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Guest post written by Dan Saks of Noodle Loaf

Hello gay dads! Dan Saks, creator and host of Noodle Loaf, an interactive music themed podcast for kids here to share a new song called "A Family Can" that was featured on my most recent episode. I wrote the song after hearing of a negative review a fellow kids podcaster received regarding her inclusion of same-sex parents in one of her show's stories. Rather than sit around and feel upset about that reviewer's world view I decided to work same-sex parents (as well as other varieties of parents) into one of my show's musical numbers.


The result is a short and sweet echo song, where kids sing back each phrase, that in under two minutes tries to share a message of love, inclusivity and an appreciation for all kinds of families, be they mixed-race (like my own), same-gender, single parent or something else. My hope is that the song can help different kinds of families feel celebrated and view families different from their own as being beautiful as well.

LINKS:

Link to Noodle Loaf episode with "A Family Can":

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/dingo-bingo-bongo/id1359035306?i=1000423669567&ls=1

"A Family Can" Audiogram: https://media.sparemin.com/embed-video/videos/82/3d/6c/18/823d6c18-f2f4-4e76-bbd8-a97c067a0dec_166214.mp4

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