"No Greater Joy": 15 Years Later, These Dads Are Still in Love
November 14, 2017, is a very special day for dads Jason and Eric Galvez. 15 years ago in 2002, they met over coffee for the very first time. Exactly 7 years later they were married. So today, as the dads celebrate their anniversaries, we hear from Jason about being a dad to their two beautiful children through adoption, and how having a family has given both he and Eric "purpose and meaning in life." Happy 15th anniversary, Jason and Eric!
Tell us about your path to fatherhood. Individually we both always wanted to adopt. We knew there were many children in the world that simply need a family. Read more on Jason and Eric's journey to fatherhood in Jason's blog.
Tell us about any obstacles you faced on your path to fatherhood. With our first adoption our son's birth-father told the adoption agency he didn't want to sign off to gay parents. Eventually we sat down with him and told him who we are, that we are church-going professionals with large loving families and before leaving that meeting he happily signed off.
How has your life changed since you became a father? Sometimes it's hard to remember life before children. You certainly have to rearrange priorities. Children, however, give us purpose and meaning in life.
What have you learned from your child since you became a dad? I've learned there is no greater joy than the joy your children give you. Children often are a mirror as to who you are. Because of this, I've learned there are things I need to change/improve on. My son is over-dramatic at times and having a theater background I know where he gets it.
Was there ever a moment that you or Daryl experienced any serious doubts about your path to fatherhood or fatherhood itself. No, never. We were both optimistic and had faith.
Is your family treated differently than others on account of your sexual orientation or gender identity? Not at all. If anything we get periodic and random compliments when we're out and about.
Where do you see your family 5-10 years in the future? Besides in debt with our grocery bill, simply living, loving and navigating life together.
What words of advice do you have for other gay men considering pursuing your same path or parenthood? Take a day - when you are home doing laundry, trying to work, cook, clean, have a romantic dinner with your significant other etc,. and search for "crying baby" on Youtube. Turn the volume up as loud as it can go and make sure you loop the video for hours. If you can survive that day you are probably ready to start your fatherhood journey :)
Is there anything else you'd like to share about your experiences creating or raising your family? Have PLENTY of conversations with your spouse prior to having children. They say you never know someone until you marry them. While that is very true I will add you really never know someone until they become a parent. Spend time together with children. These are some of the best non-verbal conversations to have.
Watch Jason's anniversary video to husband Eric.