Nic and Ross: A Relationship Blessed by Singer Adele
At an Adele concert in Barcelona, the famous singer called Nic and Ross up on the stage. In front of thousands of screaming fans, Ross proposed to Nic.
Six years ago, on a Friday night in Cape Town, South Africa, at a casual dinner party, Ross Levin, then 36, met Nicholas Markovitz. Ross, a property developer – and a dead ringer for Liev Schreiber – had been married to a woman and was the father of two teenage kids. Nic was a 30-year-old marketing and promotions professional with more than a passing resemblance to Matt Bomer.
There was an immediate attraction between the two men. And a connection: They were both Jewish. They became an item almost instantly. And it was only three days after that dinner party that Nic told Ross, "I think I love you."
Adele, Ross and Nic
Ross reciprocated the feeling. A few years later, during an Adele concert in Barcelona, Adele called the men up on stage to serenade them. And on that stage, in front of thousands of wildly enthusiastic Adele fans, Ross proposed to Nic.
There were more surprises to come. They threw an engagement party back in South Africa on September 17, 2016, that morphed into their surprise wedding! (It was also the first South-African gay wedding officiated by a rabbi!) They posted a short and moving video of that day on their Facebook account.
Nic who has been free of alcohol and drugs for 5 years realized that his former lifestyle was no longer making him happy. Both Nic and Ross agreed early on that they would love to have a family together. They settled on surrogacy as their preferred way of creating a family. They felt supported by South Africa's progressive Children's Act that stipulates that surrogacy requires a High Court order before embryo transfer rather than an adoption order after birth. A wonderful meeting with their future surrogate sealed the deal. Ross and Nic felt they were in a position to affect their surrogate's life positively as well.
The amount to paperwork required for their surrogacy – among which many medical tests and psychiatric evaluations – was overwhelming at times, but useful and appropriate. The men are convinced the world would be a better place if all intended parents had to jump through these hoops!
The new dads with baby Willow
They've had invaluable support from an unexpected source: Ross's ex-wife. Nic calls her "the most incredible woman"; she and her two kids, 14 and 15 now, were the first visitors to see Willow in the hospital!
Some concerns they had – How will Ross's kids react? – dissipated as soon as they talked about their plans with them. The kids were both very excited for them! Other nagging doubts – Are we mentally ready for a baby? Will we be good parents? How will our relationship change? – seemed to dissolve as soon as their baby Willow was born.
Willow with older sister, Jessica
They firmly believe, if you're ready for a lifelong commitment and really want to be a dad, Go for it! And if you choose surrogacy, you will need an amazing support team: a fertility clinic, an egg donor, a surrogate, lawyers, and family support.
Ross and Nic are hoping that in a few years, they can take time off from their exacting jobs to travel the world with their daughter.
The future for this young family is holding great promise.