Gay Dad Photo Essays

The First Ever "Gay Dads Day" Was a Smashing Success!

On March 1st this year, gay dads around the world came together for a moment to celebrate, rather than defend, our families

On March 1, we celebrated the first ever "Gay Dads Day." Yes, it's a made up holiday. But if National Peanut Butter and Jelly Day is a thing, why can't this be?

Whether it be from conservatives passing "religious freedom" bills that make it legal for adoption agencies to discriminate against us, or the millions of microagressions we tolerate daily from other parents, teachers, doctors, neighbors and more--gay, bi and trans dads are often put in the position of having to defend our right to be dads. So, yes, the day may be made up. But it's clear our community appreciated the opportunity to come together to celebrate--rather than defend--our families for just a day.

Here's some of the photos shared with us via Instagram on the day, as well as dads telling us why they think having a Gay Dads Day is important.

We want to hear your thoughts! What do you think of Gay Dads Day? And how should we celebrate it in 2020? We'd love to hear from you - either via the comments section of this post or send us an email.


"It helps inspire a younger generation"

"I think it's important because it helps recognizes how far gay dads have come in our journey for equality for all and where kids having two dads is accepted and loved. I feel it also helps inspire the younger gay generation that being a father is possible and that they too can get married and have a family one day as a two dad family!"

"Parenthood is an option for you, even if you're gay"

"Not too long ago I wasn't sure if I'd ever be a dad. Recognizing gay dads, and all LGBTQ parents, helps make it clear that it is an option for anyone who chooses this path. It's exhausting, but I love it."

"Showing a heteronormative society just how "normal" gay parenting is"

"It's a great way to celebrate each other as fellow gay parents. More importantly, it provides a prime opportunity to show heteronormative society how "normal" gay parenting really is. I think increased exposure and focus can help break down stigmas, ignorance, and prejudice, which is what we can all agree we want for each other, and especially for our children."

"It's important to share our stories"

"I think it's important to officially recognize Gay Dads and LGBT families with platforms such as "Gay Dads Day" because personally for so long in my life I thought not only getting married to the love of my life would be impossible but having a family of my own would be unobtainable. Because of the hard work of LGBT individuals and allies in the generations before me paving the way to political reform and shedding a light of love and acceptance for the LGBTQ community and LGBT families, we now are married *AND GOT MARRIED IN THE RED STATE OF TEXAS!* and have a beautiful daughter. It is important that we keep sharing our stories of love and happiness to encourage those that might not be in such a good place or time in their life that anything is possible and you deserve all the happiness in the world."

"There are still obstacles that need to be changed"

Celebrar el dia de los padres/madres homoparentales? Excelente idea.

Pues a pesar de las conquistas que se han logrado para ayudar a las familias homoparentales en la legislación de los países de europa, todavia existen obstáculos y percepciones que es necesario cambiar. La celebración del dia de los padres o madres homoparentales es importante para vencer esas dificultades y para crear conciencia que ayude a su aceptación como una de las tantas opciones que existen para crear una familia.

Esta iniciativa también permitirá celebrar en forma inclusiva a esas otras familias que se han creado a partir de la maternidad subrogada, de la donación de esperma o de la adopción.

Pero sobretodo, este dia es la celebración del amor que nos motivo a construir nuestra pequeña familia, de la cual nos sentimos muy orgullosos.

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Celebrate the day of the homo-parental family? Excellent idea.

For despite the achievements that have been made to help homoparental families in the legislation of European countries, there are still obstacles and perceptions that need to be changed. The celebration of the day of homo-parental families is important to overcome these difficulties and to create awareness that helps its acceptance as one of the many options that exist to create a family.

This initiative will also allow to celebrate, in an inclusive way, those other families that have been created from surrogacy, sperm donation or adoption.

But above all, this day is the celebration of the love that motivated us to build our little family, of which we are very proud.

"We think it's wonderful to have a Gay Dads Day - anything that celebrates us and broadens our visibility is a good thing!"

"We think it's wonderful to have a Gay Dads Day - anything that celebrates us and broadens our visibility is a good thing!"

We hope it helps others see beauty and happiness in our families

"We believe it's important to recognize it because it helps the world see the happiness that we as parents are able to provide to a child. And hopefully help open the minds the of people who think negatively about lgbt families, and start seeing the beauty & happiness in our families. We're just like any other family out there."

It's another step towards greater visibility 

"I think the wonderful thing about Gay Dads Day is that it is another step in greater visibility of our growing community. Not only is it an opportunity to celebrate our families, it's also a chance to share our stories and experiences with others."

It shows the world you can have a family no matter what your sexual orientation is

"I think it's important to have #gaydadsday because it shows the world that you can have a family no matter what your sexual orientation is! You don't have to be heterosexual to have a loving family.

