This Women's History Month, Gay Men Honor the Gals Who Help Make Them Dads

Each and every one of us became (or will become) a dad with the help of a woman--more often than not, with the help of multiple women. So this Women's History Month, we choose to celebrate these women by asking you to tell us a bit about them. Enjoy these inspiring stories below. Want to honor a woman in your life who has helped you become a dad? Tell us about her at dads@gayswithkids.com


BJ and Frankie on their "incredible" surrogate



"We are fortunate to have so many incredible women in our lives that helped us become the people we are today. There is one woman in particular that we want to honor; @kathyfrenette. She helped us create our family through surrogacy. If it wasn't for her, we would not be blessed with the most incredible son ever! There are great people in this world and you are one of them.Your tenacity, strength, selflessness, kindness, are a few qualities that make you an incredible mother and role model to others. You are and will be forever a part of our family!"

Erik's message to their daughters' birth moms


"As hard as it was to make that choice, you chose life. You didn't know us long, but you knew our hearts instantly. You gave us your gift of life and because of that you gave us life. Our hearts swell with gratitude as we thank you for your gift, for your strength, endurance and perseverance."

Larry thanks one of the most extraordinary woman he knows


Who does Larry want to honor this Women's History Month? "Our son's Birthmother, obviously. Very big decision for a young woman to make, placing her child for adoption. Very grateful she chose David and I. ❤️"

Jeff is forever grateful to his Intentional Parenting Partner 


"The incredible woman who helped me was the friend with whom I created an Intentional Parent Partnership. She is a smart, beautiful, progressive attorney who has done great things helping many people over many years. She wanted to be a parent and didn't feel she could give up her career or manage it as a single woman. We talked about coparenting together for over a year and thoughtfully considered all aspects. Then we took the leap of faith! We have 2 amazing daughters who are 10 and 7. We live in 2 homes 2 miles apart and share the financial, emotional, logistical, spiritual, and aspirational day to day realities of supporting their growth. Our partnership was and remains intentional, cooperative, and child-centric. I thank this amazing woman for taking that leap of faith!"

Mark became a father with the help and inspiration of one particular woman


"Chemene opened our world to the older adoption world, connecting us with a great adoption agency through her grassroots support group Long Island Adoption Families."

Dads Ben and Aaron couldn't be the wonderful dads they are today without their nanny


"Our nanny, Linda, is the perfect example of a strong, loving, and caring woman. The definition of selfless. She teaches our daughter to be kind, independent, and FUN! All while allowing us to maintain our own individual identity. She never asks anything from us and yet, seems to always be there. She has welcomed us into her family and has become a permanent member of ours. We love Linda."

Dad Joseph speaks about the love and support from his number 1 fan, his mom


"My mom is everything to me. If it wasn't for her I don't know how I'd be here with my girls today. At the age of 68 she traveled half way across the world with me and held my hand during the worst of times when my daughters were born. Her continued support and strength is what keeps me going everyday. I hope and pray my daughters grow up to be the woman my mom is."


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