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Un programa de asistencia financiera pone la maternidad subrogada al alcance de este maestro soltero gay

Gonzalo Curbelo comparte cómo decidió convertirse en padre soltero y cómo un programa de asistencia administrado por Men Having Babies ayudó a poner ese sueño a su alcance.

"Me he dado cuenta de que, aunque parecería ideal comenzar una familia con alguien especial, no significa que no puedas hacerlo por tu cuenta", dice Gonzalo Curbelo, padre soltero gay. Gonzalo, un maestro que vive en Tampa, Florida, comenzó su viaje de subrogación hace más de siete años cuando comenzó a ahorrar para la maternidad subrogada. Ahora, a solo dos meses de que su madre sustituta quede embarazada, Gonzalo comparte cómo decidió convertirse en padre soltero y cómo una organización dirigida por padres homosexuales lo está ayudando a cumplir sus sueños.

Gonzalo nació en Uruguay, pero se crió en Nueva York, el más joven de tres niños. Al crecer, Gonzalo luchó con su sexualidad y no estaba seguro si los niños alguna vez serían parte de su futuro. "Salir fue difícil para mí y recuerdo que crecer gay tampoco fue fácil", recordó Gonzalo. A medida que crecía, todavía sentía mucha aprensión por ser gay y tener hijos. No fue hasta que estuvo en una relación a largo plazo que comenzó a sentir de manera diferente. "Comencé a verme como un padre gay", dijo Gonzalo.

Para los hombres homosexuales, convertirse en padres puede ser un desafío, incluso sin tener en cuenta las limitaciones biológicas y sociales, y mucho menos seguir ese camino solo. Cuando Gonzalo comenzó a considerar seriamente la subrogación, comenzó a llamar y chatear con agencias. Pronto quedó claro que la subrogación estaba potencialmente fuera del alcance de este maestro de escuela.

Durante una de sus llamadas a una agencia, alentaron a Gonzalo a mirar el Programa de asistencia para padres gays (GPAP) Men Having Babies. GPAP ayuda a poner la maternidad de alquiler a su alcance para muchos hombres gay cuyo sueño es convertirse en un padre biológico pero no tienen los medios financieros. "Al principio estaba preocupado acerca de una agencia sin fines de lucro que podría ayudarme", compartió Gonzalo, "pero comencé a sentirme angustiado luego de darme cuenta de que el camino hacia la paternidad sería casi imposible - [era] demasiado costoso". " No listo para perder su sueño de convertirse en papá, Gonzalo decidió postularse.

Gonzalo calificó inicialmente para GPAP 1 - Journey Booster - que es la primera etapa que ofrece a los futuros padres servicios con descuento o donados de proveedores de fertilización in vitro, gestación subrogada, donación de óvulos y servicios legales. Sin embargo, incluso con estos servicios con descuento, Gonzalo todavía encontró que era una lucha financiera. Decidió solicitar GPAP II - Asistencia directa - que, de ser seleccionado, proporcionaría subvenciones en efectivo y servicios gratuitos. Gonzalo solicitó por dos años, hasta que calificó. Desde entonces, Men Having Babies y GPAP han hecho su viaje posible. "[Ellos] me ayudaron con todo", dijo Gonzalo. "A través de ellos me emparejaron con una agencia de subrogación y especialistas de FIV". Para Gonzalo, el viaje sigue siendo muy caro, pero GPAP lo ha hecho posible y le ha permitido llegar a un punto en su camino hacia la paternidad que, en un momento, no creyó posible.

Gonzalo y su sustituto

Gonazlo actualmente se está acercando al final de todos los trámites y se está preparando para la primera transferencia de embriones. "He terminado todas las pruebas con la clínica de fertilidad en Texas, viaje para encontrarme con la sustituto, y actualmente estoy esperando los trámites legales para finalizar", compartió Gonzalo. Ha sido un proceso largo, explicó Gonzalo, pero todo está funcionando.

Aunque Gonzalo tuvo una cierta aprehensión inicial de ser padre soltero, se está enfocando en todas las cosas que espera con la paternidad. "¡Hay tantas cosas!" dijo Gonzalo. "He sido maestro durante los últimos trece años y he ayudado a dar forma a las vidas de tantos pequeños. Ahora, estoy muy emocionado de poder tener mi propio hijo y verlos crecer y ofrecer todo mi amor a ellos ".

Convertirse en padre no es el único capítulo nuevo y emocionante de su vida: en agosto, Gonzalo se está mudando a Europa del Este, para enseñar en una escuela de Bachillerato Internacional (IB). Con familia en todo el mundo y en Europa, Gonzalo vio esta oportunidad como una oportunidad para criar a su hijo como un ciudadano mundial solidario. "Tengo muchas ganas de ver el mundo con mi hijo", dijo Gonzalo, "y tener la experiencia de vivir en diferentes países y aprender diferentes idiomas".

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