Gay Uncles

Happy 'Guncles' Day! Have You Thanked the Gay Uncle in Your Life?

To celebrate the important role gay men play in the lives of their nieces and nephews, check out these adorable pics below!

Two years ago, on August 14, the Internet lit up with the hashtag #GayUnclesDay, accompanied by countless adorable pictures of gay men beaming for the camera alongside their nieces and nephews. The social media sensation was all in good fun, of course, and we're supportive of any holiday that leads Olympic bobsledder Simon Dunn to post this picture on his Instagram, but it's worth noting that not every gay uncle felt celebrated that day:

"If only I was allowed to have a relationship with my either of my sister's kids," said Tristan Michel Sauvageau last year, a gay man with a large list of friends on Facebook. "I bet it's nice being a gay uncle. I guess I'll never know."

For many gay men, National Gay Uncles Day was just another silly social media antic. But for others like Tristan, the hashtag contained a message that was at best aspirational and at worst a reminder of how far we have yet to go. So, in an effort to remind the world of the wonderful, important and inspiring influence gay men can have on children, we proudly celebrate this made-up holiday with pictures of these "guncles" and their nieces and nephews.

Luis Lemec Morales, Santa Marta, Colombia

Luis has one 4-year-old nephew whom he's been close with since he was born. Luis' nephew always greets him with an enthusiastic shout and a big hug. They have a lot of fun together.

"The best part of being an uncle is to have my amazing nephew anytime I want and being able to give him back when he drains my energy," said Luis. "So it feels a little bit like having a kid without the 24 hours responsibility."

Luis's nephew has met his boyfriend and already knows more about drag queens than Luis did at his age. "He is just amazing and I hope to be a part of his life forever."

Alex Parsons, Austin, Texas

Alex not only adores being an "guncle" to niece Parker, but he also loves seeing how his brother and sister-in-law have taken so naturally to parenting. "Seeing two people come together so selflessly and immeasurably love someone as beautiful as Parker is the best part about being a 'guncle!'" shared Alex.

Coming from a Southern Baptist family, Alex feels as though not all his family understands him, but they love him all the same. As a "guncle" he hopes to set a foundation for Parker than she finds value in every human, no matter what. Although, watching her parents this past year makes him think that won't be an issue.

"I do want children someday," said Alex, talking about his own plans for fatherhood. "I know for a fact there is no greater act of love than choosing to bring someone into a family, and I will do that some day through adoption."

David Gardoni, Seattle, Washington

For David, one of the best parts of being a "guncle" has been watching his eleven nieces and nephews grow over the years. "They never stop to amaze me," said David. And, of course, being witness to the hilarious things the kids say and do.

David would love to have kids of his own, too, but wants to wait till he's a little older, possibly married, and financially stable. He thinks surrogacy would be the path he'd like to follow, but David wants to make sure that he can provide for his children because, as we all know, kids are expensive.

As a "guncle," David appreciates that he is able to give a different perspective to his nieces and nephews.

"The unique connection they have with me is that they know I am different and they are so fascinated by that," shared David. "I remember when I told a few of them that I have a boyfriend and they just had so many questions or they couldn't wait to meet the new guy in my life."

Brett David, Lubbock, Texas

Brett and his boyfriend Devin are proud "guncles" and can't wait to have their own kids one day. They're considering either surrogacy or adoption, just as long as they can share their love.

"Our connection with our niece and nephews is something that amazes us ... to show our love and how they love us as a couple."

Brett and David utilize their role as gay uncles to teach their nieces and nephews that LGBT relationships are not a negative thing, and to show how much love they have for one another.

Thomas Freeman, Atlanta, Georgia

Thomas is definitely the fun and energetic uncle! "The best part of being a "guncle" is getting the chance to get my niece and nephew all sugared up and spoil them with whatever they want because once the sugar hits they can slide back in with their parents."

Thomas grew up in a very conservative part of the country and leads a very different life to his niece and nephew. He feels as though it's his job to show them that there is a huge world filled with all kinds of people.

"I have a very different life from my niece and nephew; they live in the Deep South while Guncle Bubba lives in a more progressive city," shared Thomas. "The ability to hang out with them and expose them to people and words and sentiments they aren't seeing everyday is what makes our relationship one of mutual learning because I've lived where they do."

