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New Podcast Episode Examines Experiences of Queer Parents Living with a Disability

Elizabeth Hull, a mother who has a neurological condition, has sought to document the experiences of various parents living with disabilities as part of new podcast series. Her latest includes those in the LGBTQ community.

What's it like to be a parent with a disability in the queer community? Elizabeth Hull, a mother who has a neurological condition sought to find out as part of her series looking at the parenting experiences of a variety of different communities.

In this episode, Jax Jacki Brown discuses what it's like trying to parent as a queer wheelchair user. She says in part:

"The assumptions that we are not parents I think come from the fact that we are not shown to be parents anywhere, that it's just not considered an option for people with disabilities to be parents. And so people assume all the time that I am not Anne's partner, that I must be a friend or a sister or something. It's often assumed of people in queer relationships that we can't be lovers, but I think it's even more so assumed of disabled people."

She also shared that she feels most LGBTQ people, and parents in particular, tend to be more accepting and inclusive of her status as a queer parent with a disability. "I think that is often because people within the LGBTI community have done a lot of work thinking about who they are and dealing with bigotry and exclusion. And often if they are parents, they've thought carefully about what kind of parents they want to be, and there's a kind of recognition of the importance of diversity and inclusion and those sorts of values. So that's a community we feel really safe and accepted in."

Listen to the entire podcast here.

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Gay Dads More 'Equitable' in Parenting Roles Than Straight Dads, Says New Study

Unmoored by gender roles, gay dads take equal parts in being "playmates, caregivers, protectors, role models, morality guides,

A new study conducted by Éric Feugé from the Université du Québec à Montréal observed 46 families, made up of 92 gay dads and their 46 children over a period of seven years.

The study, which Feugé says is the first of its kind, analyzed the roles gay dads take in raising their kids and found the way they parent is 'very equitable'.

'We learned that gay fathers' sharing of tasks is very equitable,' the researcher told the Montreal Gazette, who added there was a "high degree of engagement" by both gay dads in all types of parental roles. "What's really interesting is that they don't conform to roles of conventional fathers. They were able to redefine and propose new models of cultural notions of paternity and masculinity."

Unmoored by gender roles, gay dads take equal parts in being "playmates, caregivers, protectors, role models, morality guides,' the author said.

Read the full review of the research here.

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Don't F*ck With This F*g

After a homophobic encounter on the subway, BJ questions what the right response is, in an era of increasing vocal rightwing activists

On February 1, 2019, Frank and I went out on a date night, something we haven't done in a while. Our son was sleeping over at his grandparents for the night and we made plans with our friends to meet them for dinner downtown. We decided to save some money and take the subway into town instead of taking a taxi.

We boarded the subway and sat down opposite a couple, a man and woman. I noticed they looked at us as we boarded the train and began whispering to each other. Frank and I were talking to each other when I heard the man uttering under his breath, "F*$%ing faggots."

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How Do Gay Dads Celebrate Black History Month?

We asked 11 gay dads to tell us what Black History Month means to them and how they celebrate in their households.

February is Black History Month in America. And although celebrating Black history, culture and people shouldn't be confined to just one month, it does ensure an opportunity to commemorate the heroic figures of Black men and women, and also increase visibility of Black life and history; two of Carter G. Woodson's goals when he created the concept in 1926.

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14 Gay Dad Families Show Their Love This Valentine's Day

These pics of gay dads smooching will warm the hearts of even the biggest V-Day skeptics

You might quietly (or loudly) oppose the commercialism and celebration of Valentine's Day, but let's just take a moment and rejoice in these beautiful signs of affection, shared between 14 awesome two-dad families. Cynicism gone? Good.

Happy Valentine's Day, dads! We hope you have a lovely day with your kids, your significant other, and / or friends. Because who doesn't love love!?!

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How Gay Dads Celebrate Valentine's Day: Before and After Kids

Tom Bourdon asks gay dads how celebrating Valentine's Day has changed for them since kids came into their life

Life changes so much when you become a parent, so I thought I'd ask some parents how Valentine's Day compares - before kids and after. Watch the video to hear what they had to say.

Watch the video:

We'd love to know how your Valentine's Days have changed since having kids! Let us know in the comments.

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Why Date Night Is So Important this Valentine's Day

When you're a parent, time alone with your significant other isn't a luxury — it's a necessity.

Even before the morning sunlight — and my eyelids — have lifted, I'm reminded that I'm somebody's father. It's usually around 5:40am when my 8-year old son Maxwell pokes his head into our room shouting "cock-a-doodle-doo" at the top of his lungs. He's usually wearing an adorably comfy onesie, a look he thankfully refuses to retire. His rooster call is followed up with strict demands in quick succession:

"Warm milk!"

"Turn on the lights."

"Where's your phone?"

"Put on Nick Jr."

"Feed me yogurt while I play Fortnite!" (Note: we don't… well… anymore.)

This Groundhog Day routine follows us as we pick out his clothes for the day —"Comfy camouflage t-shirt and sweat pants!" he insists (shoot me now). We then make him breakfast, prepare his packed lunch and then make sure his completed homework is in his schoolbag.

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Gay Dads Featured in New AT&T Ad

AT&T is the latest company to feature gay dads in their advertising so far this year!

I hope this becomes the norm that we regularly see brand advertising featuring gay dads. And I hope it becomes so much the norm that I don't feel compelled to write about it anymore!

We're getting there, little by little.

Mega-brand AT&T just released a short video/commercial that features two protective dads making sure that their babysitter is equipped to take care of their children. What strikes me most about this spot is the normalcy. These are simply two normal parents, regardless of gender, who are making sure their children will be properly watched. No stereotypes, no big messaging, no big deal. Just two men being protective parents.

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