Gay Dad Life

First Came Love, Marriage and the Baby Carriage. Then Came the Animals.

Fifty animals later, Nick, Steve and their adopted son Wyatt have a small zoo on their hands

"Before life was fun!" said Nick Phomkasornsri. "Lots of friend time, easy to travel, and late nights out on they town. But now, it's a whole different kind of fun."

And life couldn't be more different for Nick, a massage therapist and stay-at-home dad, and Steve Wiltgen, a product manager for a big tech company after they adopted their son, Wyatt. But that's not all! They also run an animal sanctuary in Texas called "Wyatt's Second Chance Ranch." They're providing the family life they always wanted to as dads. Here's their story.


Steve (left), Nick and Wyatt


Nick and his partner Steve have been together over seven years. In the past, they had shuffled back and forth between Texas and California, due to changing jobs and life circumstances. But as they were packing up and heading back to California for the second time, they received a call that would ultimately decide where they were to put down roots.

"We got a phone call from a very close friend of mine," shared Nick. "She told me her sister had a baby and that she was unable to parent the child. She asked if we would be interested in adopting him."

Nick and Steve remember talking for less than 10 minutes, but just knew this was it: it was their chance to become dads.

They called Nick's friend back and said "yes."

Nick and Steven moved back to California and began working at becoming Wyatt's foster parents. They encountered some pushback from the manager of the children and family services who disapproved of them as a couple for religious reasons. But, the dads-to-be fought the objections and the issue was resolved. Soon after, they became foster parents to their one-and-half-month-old son, Wyatt.

The family's stay in California turned out to be temporary. Nick and Steve had always envisioned raising their family with space for the kids to run around. So it wasn't long before they bought a house back in Texas and moved back.

Then came the animals.

Nick had always loved animals, so when they were back in Texas, he started taking animals in as a hobby. Fifty animals later, and the family have a small zoo on their hands. The dads decided to turn their menagerie into a rescue and they named it after their son, "Wyatt's Second Chance Ranch." They have all sorts of animals from cows, pigs and goats, to parrots, emus and mini horses. And Wyatt loves them all.

"He sits on horses, and his pet cow. Plays with chickens, cuddles turkeys, collects fresh chicken eggs, and has two acres dedicated of the yard just for him to run and ride his little motor bike."

Nick and Steve are created the dream childhood for Wyatt.

2017 was a big year for the family. They moved twice, bought a house, started their animal rescue and finalized Wyatt's adoption in November. Looking ahead, the dads would love to grow their family to include older foster children but they may not be for a couple more years. For now, they're loving being parents to Wyatt and enjoying their new life as animal rescuers.

And what about their new definition of fun? The dads now agree that it's the little things that have become the most important.

"Watching him grow and learn new things on the daily is so much more fulfilling," shared Nick. "He has given us a purpose in which we never experienced before."

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New York Will Fight 'Repugnant' Trump Rule on Adoption, Says Cuomo

Governor Andrew Cuomo of New York promises legal action of the Trump administration moves ahead with plans to allow discrimination against LGBTQ adoptive and foster parents

Last week, the Trump administration announced plans to allow adoption and foster care agencies to discriminate against prospective LGBTQ parents — but he may face a legal fight from (former) hometown. In a tweet, Governor Andrew Cuomo of New York said the proposed move "isn't just discriminatory and repugnant to our values,— it's also heartless and dumb as it would deny countless children a loving family and a safe place to call home." If the proposal moves forward, he continued. "we'll take legal action to stop it.

Governor Cuomo's office followed up the tweet with a lengthier statement posted to their website:

Once again the Trump administration is attacking the hard-earned rights and protections of the LGBTQ community, this time proposing a new measure that would give foster care and adoption agencies license to discriminate based on sexual orientation or gender identity.

Trump's proposal isn't just discriminatory and repugnant to our values — it's also heartless and dumb as it would deny countless children a loving family and a safe place to call home. If he moves forward with this rule, we'll take legal action to stop it.

No matter what happens in Washington, New York State is and will continue to be a beacon of equality in this country. Our Human Rights Law and adoption regulations expressly prohibit discrimination against the LGBTQ community, including when it comes to adoption. I encourage any LGBTQ New Yorker who feels they are a victim of this discrimination to contact the State Division of Human Rights for assistance.

Our message to the Trump administration is simple: there is no place for hate in New York or in our nation, and we will not allow this noxious proposal to stop LGBTQ New Yorkers from becoming parents or providing care to children in need.

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Trump Administration to Allow Discrimination Against LGBTQ Foster and Adoptive Parents

In its latest move against the LGBTQ community, the Trump administration has proposed a rule that will give adoption and foster care agencies license to discriminate on the basis of religion

On Friday, the Department of Health and Human Services proposed a new rule to reverse an Obama-era policy prohibiting discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity — allowing foster and adoption agencies to legally refuse to work with prospective adoptive and foster parents who identify as LGBTQ on the grounds of religious belief.

Denise Brogan-Kator, speaking to the New York Times, said the proposal would have an "enormous" impact on the LGBTQ community, noting that all organizations that get funding from the department will be "free to discriminate."

The White House, for its part, proclaimed the proposed rule was promoting "religious freedom," saying in a statement that "the federal government should not be in the business of forcing child welfare providers to choose between helping children and their faith."

As the New York Times pointed out, LGBTQ couples with children are far likely than different-sex couples to be raising adopted children. This move in support of so-called "religious freedom," then, will merely negatively impact the more than 400,000 children currently in the foster care system by denying them loving homes with LGBTQ individuals and couples.

Read more about this rule here. We'll be sure to keep readers up to speed as this issue develops.

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That mantra is now a Children's Book, cowritten by Karamo and his 22-year-old son, Jason, who used to come how and "say things like, 'I don't want to be me, I wish I was someone else, I wish I had a different life." As a parent, that "broke my heart," Karamo told Yahoo! Lifestyle. "I would say to him, 'You are blessed and you are perfect just the way you are,' as a reminder that you have been given so much and you should be appreciative and know that you're enough — I know that the world will try to tear you down, but if you can say to yourself, 'I am perfectly designed,' maybe it can quiet out some of those negative messages."

The illustrations, by Anoosha Syed, also make a point of displaying families of a variety of races and sexual orientations throughout the book.

Read more about Karamo's fascinating path to becoming a gay dad here, and then check out the video below that delves deeper into the inspiration behind "You Are Perfectly Designed," available on Amazon.



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