One day, Thomas would love his own tiny humans to wake him up too early on a Saturday. He and his partner Cody have spoken about becoming parents and are in agreement that adoption is their preferred path. "We think there are too many kids out there who need love to just keep our lives just between us," explained Thomas. "Between the two of us, Cody and I have the opportunity to raise the most amazingly caring humans. The thought of it makes me happy."

Trent Morrison, Salt Lake City, Utah

Trent has been a "guncle" since he was 7 years old, and has twenty eight of what he calls "nibblings" (nieces and nephews of siblings). The eldest is 20, and the youngest was born a little over a week ago.) His favorite part of being an "guncle" has been watching them grow and seeing their unique personalities shine through.

Since coming out, Trent has felt an extra obligation as his nibblings' "guncle."

"As a gay man, I'm able to provide a safe space for expression, creativity, and love," said Trent. "When I came out, I made a commitment to live authentically and create spaces for others to do the same--including my nibblings."

And does Trent want to be a dad himself? Yes! And with being part of such a large family, each sibling has had to start claiming names for all their some-day kids! Trent would like to adopt two kids (hopefully twins) when he's found a partner (married or committed) in about 5-10 years.

"Ever since I could remember, I've wanted to be a dad. For me, having kids is important because I see the impact and expansion of love creating a family can have."

George, Bucharest, Romania

George lives in Bucharest, Romania, and although he is unable to marry or adopt a child in his home country, he knows for sure that one day he will be a dad. At the moment he is content being a "guncle" to his one nephew.

"When I'm with my nephew I feel like I'm on a long break where I can relax; I can be playfully, protective and responsible."

Ryan Tristan Jin, New York City, New York

These gay uncles take their responsibility for offering an important and unique perspective to their siblings' kids seriously.

"We hope that by leading through example, our unique connection as uncles helps instill joy, confidence, kindness and inclusiveness as they grow to become the best version of themselves."

Josh and Ryan cannot wait to start a family. But for now, they're content experiencing the world together, learning more about one another, and being the best "guncles" they can be. "Josh and I are both lucky to have parents and family that love us unconditionally, and we want nothing more than to continue to pass that infinite love to our nieces and nephews," said Ryan.

Tyler Ziola, Grands Rapids, Michigan

Some of Tyler's favorite things to do as "guncle" is to take his niece and nephew to the park, the zoo, and is looking forward to an upcoming trip to Disney World! "I love to go out and experience new things through their eyes," he shared.

"Being an uncle brings out a different side of me," said Tyler. "I never really engaged with kids before, assuming I probably wouldn't have my own I guess, but these two littles have already shown and taught me more than I thought about myself, family, and relationships."

Tyler is planning a move to Atlanta soon but will still be an engaged "guncle."

In terms of planning his own future and potential path to fatherhood, he's undecided. "I've considered adoption and surrogacy, but it will depend on how my (yet-to-be-named, inquire within LOL) future husband and I feel. My family knows I'm hesitant and currently love spoiling my niece and nephew."

Topher McNeil, Sacramento, California

Topher, who is currently finishing his PhD, is an attentive "guncle" to his seven nieces and nephews. He loves spending time with them; hiking, going to the beach, riding rollercoasters, you name it! "There's always something my nieces and nephews want to try," said Topher.

Although Topher is no longer a practicing Mormon, he comes from a Mormon family, and he's making it a point to teach his nieces and nephews that it's okay for people to be gay and different. "I get to be their introduction to a completely new and more progressive world view."

Right now, he's a ways off from having kids, but Topher can't wait to be a dad. His preferred path would be to foster or foster-adopt so he give children in need a loving home.

"Coming from a very close family, I want to give another generation the same love and support I received from my family."

Tyler and Phil, Buckinghamshire, United Kingdom

Phil and Tyler cannot wait to have their own kids! Being "guncles" has filled their world with happiness but creating their own family is something they're very excited about.

Phil has two nieces and one nephew, and Tyler is "guncle" to his goddaughter, and they both take their roles of the gay uncle seriously while still having a lot of fun with the kids.

