Meet Gay Dads: Ryan and Marcin With Liam

Ryan, 36, and Marcin, 34, live in Houston, Texas and have been together for five years. They were married in 2013 and adopted their son Liam as a newborn in 2015. Both Ryan (Tata) and Marcin (Daddy) always wanted kids. Get to know Ryan and Marcin a little better as part of our Meet Gay Dads series.


September 2015: Ryan (left) holding Liam and Marcin at Old MacDonald's Farm and Pumpkin Patch in Houston, Texas.

Gays With Kids: We love a good love story. How did you two meet?

Ryan: We met on an online dating website (Chemistry.com). From our first date, we talked honestly about our desire to become fathers, although at the time we weren't sure how that would happen!

Liam's first trip abroad was to visit Marcin's family in Gdansk, Poland for Christmas 2015! Here they are in Marcin’s parents' living room.

Gays With Kids: Please share why you chose your particular path to fatherhood.

Ryan: We were introduced to an open adoption agency at Houston's Gay Pride Parade and knew this was how we'd make our dreams a reality.  After being "live" for about 9 months, our son's amazing birth mother found us in January 2015 via Facebook and we instantly clicked with her and her family.  In February, we traveled to Colorado to meet them and returned in May to witness the miracle of Liam's birth.

October 2015: The day Liam's adoption was finalized in Austin, Texas

Gays With Kids: What do you consider to be the most important lesson you are teaching your child?

Ryan: Unconditional love.

December 2015: After a 14-hour trip Ryan (right), Marcin and Liam arrive in Marcin's hometown of Gdansk, Poland to enjoy the holidays with their Polish family

Gays With Kids: Please share any advice you may have for others considering a similar path to fatherhood.

Ryan: No matter how difficult or emotionally exhausting the journey becomes, never ever ever give up.  Even though it doesn't always seem like it, when the time is right your baby will come to you.

May 2015: Ryan holds Liam in their hotel room in Denver shortly after bringing him home from the hospital

 Gays With Kids: Is there anything else you'd like to share about your experiences creating or raising your family?

Ryan: Witnessing our son’s birth was a life-changing moment. Being dads is the most important role of our lives. We love and treasure every second of it.

May 24, 2015: Marcin (left) holding Liam and Ryan at the Loveland hospital in Colorada the day after Liam was born

To follow the adventures of Marcin, Ryan and Liam, check out their Instagram page: @therealdadsofhouston. 

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