It also may inspire men/women (who have not come out yet) that it's possible to have a family"

A man, or men, can make a fantastic, loving parent

"There are many types of families. Men aren't typically thought of as being nurturing, which is totally untrue. It's time to break that stereotype. A man (or men) can make a fantastic, loving parent."

"It normalizes us, and shows people there are many different types of families"

"It's important to have a day recognizing gay dads because it normalizes us, and shows people that there are many different types of families, and all of them are good. On our sons second day of school, I was asked by a 2.5 year old "Where is Theo's mom?" I told him that Theo has 2 dads and he had a hard time processing it. He didn't have any negative feelings towards it, but just had not been exposed to it. He is now one of Theo's best friends."

"It's important for our kids to see other gay dad families"

I think a day recognizing gay dads is important because visibility is important. It's powerful to have that platform to show others that our family is just like theirs and the other families they know. And it's important for our own kids to see other gay dad families like ours celebrated and presented in such a positive way."

"To be seen is to live in the sunlight"

"#GayDadsDay is important to show the abundance of love and joy in our families. To be seen is to live in the sunlight sharing our joy with the world. Recognizing gay dads helps other LGBTQ individuals know that building a family is possible and advances the tide of progress of acceptance for LGBTQ families."

"Hopefully we can show others there is always hope"

"We often times don't identify ourselves as gay dads - we're just parents. However, it is also good to celebrate what makes us unique. Years ago we would never have thought it was possible to have children as gay men. Hopefully we can show others there is always hope."

"It's important to show the world there are more gay dads than they think..."

"It's important to show the world that there are more gay Dads than they think."

"It's important for the adversity many gay dads feel daily"

"I think it's important for gay dads to be recognized because of the adversity many feel daily. We strive to be loving parents but we are doing so in an environment that is not always loving to us in return. While we appreciate Father's Day, this day differentiates us from the traditional straight fathers."

"We're making a difference every day in one child's life."

"We're making a difference every day in one child's life. You can't put a price on that!"

"We love our kids the same way a heterosexual parent loves theirs"

"I believe it's important to normalize the LGBTQ community as parents. Being gay doesn't play a role in how I parent my daughter. When I came out I heard several times that gay guys are pedophiles. That's such a disgusting belief to have and to even verbalize. I love my daughter more than anything. So, slapping #gay or #gaydadsday on a pic is an attempt to say "I'm gay but I'm just like everyone else." We love our kids the same way a heterosexual couple loves theirs. We give our kids everything we can because we love them. Just like a hetero couple. To me, it's all about removing these disgusting beliefs from people's minds and normalizing the LGBTQ in society."

"Our daughter will be able to celebrate us when she's older knowing that she is part of a loving, larger network"

"I think this day is important because it recognizes us as a unique community of parents. Our daughter will be able to celebrate us with as she grows older knowing that she is part of a larger, loving network."

"Celebrating love in any form is fantastic"

"Celebrating love in any form is fantastic. But acknowledging, accepting and being a champion for the love between two men and the love they have for their children is an absolute privilege. The stories behind each man and their child/ren is unique and interesting and deserves a moment of reflection from us all. Given it is biological not possible for us to have our own children, it's fascinating to understand how gay dads get given the amazing opportunity to be fathers. I give thanks everyday for having my beautiful son and am grateful to have a loving and accepting partner. I am hopeful my son will grow up in an accepting and understanding society. It's not easy, but it's definitely worth it 💖."

"Taking a day to recognize double-dad families builds confidence, instills pride and creates awareness for one another"

"In our mom-centric baby and child raising culture, taking a day to recognize double-dad families builds confidence, instills pride and creates awareness for one another. When our son was born it took nearly a year to start building a community of two-dad families, Instagram was a resource to find a reflection of my family. This day amplifies that."

"It aids in shifting the social view of the 'family'"

"Though it was recognised as "Gay Dads Day", which I think is great, I'd imagine the sentiment is the same as cross the entirety of the LGBT community. It is important to have an opportunity, as to recognise the varying faces of fatherhood and families. First, it gives our own children external examples or imagines of families that look like their own but equally it aids in shifting the social view of a family unit or what society views is the norm."

#GayDadsDay

"The more we are seen as just any other family, the more we will be accepted and viewed as equal"

"It's important for #gaydadsday to be more recognized because the more we are seen as just any other family, the more we will be accepted and viewed as equal. Plus, gay dads are fabulous! Why not have our own day?!"

"Representation is a crucial location of struggle for any exploited and oppressed people asserting subjectivity and decolonization of the mind."

— bell hooks

"This is for previous gay men, who would probably be dads today if they didn't have to fight"

"A day recognizing gay dads is important because the world needs to see how much love families that look like mine have for each other. The fight that previous gay men (who would probably be dads today) as well as gay dads still fighting is honored when we all celebrate."

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