The couple are engaged and are getting married on October 18th this year. A couple of years after the celebrations, they plan to look into the different paths to fatherhood as they're open to both surrogacy and adoption. The thing that they're most excited about?

"Someone for you to love and hold like no other, someone to live beyond you and to feel grateful for being in this world."

Grant Gilmour, Glasgow, Scotland

At only 22, it's hard for Grant to think definitively about a path to fatherhood but he knows that he wants to be a dad one day. For now, he take great pride and joy in being the godfather and "guncle" to his best friend's daughter. With her own biological dad not in the picture, Grant is one of the most significant male guardians she has.

"The best thing about being a "guncle" is being able to love and support such a young beautiful little girl with as much love as I got from my parents growing up."

Grant feels honored to get a chance as her "guncle" to educate her on how wonderfully diverse the world is and that she can grow up to be whoever she wants to be.

In terms of his own future, Grant would consider both surrogacy and adoption to help create one big diverse, loving family.

Wallace Pacheco, Rio de Janeiro, Brazil

Wallace loves his nephew and feels like his big brother. Even though he's not biologically related to him (he's the nephew of his boyfriend), he's embraced his role as "guncle" and loves him like his own.

"The best part of being a "guncle" is that I can be completely myself without weird eyes looking at me."

Although Wallace would like to be a dad one day, he's concerned about how to become one. He's afraid that if he had kids with his partner, they might encounter prejudice in the future, or have a child with a woman. But, he believes he still has time to consider his options, and is also considering adoption. The first step for Wallace is to buy a home and get a good job.

CJ Oliver, Syracuse, New York

CJ is a music teacher and his favorite thing to do with his newborn niece is sing to her while he cuddles her close. "What makes it great is the song I sang to her the first day she was born, I sing now and she smiles knowing it me," CJ shared. He feels a very special bond as her "guncle" and can't wait for more moments like that as she gets older.

As the first gay male in his family, CJ feel like his connection with his niece will be unique.

"The reality of her being able to grow up with someone in the family who is gay, gives her a special understanding to the world around her and more tolerance," said CJ. "That this idea will be seen as normal and not as unusual; it's a beautiful gift to the world of acceptance and love."

CJ very much sees kids in his own future and can't wait for that dream to be realized, but in the meantime, he'll settle for his "kids" to be the students he teaches. "The care I am able to show them is just the same as when I someday will have my own family," said CJ "What I look forward to is when these two worlds will collide and become one."

Kevin and Adam Hillyer-McHugh, Tampa, Florida

Kevin and Adam adore being "guncles" to both a little brother and their nieces and a nephew. They love the laughs they have and even more so, the unconditional love they receive and give in return. enjoy the laughs they have with their kiddos the most. "Love is in their little hearts from the time they enter the world and nothing makes you feel more important than those little arms reaching out for you because you're all they need in that moment."

As "guncles," Kevin and Adam utilize this opportunity to also be gay role models.

"The most unique thing about our connection to our nieces and nephew as gay men is unknown to them entirely, but so deeply meaningful to us. They offer unconditional acceptance which is something not all in our community get to feel and yet so simply innate for a child to give."

The husbands would love kids of their own one day, but are currently struggling with how to create their family. An amazing and selfless sister has offered to donate her eggs so they're considering surrogacy but the attached expense currently seems insurmountable and frustrating. "But know that what is meant to be, will be and in the mean time we have amazing little guys and girls in our lives to love."

Cody Goehring, Dallas, Texas

Cody has one niece whom he loves seeing grow and spoil her without rules and consequences. "I get to leave the dirty work to her parents!" said Cody. "Not to mention the unconditional love that children give is just good for anyone's soul!"

Being gay hasn't influenced Cody's relationship with his niece as she sees him just as her uncle, no matter what. " I am blessed with a family that excepts me as who I am and that is all that matters," shared Cody.

One day, Cody would love to have his own kids but he's not ready for a few more years. At the moment, when he looks towards the future, he'd prefer to be in a relationship so they could raise their kids together, but he also knows his feelings could change. He's open to both adoption and surrogacy.

"I think kids are a great blessing to the world and I would love to have the connection that I have with my parents and I see my brother and his wife have with my niece."

