Guest post written by Carmen Martinez Jover author of The Baby Kangaroo Treasure Hunt, a Gay Parenting Story.
After 18 years of struggling, failed IVFs, depressions, I finally become a mum via adoption. Life has many curious ways to get you where you are today. I would have never thought that after so many years of struggling to become a Mum and that what had turned out to be my biggest nightmare turned into such amazing blessings. I never thought I'd be a writer, an artist, an international infertility lecturer, a Mum and dedicate my life to help others with books, paintings, meditations, lectures, workshops and private sessions.
When my daughter arrived, I was so afraid to share how our family was formed. I was afraid that the information would hurt her and I didn't even know where to start. I had so many fears and doubts and it was by reading a story that I found sharing so much easier and it was this that motivated me to write so many children's stories to help others share with their kids . My first story was for kids conceived via egg donation. One story just followed the other: egg donation, recipes of how babies are made, two dads, single mum by choice. I also have an autobiography where I share my infertility journey through my art, my paintings: "I Want to Have a Child, Whatever it Takes!"
Carmen with her books
I believe in reading to your child as a baby. First it helps you as a parent to overcome your fears. After reading so many times the book becomes special and your kid enjoys when you read it to them. I wrote The Baby Kangaroo Treasure Hunt, a Gay Parenting Story, and my sister, Rosemary, did the most amazing illustrations. I was later asked to write a version for Twins. These books are available in Amazon, in English, Spanish, French and Italian. In my interest to make these books touch hearts, you can now personalize them and put your own names to the characters. This makes the book fun. Children really enjoy seeing the kangaroos with their Dad's names and theirs. Books can be customized in this link.
The Baby Kangaroo Treasure Hunt and The Twin Kangaroo Treasure Hunt, tell the story of how two kangaroos want to have kids and they visit wise William who gives them a scroll of what they need in their treasure hunt: a sperm, an egg and a womb. You accompany the kangaroos to find an egg donor, a surrogate and then how the doctor puts them together and finally they become a family.
Some of Carmen's art and painting from her autobiography. The chairs symbolized wanting another chair at her family table
Carmen Martinez Jover is a Fertility Coach, an artist, a lecturer, therapist and author who writes stories to help share with your child how your family was formed. Through her personal experience she realised how storytelling makes sharing easier. Her sister Rosemary Martinez, an international award-winning designer, did the most amazing illustrations and makes this story so much fun to read with your kids. Follow Carmen on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and you may also email Carmen.