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This Gay Man Wrote a Children's Book After His 3-Year-Old Godson Asked Him to

Dr. Alphonso A. Buie tells Gays With Kids about his new children's book about a gay dad family

Guest post written by Dr. Alphonso A. Buie.

Hello Everyone,

My name is Dr. Alphonso A. Buie. I was born and raised in Chicago, IL but now I reside between Los Angeles, CA and Beijing, China as a Professor in the School of Business. So how did I become a children's book author? Well the answer is simple, a child told me to…

Yes that is right, my godson told me one day at the tender age of 3 years old that I should write books because I am smart. So, with this little guy being my inspiration, I began writing a children's book that I felt could be the beginning of a series that could impact the world, My Two Dads.


My Two Dads is about a boy named Jacob who is raised by two fathers. It displays life from Jacob's point-of-view and how some of his friends' families are structured. The book helps to foster and show that different families may exist but they all provide love.

The book also touches on different family structures such as single-moms, uncles and step-parents the will be expounded upon in later series. It is a great way to introduce different family dynamics to children, while helping children to see diverse families can provide love to their children.

My Two Dads promotes diversity, non-traditional families and conversations around the differences in each demographic. The goal is to help children and adults see that all families are centered on love. I plan to further this series with other titles and topics centered around diversity.

What I am hoping for is that people will understand that love is love. I believe in my stories for children, all centered around love and teaching that it is okay to be different. To change tomorrow we must start with teaching diversity to today's youth.

Dr. Al

You can purchase My Two Dads at Amazon or Barnes & Noble.

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