Cole Jenkins and Brendan Talbot, Auckland, New Zealand

Cole and Brendan are getting married next year, and will then start looking into the different ways to create their own family, but for now, they're proud "guncles" to their nephews.

"Being "guncles' brings us so much joy and happiness. Our nephews are always so excited to see us which is the most amazing feeling in the world."

As "guncles," Cole and Brendan are teaching their nephews from a young age that love exists in many different forms. "To have them know that their Gungles are in a loving relationship together and be positive queer role models for them."

Family has always been important to the fiancés and raising and nurturing a child has always been a shared dream of theirs. When the times is right, they'll be excited to begin their own journey to fatherhood.

Mark Pincock, Salt Lake City, Utah

Mark has always wanted to be a dad. "During the time in my life when I was struggling the most with depression, anxiety and even battling suicidal ideation, it was the dream of having a family that gave me hope and kept me going." That dream seemed to be further complicated when Mark accepted his sexuality, but as he's gotten older, he's realized that being gay doesn't prevent him from creating his own family.

It may not happen in the way that he originally envisioned for himself, but Mark's still looking forward to one day having his own kids.

And in the meantime, Mark is getting tons of practice with his 24 nieces and nephews!

"Spending time with them gives me a glimpse into the joys - and frustrations - that comes with kids. I'm so glad I get to be their 'guncle.'"

Check out last year's "Guncles Photo Essay" here.

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This Gay Uncle is on a Mission to Provide His Nieces and Nephews With as Much Culture as Possible

Mike Adank isn't a dad (yet!) but that isn't stopping him from introducing his nieces and nephews to all New York City has to offer.

Mike Adank, who lives in New York City, has been a "guncle" for 19 years to Dylan (19), Emma (17), Laura (12), Alex (8), Katie (6), and Lizzie (3). His Instagram account reveals him to be a fun uncle who thinks the world of his nieces and nephews, and someone eager to share with them his life and passions. He's attentive, enthusiastic, and, dare we say, probably the favorite uncle.

Last year for "Gay Uncles Day" he shared the post below on Instagram with his niece and nephew, with a caption that read: "who needs your own kids when you can just borrow your siblings'?!"

As much as Mike loves being an uncle, however, this message was a bit tongue and cheek: he's begun thinking about having his own family one day in the maybe not-so-distant future.

Mike is the manager of VIP guest experiences at Jujamcyn Theaters, a major Broadway landlord and producer. He lives and breathes Broadway, loves adventures and is a proud New Yorker.

Mike takes his status as a "guncle" seriously and has played a large role in his nieces and nephews lives since they were born. Although they live far away in Wisconsin, Mike travels back two or three times a year, and they make the most of their time together: hiking, camping, gossiping and eating. He also makes sure they see the annual summer musical in their hometown, and plans to give each of them a paid for ticket to New York upon their graduation from high school. "I want them to be well rounded and provide them with as much culture as possible," he said.

As a gay man, Mike also feels it's his responsibility to teach them about tolerance and respect. "Or at least demonstrate it and be an example of how successful you can be if you stay true to yourself and follow your dreams." Recently, he was an even prouder uncle when his niece stood up to a teacher who was allowing hate in the classroom.

Mike has been seeing someone whom he meet via Chappy for the past four months, and although everything is going very well, it's still too early to bring up the conversation of kids. But Mike has begun researching regardless as he's still open to being a single dad if he hasn't found someone who shares the same dream.

In terms of a choosing a path, Mike is keeping his options open even though he's very keen to become a foster dad."Fostering is at the top of my list," said Mike. "I love the idea of sharing my love and life with a child that may be experiencing some rough times, or may not have been as fortunate this far in their life. Everyone deserves to find that one person they can count on, look up to, learn from, and feel safe with, [when] they need it most." Ideally Mike would like to foster to adopt, but he'd also be happy just fostering those in need.

Becoming a dad doesn't come without some fear on Mike's part. And those fears are tied up with his sexuality. "I'm a little scared of them not liking me because I'm gay; I don't want them to feel short changed." But on the flip-side of his concerns, Mike knows that his sexuality could also be a real asset, and help him educate his children on the importance of compassion and love.

