Most Fathers Experience "Dad Shaming," Says Study
52% of dads with kids ages 0-13 say they experience some form of criticism from their partners, family, friends and even complete strangers
Just in time for Father's Day, The T.C. Mott Children's Hospital in Michigan released a new national poll of 713 fathers that found a majority experience some form of criticisms as new parents. While we have long known new mothers are subjected to criticism, less studies have focused on the experiences of dads.
About half of fathers (52%) say they have been criticized about their parenting style or choices. The common source of criticism is the child's other parent (44%), though the report didn't explore if this finding was equally true for LGBTQ couples. Grandparents (24%) and the father's own friends (9%) were also common sources of criticism. Dads even reported receiving criticism about their parenting from strangers in public places or online (10%), as well as professionals like teachers or health care providers (5%).
Among some of the findings:
- 67% of dads say they were criticized for how they discipline their child
- 43% are criticized for their children's diet and nutrition
- 32% are criticized for not paying attention to their children
- 32% are criticized for being too rough with their kids
"Over one quarter of fathers in this Mott Poll noted that criticism made them feel less confident in their parenting, and 1 in 5 fathers said that criticism made them want to be less involved as a parent," the report says. "In short, too much disparagement can cause fathers to be demoralized about their parental role. This is unfortunate for both father and child, and those tempted to criticize fathers should be wary of this potential consequence."
Read the whole report here.