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Gay Dads Pen Beautiful Letter Thanking Surrogate and Her Family

"Amazing, beautiful, strong, selfless, caring, incredible, hardworking and one-of-a-kind..."

All of us are dads today because of the women in this world. Whether it be a birth mom who has given us the ultimate gift of parenthood, or an egg donor who is the reason that our child has green eyes. Or the woman who were our surrogates, carrying, nurturing and protecting our children within their wombs, so that we could be the proud dads that we are today.

Jay and Adam are dads through gestational surrogacy. Their close friend Jessica was their surrogate for their eldest son, and then again for their triplets who were born in May this year. It's hard to find the words to express how grateful these dads are for Jessica and her family. But Jay's love letter to his friend does a wonderful job expressing his eternal gratitude.

Here's one dad's love letter to his surrogate and dear friend, Jessica.


"We can't post pictures about our family without posting about the beautiful family who helped us achieve our dreams. Pictured above is our amazing, beautiful, strong, selfless, caring, incredible, hardworking and one-of-a-kind friend Jessica. She was our gestational surrogate for all four of our kids. This sensational woman is the mother of three amazing children, dedicated wife and the best Nurse Practitioner around! She was a friend of ours prior to this whole journey, but now she will always be family! Words can't express how incredible Jessie is. She deserves the world and more. You are such a beautiful person inside and out, and our world is a better place because you are in it!"

"Also pictured is her husband Jason. Now Jason doesn't like social media all that much so I won't go on and on about how amazing he is, but I will say this. It takes a special person to stand back and support Jessie through these past two pregnancies when the babies aren't genetically yours. You sir are the unspoken hero of this whole journey. We are so thankful for all the hard hours you put in making sure Jessie and your kids were ok while this whole crazy thing played out. You deserve more credit than you let yourself take. You are a great man and we love you!"

"And finally they're AMAZING children! I'm not going to mention their names (respectfully), but I am going to say how incredible these guys are. First off, you three are the reason Adam and I wanted to become parents. We saw how much fun you all were and how much love and joy you brought your mommy and daddy and it inspired us to want kids of our own. Second, the way you all have been soooooooooooo supportive of mommy while she carried the babies for Adam and I so beautiful. You all are so smart, fun loving, caring, open minded, adorable and wise beyond your years! We are better parents because of our time spent with you three. We love you all like you were our own kids and always will!"

"Thank you guys. It's so rare to find such incredible people like you are. Adam and I are so lucky that we get to have you guys as our family for the rest of our lives! Love you all more than you'll ever know!"


See the Instagram post below.

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