjoy cementing his family in a unique piece of art for years to come? Celebrate your family and relationship by making a cast statue featuring everyone's intertwined hands. You can order a kit, book a session at a studio, or do-it-yourself to create a timeless heirloom that captures the love and family one moment in time. These classy hand casts are great conversation pieces that can be used to decorate the home.

What are your best gift ideas for gay dads this Valentine's Day?

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