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"Intoxicating and Unforgettable"; Congrats to Gay Dads Whose Families Grew in March!

This month's Congrats post was brought to you by Choice Network in Ohio. Choice Network is a national leader in LGBTQ adoption.

We're celebrating adoption finalizations, births, and even an engagement for two gay dads. We're continuously thrilled to share our community's wonderful news!

Congrats dads!

This month's Congrats post was brought to you by Choice Network in Ohio. Choice Network is a national leader in LGBTQ adoption. They have a goal of 50% of their families being created with LGBTQ people. "It is our core value that love makes a family." We're thrilled to be partnering with Choice Network to offer our congrats to dads whose families grew this month!


Congratulations to dads Jake and Tom on the birth of their son Connor!

Jake and Tom grew their New Orleans family by one, joining big sister Isabel, and welcomed their son Connor on February 28 via surrogacy.

"This surrogacy journey was quite the rollercoaster," said Jake. "It took three attempts to have an embryo that made it to a successful pregnancy. After that things were going well until 13 weeks of pregnancy when we were told he had an extremely enlarged bladder and he was unlikely to survive." The dads were heartbroken. They had another ultrasound at 15 weeks that showed the same thing. "We were completely devastated but had an incredible surrogate who was very supportive. While thinking about our options we asked for one more ultrasound at 16 weeks and everything had resolved! We were told that this was extremely rare and had multiple repeat ultrasounds throughout the pregnancy that were all normal. When they handed Connor to us in the delivery room it was almost unreal as he looked perfect and peed immediately after delivery. He's a baby that could have very easily never have made it, but somehow survived the odds."

Connor's dads completely adore him and they love watching how excited Isabel gets at everything he does. "He really completes our family."

Congratulations to dads Jason and Charlie for finalizing the adoption of their daughter Amelia!

Jason and Charlie began their journey into fatherhood by being foster parents to two perfect little boys. After they returned home, they decided to close their home because of the emotional toll the foster journey took on their lives. The boys went home on a Saturday; the following Monday, they received a message from a friend that she wanted help finding adoptive parents for her newborn. "We went and visited her in the hospital on Tuesday night, and Amelia came home with us on Thursday!"

Although the two were engaged in 2017, they hadn't gotten married when they brought Amelia home. "To avoid step-parent adoption, we went ahead and wedded the following Thursday and filed for adoption," shared Jason. "We finalized adoption on February 13, just in time to celebrate our new little love for Valentine's Day."

"The final adoption day was incredibly overwhelming for both of us," said Charlie. "We realized early on that we wouldn't be able to adopt for various reasons, but this little bundle of joy showed up and changed our lives. To be able to file for adoption and be married on the same day in Oklahoma, of all places, was an incredible realization that the world around us is changing for the good, and we have a tiny miracle to prove it."



Congratulations to Tim and Damien on the adoption finalization of their son!

New Hampshire dads Damien and Tim welcomed son Aury through adoption in August last year, and on February 22, they finalized his adoption.

"Although we knew there would be no issues, the day Judge Weaver finalized our adoption was amazing. As we celebrated with family and friends, we both breathed a huge sigh of relief when Judge Weaver said, 'This adoption is now considered final, and you should celebrate. Feel free to clap and cheer for the family.' And, our support system did just that! Our little lion man is 100% ours, and we couldn't be happier."

Congratulations to Aaron and Rick on the birth of their youngest daughter Aurora!

Born on Valentine's Day, Aurora truly is the best present these dads could've hoped for!

Aurora was brought into this world via surrogate. "My amazing younger sister Lezlie gave us this beautiful gift and bringing her home is a dream realized for both of us," said Rick. This is Aaron's first biological child, and Rick's third. He has two older daughters, Isabella and Audrina, 13 and 10 respectively. "They are head over heels in love with their baby sister," said Rick.

This awesome family of five lives in Jurupa Valley, California.

Congratulations to Gary and Jack on the birth of their first child, Frankie!

On Valentine's Day, Gary and Jack welcomed their first child, Frankie, via infant adoption.

"We are over the moon!" shared Jack.

The two have been together for over nine years and married for 2 and a half. "We've always dreamt of starting a family together and decided to grow our family through infant adoption. It was quite the rollercoaster of a journey- filled with ups and downs. We're so grateful for our village of family and friends who supported us along the way. We're especially thankful for all the dads who have blazed the trail before us, showing us that our dreams of starting a family were possible."

Holding Frankie for the first time was "magical" for the dads. "All of the stress and anxiety of the adoption process instantly melted away, leaving us awestruck and madly, deeply in love."

Congratulations to Mike and Doug on the birth of Grayson!

Mike and Doug have been together for 7 years and decided they wanted to be dads many years ago. After looking at the different options, they decided adoption was the right choice for them.

And on Monday March 18, they received a call about their son Grayson.

"When we first held Grayson, it felt like every wonderful emotion poured from our hearts, while the weight that had held us for so long in anticipation had been lifted," shared Mike. "It was intoxicating and unforgettable."

We're so excited for this Baltimore family of three!

Congratulations to dads David and David on their recent engagement!

We're thrilled to share that David Stephens and David Becerra got engaged on March 13!

"He proposed during dinner on the beach at the Ritz Carlton Cancun," shared dad of two, David S. "It was very romantic. I've been married before and I had always maintained that I'd never do it again. He took a chance with me as he always does and I had no choice but to say yes. That man brought me out of a very dark time and he forever has my heart for doing that and he loves me because I gave him the courage to come out of the closet and be his true self."

"You could say we saved each other. With him I feel like anything is possible even a successful marriage."

So very happy for David S. and David B. and your beautiful family!

Love makes good families. Whether traditional or non-conforming to historically accepted definitions of family - we accept you. If you are ready and willing to participate in open adoption and honoring the pregnant person who has chosen you, you are welcome here. It's that simple. We also will fight for you. Choice Network does not shy away from hate. We are armed with well documented research, honest stories of our own, and the inherent truth that love makes good families.

We proudly carry the Human Rights Campaign status of Leader in Supporting and Serving LGBTQ Families!

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