Gay Dad Life

"Over the Moon": Congrats to Gay Dads on May Births and Adoptions!

Join us in congratulating all of the gay men in our community whose families grew in the Month of May!

Wishing all of these gay dads congratulations on their exciting news this month. From pregnancy announcements, to becoming first-time dads, congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!

Circle Surrogacy is the proud sponsor of May's Congrats post. They were founded in 1995 on the belief that everyone should have the opportunity to be a parent. "For over 20 years we've helped LGBTQ+ couples and singles around the world fulfill their dreams of parenthood. We've helped bring more than 1,900 babies into this world... and counting!"


Congratulations to dads Gamaliel and Jimmy on the birth of their twins!

Gamaliel and his husband Jimmy welcomed twins, Alejandro and Anna, via surrogacy on April 1. The new family of four live in Miami, Florida and are immigrants from Venezuela and Dominican Republic.

"We became dads through an amazing woman from Colombia that honored us with being our surrogate!" shared Gamaliel. "We would love to speak to anyone who is interested in the process, and share this information. They can contact us. Holding our Princess and Prince for the first time was like falling in love for the first time ever! Never felt this type of love in our lives!"

Congratulations to this Floridian family!

Congratulations to dads Carlos and Oscar on the birth of their daughter!

Carlos and Oscar, both originally from Spain live in Germany and became dads via surrogacy in America. They've been together 8 years, and they always knew they wanted to be parents.

"We started our surrogacy journey 3 years in the US. Before that we had to investigate to feel good about the process. We thought the US regulations are fair and ethic," said Carlos.

"We were not so lucky with nature, our first embryos were not good and our doctor suggested also to change surrogate. That was hard since we have a good relationship with her. But April (their surrogate) was the best. We visited her in her 5th month of pregnancy and felt a big connection."

"We always thought we were going to have a boy but we didn't want to interfere nature. Sofia came into the world on April 2nd after a long natural labor ... seeing her hairy head coming out was incredible, we all had tears of happiness."

Congratulations to dads Matthew and Chip on the birth of their youngest son, Holden!

Dads Matthew and Chip have twin three year old sons, August and Sandon, and on May 6, their youngest Holden joined the family.

"We missed the birth of our twin sons, our surrogate had to undergo an emergency c-section so it was really important to us that we made the birth of our newest son," explained Matthew. "And even though he did come a week and a half early, we were able to book last minutes flights to make it to Portland in time for the birth."

"It was the most amazing experience witnessing our son's birth and to be able to be the first one to hold him after he was born. We were both overwhelmed with joy holding our new son for the first time knowing that our family was now complete. And of course there are no words to describe how grateful we are to our surrogate and her family for helping bring our new son into the world."

Congrats to this family from Omaha, Nebraska!

Congratulations to dads Richard and Stefan on the birth of their daughter!

Richard and Stefan returned to Oregon to work with their wonderful surrogate for a second time to complete their family.

"The pregnancy and birth went really smoothly. The support from the surrogate's family and friends was heartwarming," said Richard. Their daughter was born April 18th.

"We're over the moon that our daughter is so calm and healthy," shared Stefan. "She is now five weeks old and we've just returned to Germany, where we live. Her big brother is so sweet with her."

"We're the luckiest guys in the world!"

Congratulations to dads Matt and Joseph on the adoption of their daughter!

LA husbands Matt and Joseph had their adoption profile live for only 2.5 month before our daughter was born. "We got the call from our agency on April 19 saying that she was born at 6am that morning and that we were chosen by the birth parents to adopt her!" said Joseph. "The birth parents specifically asked for a gay couple."

"The first time we held her were were in complete shock! We were so happy and surprised," said Matt. "We kept asking ourselves "is this real?" How could this perfect little baby fall into our life's as if she was just dropped off by a stork or something. We instantly fell in love with her."

So far, life as dads of two is going relatively smoothly. "Couples that make their families through adoption have to fit nine months of planning into a short time," continued Matt. "We had one day, and I think we did a great job setting the house up for Stella." Matt added, "Baby #2 seems not as hectic as baby #1. We know what we are doing now, every piece isn't a completely new learning experience. But I will say, I completely forgot how hard the whole sleep thing is."

Congratulations to dads Stevey and Mika on the birth of their daughter!

After attending a Men Having Babies conference in January 2018 in San Francisco Stevey and Mika wanted to get our journey to fatherhood started as soon as possible. "We found the most amazing egg donor and surrogate in San Diego, they helped make our dream of becoming dads come true!"

Little Skylar was born May 18 in San Diego via surrogate.

"Holding Skylar for the first time it felt like our whole world was suddenly complete! All we wanted to do is provide our baby girl with all the love and protection in the world. 💕"

Congrats to this new family of three from Fresno, California.

Congratulations to dads Stephen and Sean on their exciting news!

Stephen and his husband Sean are growing their family again with the help of their amazing surrogate who lives in Maine, Portland. "Our son Sawyer are super excited to spend time with our surrogate Brittany and her family," said Stephen. "We're looking forward to teaching Sawyer what it means to be a big brother and readying ourselves for the chaos and fun of having two kids in the house."

This will be the second surrogacy journey for the dads and they're beyond thrilled to grow their family.

Congratulations to dads JJ and Drew on welcoming their youngest daughter!

JJ and Drew have expanded their family for the second time through the foster care system, welcoming baby Eliza. She joins big sister Maya who is 2 years old.

"It felt so wonderful to hold her that from the moment we saw her we knew she's ours and we'll do anything to give her the life she deserves," said JJ. "Since we have used the foster system for our girls, there are ups and downs and a few surprises along the way. But we wouldn't trade it as it has brought us our family of four."

Maya is adjusting well to the role of big sister, and loves to hold Eliza or hold her hand at least. Congrats to this family in Irvine, California!

Congratulations to dads Ricky and Jeff on welcoming their daughter!

Ricky and Jeff were contacting by their son's bio mom when she found out she was pregnant again, and she wanted them to adopt the baby.

"We were fortunate enough to be able to experience the whole birthing with Kylie," said Ricky. "Holding her for the first time was the most amazing and emotional feeling you can ever experience."

"Kadyn is beginning to warm up to her," continued Jeff. "At first he pretty much just ignored her and didn't pay much attention to her. More recently he's given her more attention by pointing and saying "uh oh" if she begins to cry and has given her a couple of kisses on his own."

Congrats to this forever family of San Bernardino, California!

This post is sponsored by Circle Surrogacy

Circle was founded in 1995 on the belief that everyone should have the opportunity to be a parent. To this day, that belief is at the core of everything we do. For over 20 years we've helped straight and LGBTQ+ couples and singles around the world fulfill their dreams of parenthood. We've helped bring more than 1,900 babies into this world... and counting!

We're an agency comprised of social workers and lawyers, accountants and outreach associates, and program managers and coordinators; but, more importantly, we're an agency made up of parents, surrogates and egg donors, who are passionate about helping people build their families, and invested in each and every journey.

Circle is proud to have helped so many gay families achieve their dreams of becoming parents. Together, we make parenthood possible.®

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