Personal Essays by Gay Dads

5 Reasons Why We Love Gays With Kids!

Our longtime blogger Erik Alexander breaks down five reasons he loves Gays With Kids to celebrate our 5th birthday!

Photo Credit: BSA Photography

In the divisive and polarizing environment that gay dads live in today, what would we do without Gays With Kids? Honestly.
Just think about it. GWK gives the gay dads of America and across the world an outlet to feel a sense of belonging and inclusion that, for many, is difficult to find. Furthermore, GWK is primarily about us—gay dads.

With that being said, this is GWK's 5th anniversary! So how better to show my appreciation than to list My 5 reasons Why: We Love Gays With Kids!


Reason Number 5: The adorable photo essays!

Tough day? Stressed out? GWK never disappoints when it comes to their uplifting and cheerful parade of photos. They seriously can brighten any day. Whether it's the first family snap shot in a pumpkin patch, the monthly montage of 'new baby' pictures, gay pride family photos from throughout the country, or the hilarious pictures of terrified children in Santa's lap, your mood will instantly take a sharp sweet turn.

Reason Number 4: Sense of community

Being a gay dad in America is harder in some parts of the country than others. For example, gay dads may have an easier time being able to relate to other gay dads in NYC more so than the gay dads in a rural town in Oklahoma or Arkansas. That's why it is so important that different GWK platforms such as Facebook, Instagram and their website enables all gay dads around the country to take part in the bigger picture by allowing everyone to weigh in on the conversation while also giving us all a sense of belonging and community.

Reason Number 3: Lots of laughs!

As if you didn't know already, sassy gay men are hella good at cheering people up—even if they don't mean to "girl." :: lip pop:: ((ahem, @bigdognyc/Rocco)) 🤣

From some of the comments left by community members to the memes (and lets not forget some of the hilarious stories written by gay dads themselves) it's definitely hard to keep a straight face as you scroll through.

Reason Number 2: Selfless devotion behind the scenes

I cannot imagine how difficult it must be to keep GWK going with new and thoughtful content every single day. Brian, Ferd, Rosalind, David and all the other magic makers of GWK allow each of us the opportunity to expand our minds and grow stronger with every inspiring story we read.

They work around the clock collecting pictures and thinking of new and exciting material to share with our ever growing community. GWK is what it is because of this talented dream team that makes the magic happen every single day.

Reason Number 1: Self-confidence

This particularly hits home to me. I have always loved to write. Even when I was in middle school, I would sell short stories to my classmates. As I grew older, that hobby faded away and other hobbies took its place. After our first daughter was born I started jotting down my thoughts again. Though not new to writing, I was new to the subject matter. I will never forget the day when Brian Rosenberg, the founder of GWK responded to my email about submitting my personal blogs to their website. That moment, now 3 years ago, ignited my hobby into a burning passion that has not stopped since. Discovering my voice through writing again allowed me to find something I haven't always had—self confidence. Reading the other stories of other gay dads is also a huge confidence booster. We are all in this together!

On behalf of myself and all the other gay dads and gay allies across this country I say,
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU Gays with Kids! You are part of our family and each one of us are honored to be part of yours. Happy 5th Anniversary GWK!

I would love for you to follow our family's journey!

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