Gay Dad Photo Essays

Our Top Instagram Posts From 2019

Check out our round-up of some of our most popular and engaging Instagram posts from the last year!

Here's our annual round-up of our most popular and engaging Instagram posts from the past year!

Throughout 2019, thousands of gay dads from around the world sent their family photos to us, and we are proud to share as many of these pictures as we can on Instagram. Today we're showing you our most popular Instagram posts of the year. These photos will make you smile and maybe even melt your heart.

With these photos, you are helping us build a stronger and more visible gay dad community, so we hope you'll keep sharing your family pictures in the year ahead. We at Gays With Kids really appreciate your participation in our community!


“Muni and Haim live in Tel Aviv 🇮🇱 with their twin girls.👨‍👨‍👧‍👧🌈 “For us, [fatherhood] was a crazy ride.” The girls were born premature and it was a very emotional journey for the dads”

“Almost every dad has suffered some unwanted criticism either on social media or in real life, from people who 'know better' about parenting”

“When Steve was 19 years old, before he had come out, he became a dad via a previous straight relationship. When he found out (later in the pregnancy) he only had three months to prepare”

“A few years ago, Bradley admitted to himself that something in his life was badly missing: fatherhood.👨‍👨‍👧‍👦”

“I love seeing my kids light up every time they see me. The genuine love makes me feel I’m doing the Dad job right.🙌 ”

“Together 8 years, 🇪🇸 Carlos and Oscar live in Germany 🇩🇪 are the proud dads of a little baby girl, born with the help of an amazing surrogate”

“Happy Hanukkah to all those in our community who celebrate! 🕎🌈❤️ We've loved seeing all the family pics from dads and their kids”

“After learning more about older-child adoption through @YouGottaBelieveNYC, husbands Mark and Andrew decided it was the best way for them to form their family”

"When we first held Grayson, it felt like every wonderful emotion poured from our hearts, while the weight that had held us for so long in anticipation had been lifted”

“Matching outfits? Fresh haircuts? Ear-to-ear grins? Must be the time for the annual holiday photo shoot! 😍🎄✨👨‍👨‍👦”

“DC dads Rico and Vernon became fathers through surrogacy in Canada 🇨🇦, and welcomed twin daughters in December 2018.👨‍👨‍👧‍👧🌈”

 “Jensy and Junior always had a strong desire to have a family. "We always wanted to be parents," said Jensy, "to be able to love, protect and guide our children”

“Freddie and Jeff have been together for thirteen years, and married for three. “On our third date, we both discussed our desire to have a family and become dads one day”

“Cosimo 🇮🇹 lives in Germany 🇩🇪 and is the proud single dad 👨‍👦of his 6-year-old son whom he co-parents with his best friend, the biological mom”

“Our photo essay has surpassed 100 photos of dads and their kids skelebrating 💀Halloween, and we’re still adding more!! ✨👏🎃”

“For new dad Graham, holding his son for the first time was an incredibly calming and peaceful experience. “Finally our boy was here and it was our turn to take care of him”

“My sons have taught me patience, humility, forgiveness, dedication, and the deepest sense of love I’ve ever known”

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Gay Dad Photo Essays

How Single Dads Are Celebrating Valentine's Day This Year

Valentine's Day is not just for lovers! We caught up with 8 single gay dads to see how they plan to celebrate Valentine's Day with this year.

Valentine's Day is not just for lovers; it's also a day to celebrate our loved ones. And that's exactly what these single dads are doing.

Within our community, GWK has a large group of admirable, active, and awesome (!) single dads and we want to honor them! On Valentine's Day, they and their kids celebrate their family unit in the sweetest possible ways. We asked the dads to share these moments with us, and, where possible, one of the most heartwarming things they've experienced with their kids on Valentine's Day to date.

Hear their stories below.

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Gay Dad Photo Essays

11 Gay Couples Share Secrets to Their Long-Term Relationships This Valentine's Day

This Valentine's Day, we spoke with 11 gay dad couples who've been together for almost a decade or longer to learn what's made their relationships last

You're the peanut butter to my jelly, the gin to my tonic, the strawberries to my cream, the Mr. to my Mr.!

Happy Valentine's Day folks! We're excited to celebrate this day of lurrrrvvve by featuring a few dads in our community who've been together for almost a decade or more! And they're ready to share their secrets to a successful relationship and parenting partnership.

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Gay Dad Photo Essays

"Our Family Is Complete": Gay Men Celebrate Recent Adoptions and Births!

Join us in congratulating all of the men in our community whose families recently grew!

Wishing all of these gay dads whose families expanded in November and December a lifetime of happiness! Congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!

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Politics

Colorado Republicans Try and Fail to Outlaw LGBTQ Marriage and Adoption Rights

A bill introduced by four Republican state legislators in Colorado that would outlaw same-sex marriage and adoption rights was voted down.

