Gay Dad Photo Essays

These Christmas Cards From Gay Couples Will Get You in the Holiday Spirit


Enjoy this beautiful collection of our families getting into the holiday spirit, posing for the annual Christmas card pic, and sharing what they love most about the holiday season.

O'Brian and Daryl with Keithen and Camden, Glenarden, Maryland

"Christmas for us has always been about family. Santa truly outdid himself this year with the best gifts we've ever received!"

Jon and Nick with Asher, Salt Lake City, Utah

"Nothing better than spending time with our little man!!!"

John and Marcos with Italia and Roman, California

"We celebrate Christmas in the traditional American way with a Mexican flair. We get together with extended family and friends on Christmas Eve. Christmas morning is spent with just the four of us."

Richard and Carlos with Timothy, New York, NY

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"For us, Christmas isn't just a time to exchange gifts. It's a time to relish in the abundance of love and joy in our lives."

Manuel and Bud with Álvaro and Carmen, Spain

"Our favorite thing about the holiday season is that whenever the kids are bad, we can tell them that Santa is watching and they all of a sudden behave like angels. 😊"

Mark and Rob with Melanie and Cooper, Fort Lauderdale, Florida

"Our favorite thing is watching our daughter's first time understanding and falling in love with Christmas traditions: Santa, the Grinch, Elf on the Shelf ... It makes it feel magical for us all over again."

Danny and Jay with Kai and Jayden, California

"Our favorite thing is being together with all our close family members and unwrapping all the gifts together. ❤️"

Jeff and Tyler with Ava, Middletown, Delaware

"Our favorite thing about the season is taking in all of the festive sights and sounds as we explore the world around us. And when we are home there is nothing better than snuggling up together in a warm blanket, with teh tree lit and watching a holiday movie."

Ricky and Jeff with their son, Upland, California

"Spending extra time with our family and friends and celebrating the holidays."

Daniel and Victor with Olivia and Omarie, Victorville, California

"Our favorite thing about the season is spending family time together. Seeing our girls faces when we go pick our Xmas tree, decorating, and baking with Papa Victor for the holidays."

Jacek and Andrzej with Adam and Brandon, Brighton, UK

"It's a family time, and 🎅🏾,, obviously!"

Daron and Oscar with Duncan, Sun Valley, California

"We collect ornaments all year long and especially when we travel. Our favorite part about the holiday season is finally hanging them on the tree."

Igor and Joseph with Jeffrey and Jojo, Las Vegas, Nevada

"We like the family getting together for dinner the best."

BJ and Frankie with Milo, Toronto, Ontario, Canada

"Our favorite part of the holiday is getting to spend it with our family and friends, and then heading down to a beach somewhere to spend quality time together as a family."

Ryan and Jon with Ophelia, Rochester, New Hampshire

"Our favorite thing about the holiday season is the opportunity to slow down, unplug and spend time with family and friends."

Jesse and Khris with Eli and Justin, Syracuse, NY

"Our favorite thing about the holidays is going to local holiday events [such as] "Lights on the Lake," "Holidays in the City," plays and, of course, the "Syracuse Tree Lighting" --among other events.

Tony and Tyler with Caden and Gaven, Shreveport, Louisiana

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Gay Dad Photo Essays

How Single Dads Are Celebrating Valentine's Day This Year

Valentine's Day is not just for lovers! We caught up with 8 single gay dads to see how they plan to celebrate Valentine's Day with this year.

Valentine's Day is not just for lovers; it's also a day to celebrate our loved ones. And that's exactly what these single dads are doing.

Within our community, GWK has a large group of admirable, active, and awesome (!) single dads and we want to honor them! On Valentine's Day, they and their kids celebrate their family unit in the sweetest possible ways. We asked the dads to share these moments with us, and, where possible, one of the most heartwarming things they've experienced with their kids on Valentine's Day to date.

Hear their stories below.

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Gay Dad Photo Essays

11 Gay Couples Share Secrets to Their Long-Term Relationships This Valentine's Day

This Valentine's Day, we spoke with 11 gay dad couples who've been together for almost a decade or longer to learn what's made their relationships last

You're the peanut butter to my jelly, the gin to my tonic, the strawberries to my cream, the Mr. to my Mr.!

Happy Valentine's Day folks! We're excited to celebrate this day of lurrrrvvve by featuring a few dads in our community who've been together for almost a decade or more! And they're ready to share their secrets to a successful relationship and parenting partnership.

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Gay Dad Photo Essays

"Our Family Is Complete": Gay Men Celebrate Recent Adoptions and Births!

Join us in congratulating all of the men in our community whose families recently grew!

Wishing all of these gay dads whose families expanded in November and December a lifetime of happiness! Congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!

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Politics

Colorado Republicans Try and Fail to Outlaw LGBTQ Marriage and Adoption Rights

A bill introduced by four Republican state legislators in Colorado that would outlaw same-sex marriage and adoption rights was voted down.

