Gay Dad Photo Essays

Our Top Instagram Posts From 2019

Check out our round-up of some of our most popular and engaging Instagram posts from the last year!

Here's our annual round-up of our most popular and engaging Instagram posts from the past year!

Throughout 2019, thousands of gay dads from around the world sent their family photos to us, and we are proud to share as many of these pictures as we can on Instagram. Today we're showing you our most popular Instagram posts of the year. These photos will make you smile and maybe even melt your heart.

With these photos, you are helping us build a stronger and more visible gay dad community, so we hope you'll keep sharing your family pictures in the year ahead. We at Gays With Kids really appreciate your participation in our community!


“Muni and Haim live in Tel Aviv 🇮🇱 with their twin girls.👨‍👨‍👧‍👧🌈 “For us, [fatherhood] was a crazy ride.” The girls were born premature and it was a very emotional journey for the dads”

“Almost every dad has suffered some unwanted criticism either on social media or in real life, from people who 'know better' about parenting”

“When Steve was 19 years old, before he had come out, he became a dad via a previous straight relationship. When he found out (later in the pregnancy) he only had three months to prepare”

“A few years ago, Bradley admitted to himself that something in his life was badly missing: fatherhood.👨‍👨‍👧‍👦”

“I love seeing my kids light up every time they see me. The genuine love makes me feel I’m doing the Dad job right.🙌 ”

“Together 8 years, 🇪🇸 Carlos and Oscar live in Germany 🇩🇪 are the proud dads of a little baby girl, born with the help of an amazing surrogate”

“Happy Hanukkah to all those in our community who celebrate! 🕎🌈❤️ We've loved seeing all the family pics from dads and their kids”

“After learning more about older-child adoption through @YouGottaBelieveNYC, husbands Mark and Andrew decided it was the best way for them to form their family”

"When we first held Grayson, it felt like every wonderful emotion poured from our hearts, while the weight that had held us for so long in anticipation had been lifted”

“Matching outfits? Fresh haircuts? Ear-to-ear grins? Must be the time for the annual holiday photo shoot! 😍🎄✨👨‍👨‍👦”

“DC dads Rico and Vernon became fathers through surrogacy in Canada 🇨🇦, and welcomed twin daughters in December 2018.👨‍👨‍👧‍👧🌈”

 “Jensy and Junior always had a strong desire to have a family. "We always wanted to be parents," said Jensy, "to be able to love, protect and guide our children”

“Freddie and Jeff have been together for thirteen years, and married for three. “On our third date, we both discussed our desire to have a family and become dads one day”

“Cosimo 🇮🇹 lives in Germany 🇩🇪 and is the proud single dad 👨‍👦of his 6-year-old son whom he co-parents with his best friend, the biological mom”

“Our photo essay has surpassed 100 photos of dads and their kids skelebrating 💀Halloween, and we’re still adding more!! ✨👏🎃”

“For new dad Graham, holding his son for the first time was an incredibly calming and peaceful experience. “Finally our boy was here and it was our turn to take care of him”

“My sons have taught me patience, humility, forgiveness, dedication, and the deepest sense of love I’ve ever known”

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Opponents, led by Senator Liz Krueger, had once again attempted to torpedo legalization efforts this year by introducing a second bill that would legalize surrogacy in New York, but also make it the most restrictive state in the country to do so. "A bill that complicates the legal proceedings for the parents and potentially allows them to lose their genetic child is truly unfortunate," said Sam Hyde, President of Circle Surrogacy, referencing to the bill's 8-day waiting period. He also took issue with the bills underlying assumptions about why women decide to serve as a surrogate. The added restrictions imply that "they're entering into these arrangements without full forethought and consideration of the intended parents that they're partnering with," he said.

The bill was sponsored by State Senator Brad Hoylman, an out gay man who became a father via surrogacy, and Assemblymember Amy Paulin, who has been public with her experiences with infertility.

"My husband and I had our two daughters through surrogacy," Holyman told Gay City News. "But we had to travel 3,000 miles away to California in order to do it. As a gay dad, I'm thrilled parents like us and people struggling with infertility will finally have the chance to create their own families through surrogacy here in New York."

"This law will [give intended parents] the opportunity to have a family in New York and not travel around the country, incurring exorbitant costs simply because they want to be parents," Paulin said for her part. It will "bring New York law in line with the needs of modern families."


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