The "Colorado Natural Marriage and Adoption Act," which would have outlawed gay marriage and adoption in the state of Colorado, was voted down in the state legislature this week. The bill was sponsored by Republican Rep. Stephen Humphrey and three of his conservative colleagues: Dave Williams, Shane Sandridge and Mark Baisley.

If enacted, the bill would have enforced "state law that marriage is between one man and one woman" and restrict "adoption of children by spouses in a marriage ... that consist of one man and one woman."

The bill, which had little chance of success, particularly in Colorado which has trended more progressive over the past several election cycles, was mostly symbolic, according to Sanridrge. "We all know this bill isn't gonna pass in this current left-wing environment," he told Colorado Public Radio. "It's to remind everyone, this is the ultimate way to conceive a child."

In a sign of how far we've come on the issue of LGBTQ marriage and parenting rights, most Republican legislators in the state did not endorse the bill.

Though the bill had little chance of passage, LGBTQ advocacy groups in the state are taking the threats seriously nonetheless. Daniel Ramos, director of the LGBTQ group One Colorado, told LGBTQ Nation that the bills were an attempt to return Colorado to its "hate status" of the 1990s, adding the aggressiveness of the measures were "a bit surprising."

Surrogacy for Gay Men

Dads Talk About Surrogacy Process in New Video for Northwest Surrogacy Center

The Northwest Surrogacy Center interviewed some of their gay dad clients for a video to celebrate their 25th anniversary of creating families through surrogacy!

Last year, Northwest Surrogacy Center celebrated 25 years of helping parents realize their dreams. And they celebrated in style by inviting the families they've worked with over the past two and a half decades to join them!

At the party, they took the opportunity to film queer dads and dads-to-be, asking them a couple of questions: how did it feel holding your baby for the first time, and tell us about your relationship with your surrogate.

Watch the video below and get ready for the water works!

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Surrogacy for Gay Men

Campaign to Legalize Surrogacy in New York Heats Up with Competing Bills

Two competing bills — one backed by Governor Andrew Cuomo and another by Senator Liz Krueger with stricter provisions — are aiming to legalize surrogacy in New York.

Governor Andrew Cuomo of New York is once again attempting to legalize commercial surrogacy in the state, which is still just one of three states in the country to forbid the practice.

"This antiquated law is repugnant to our values and we must repeal it once and for all and enact the nation's strongest protections for surrogates and parents choosing to take part in the surrogacy process," Governor Cuomo said in a statement in announcing a broader effort called Love Makes a Family. "This year we must pass gestational surrogacy and expedite the second parent adoption process to complete marriage and family equality."

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Change the World

Your Marriage Should Be Gayer, Says the New York Times

In an op-ed for the New York Times, Stephanie Coontz, author of "Marriage: a History," lists the many insights LGBTQ marriages can offer straight ones.

According to a fascinating op-ed in the New York Times this week by Stephanie Coontz, author of "Marriage: a History," turns out the people convinced marriage equality — legal across the United States for five years now — would usher in the complete breakdown of civil society should be more worried about the health of their own marriages.

In the article, Coontz details the results of research that followed 756 "midlife" straight marriages, and 378 gay marriages, and found same-sex couples reporting the lowest levels of physiological distress — with male gay couples reporting the lowest. The reason for this, the author said, is pretty simple — misogyny. The idea that men and women should strive for parity in a relationship is still a fairly new idea, Coontz said, and traditional gender roles are still pervasive. Gay couples, meanwhile, are free from such presumptions, which often results in happier, healthier relationships.

The most interesting findings in the research relate to parenting. While gender norms tend to be even more emphasized among straight people once they have children, with the bulk of the childrearing falling to mothers, same-sex couples — once again freed from the stereotypes of the male/female divide — parent more equitably. As the author notes, "A 2015 survey found that almost half of dual-earner, same-sex couples shared laundry duties, compared with just under a third of different-sex couples. And a whopping 74 percent of same-sex couples shared routine child care, compared with only 38 percent of straight couples."

When it comes to time spent with children, men in straight marriages spent the least amount of time and the lowest proportion of "nonwork" time, with their children — while men in same-sex marriages spent just as much time with their children as women in a straight relationship. "The result?" Coontz writes, "Children living with same-sex parents experienced, on average, three and a half hours of parenting time per day, compared with two and a half for children living with a heterosexual couple."

Straight fathers devote the least amount of time — about 55 minutes a day — on their children, which includes things like physical needs, reading, playing, and homework. Gay mothers spent an additional 18 minutes each and straight mothers an additional 23 minutes. Gay fathers spent the most time with their children, the study found, an average of an additional 28 minutes a day.

Taken together, straight couples spend an average of 2 hours and 14 minutes on their children. Lesbian moms spend an additional 13 minutes, while gay men spend 33 more minutes than straight couples.

One factor, the author notes, that can help explain this difference is this: gay parents rarely end up with an unintended or unwanted child, whereas a full 45% percent of pregnancies in straight relationships in 2011 (the last year data is available) were unintended, and 18% were unwanted.

But right. Gay people shouldn't be parents.

Fatherhood, the gay way

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