The "Colorado Natural Marriage and Adoption Act," which would have outlawed gay marriage and adoption in the state of Colorado, was voted down in the state legislature this week. The bill was sponsored by Republican Rep. Stephen Humphrey and three of his conservative colleagues: Dave Williams, Shane Sandridge and Mark Baisley.

If enacted, the bill would have enforced "state law that marriage is between one man and one woman" and restrict "adoption of children by spouses in a marriage ... that consist of one man and one woman."

The bill, which had little chance of success, particularly in Colorado which has trended more progressive over the past several election cycles, was mostly symbolic, according to Sanridrge. "We all know this bill isn't gonna pass in this current left-wing environment," he told Colorado Public Radio. "It's to remind everyone, this is the ultimate way to conceive a child."

In a sign of how far we've come on the issue of LGBTQ marriage and parenting rights, most Republican legislators in the state did not endorse the bill.

Though the bill had little chance of passage, LGBTQ advocacy groups in the state are taking the threats seriously nonetheless. Daniel Ramos, director of the LGBTQ group One Colorado, told LGBTQ Nation that the bills were an attempt to return Colorado to its "hate status" of the 1990s, adding the aggressiveness of the measures were "a bit surprising."

Surrogacy for Gay Men

Dads Talk About Surrogacy Process in New Video for Northwest Surrogacy Center

The Northwest Surrogacy Center interviewed some of their gay dad clients for a video to celebrate their 25th anniversary of creating families through surrogacy!

Last year, Northwest Surrogacy Center celebrated 25 years of helping parents realize their dreams. And they celebrated in style by inviting the families they've worked with over the past two and a half decades to join them!

At the party, they took the opportunity to film queer dads and dads-to-be, asking them a couple of questions: how did it feel holding your baby for the first time, and tell us about your relationship with your surrogate.

Watch the video below and get ready for the water works!

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Surrogacy for Gay Men

Campaign to Legalize Surrogacy in New York Heats Up with Competing Bills

Two competing bills — one backed by Governor Andrew Cuomo and another by Senator Liz Krueger with stricter provisions — are aiming to legalize surrogacy in New York.

Governor Andrew Cuomo of New York is once again attempting to legalize commercial surrogacy in the state, which is still just one of three states in the country to forbid the practice.

"This antiquated law is repugnant to our values and we must repeal it once and for all and enact the nation's strongest protections for surrogates and parents choosing to take part in the surrogacy process," Governor Cuomo said in a statement in announcing a broader effort called Love Makes a Family. "This year we must pass gestational surrogacy and expedite the second parent adoption process to complete marriage and family equality."

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Change the World

Your Marriage Should Be Gayer, Says the New York Times

In an op-ed for the New York Times, Stephanie Coontz, author of "Marriage: a History," lists the many insights LGBTQ marriages can offer straight ones.

According to a fascinating op-ed in the New York Times this week by Stephanie Coontz, author of "Marriage: a History," turns out the people convinced marriage equality — legal across the United States for five years now — would usher in the complete breakdown of civil society should be more worried about the health of their own marriages.

In the article, Coontz details the results of research that followed 756 "midlife" straight marriages, and 378 gay marriages, and found same-sex couples reporting the lowest levels of physiological distress — with male gay couples reporting the lowest. The reason for this, the author said, is pretty simple — misogyny. The idea that men and women should strive for parity in a relationship is still a fairly new idea, Coontz said, and traditional gender roles are still pervasive. Gay couples, meanwhile, are free from such presumptions, which often results in happier, healthier relationships.

The most interesting findings in the research relate to parenting. While gender norms tend to be even more emphasized among straight people once they have children, with the bulk of the childrearing falling to mothers, same-sex couples — once again freed from the stereotypes of the male/female divide — parent more equitably. As the author notes, "A 2015 survey found that almost half of dual-earner, same-sex couples shared laundry duties, compared with just under a third of different-sex couples. And a whopping 74 percent of same-sex couples shared routine child care, compared with only 38 percent of straight couples."

When it comes to time spent with children, men in straight marriages spent the least amount of time and the lowest proportion of "nonwork" time, with their children — while men in same-sex marriages spent just as much time with their children as women in a straight relationship. "The result?" Coontz writes, "Children living with same-sex parents experienced, on average, three and a half hours of parenting time per day, compared with two and a half for children living with a heterosexual couple."

Straight fathers devote the least amount of time — about 55 minutes a day — on their children, which includes things like physical needs, reading, playing, and homework. Gay mothers spent an additional 18 minutes each and straight mothers an additional 23 minutes. Gay fathers spent the most time with their children, the study found, an average of an additional 28 minutes a day.

Taken together, straight couples spend an average of 2 hours and 14 minutes on their children. Lesbian moms spend an additional 13 minutes, while gay men spend 33 more minutes than straight couples.

One factor, the author notes, that can help explain this difference is this: gay parents rarely end up with an unintended or unwanted child, whereas a full 45% percent of pregnancies in straight relationships in 2011 (the last year data is available) were unintended, and 18% were unwanted.

But right. Gay people shouldn't be parents.

Fatherhood, the gay way

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