As Mike gets closer to celebrating an exciting milestone - the big 4-0 - which is still a couple of years away, he's getting more and more excited about fatherhood, but still wants to be young enough to have fun his kids. The goal is in 5 years time to not only be a fabulous guncle, but also a loving and doting dad. We're excited to watch this space!

Mike with his nephew Dylan

Gay Uncles

As Male Role Models for Their Nieces and Nephews Lives, These "Guncles" Aren't Afraid to Show Some Femininity

These proud gay uncles are excited to be positive role models in the lives of their nieces and nephews

Shamar and Joshua Litvinoff met in college in Providence, Rhode Island, and have been together 6 years. On October 9, they will celebrate their third wedding anniversary. They are "guncles" to Shamar's thirteen biological nieces and nephews - Nathan, Yaya, Shamar, Chris, Mason, Ian, Eli, Chance, Jojo, Julanie, Lamaria, Naomi, and Destiny - and love spending time with them and often get the opportunity to do so as they don't live too far away.

Does the couple aspire to be more than "guncles" one day? Yes, but not right now.

Shamar (left) and Joshua

Early on in their relationship, the subject of kids was discussed as both Shamar and Joshua hope to one day become dads. "Neither of us wanted to waste our time in a relationship that could possibly go nowhere if the other felt differently about the idea of having kids," explained Shamar. But right now, their priorities are finishing school and then they'll begin to save for the substantial cost that is both becoming gay dads and raising kids. Their first choice would be to pursue surrogacy but they're also still considering adoption.

When it does become time for the Shamar and Joshua to focus on fatherhood, there's something else weighing on their minds other than just being gay dads. "My sexuality doesn't play into my fears more so than the fact that we are in a interracial relationship," explained Shamar. As he's become older, Shamar has learned to embrace who he is and his sexuality, but he's found that dating outside his own race has brought a whole new set of eyes looking at his and Joshua's relationship. And he's concerned that this judgement will continue towards their kids. "There is no place outside the home we share that I am never aware of people or the color of our skin."

However, the husbands are going to abide by one of RuPaul's life lessons and remind themselves that, "someone else's opinion of me is none of my business."

One of the things that the husbands are most looking forward to when they become dads is teaching their kids everything they know. Shamar and Joshua are also excited about what their kids will teach them!

For now, Shamar and Joshua will just soak up their fun responsibilities as the fun and doting uncles. Their relationships with their nieces and nephews is unique as they're the male figures in their lives that are not afraid of showing some femininity, believing it to be helpful to raise a well rounded person. "You get to see how kids experience life and how at one point you thought your sexuality would be the end all be all but actually is a very small part of your relationship," said Shamar.

These "guncles" are sharing their love with their nieces and nephews, and one day, they look forward to sharing it with their own kids. And before then they'll keep reminding themselves of these words of wisdom: "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell can you love somebody else."

Gay Uncles

For This Gay Couple, Being a "Guncle" Means Setting a Good Example for the Next Generation

Gay Uncles Day is this Sunday! To celebrate, we're bringing you inspiring stories of gay men and the important role they play in the lives of their nieces and nephews.

Matt Sinclair and Clay Jackson are newlyweds, sharing their special day with Meghan Markle and Prince Harry. They met online almost four years ago, but lived three and a half hours apart. Neither Matt nor Clay were ones to let distance stand in their way, so they decided to meet at a brewery halfway between their two locations. After four hours getting to know one another and tasting beers, they'd established a connection and a tradition. Now, everywhere they travel, you can find them sampling the local breweries as a throwback to when they first met and fell for one another.

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Why This Adopted Gay Man Will Never Have Children

Do we have a biological right to parenthood? Kevin Saunders, a childless 52-year-old gay man, says no.

Guest post written by Kevin Saunders.

Two dear friends of mine, each partnered, capable gay men of relatively sound mind and body, have recently decided to become fathers, and I could not be more unnerved. The expense, the risk, the potential for disappointment, the logistical complexity that they must navigate leave me baffled and at times enraged with the lingering question that I have, out of respect, refrained from asking, "WHY, WHY, WHY do you want to do this?!" These feelings toward what most would consider a happy occasion beg a reciprocal enquiry: "Why do you care?" The answer is rooted in a disposition and a history that has left me skeptical of the innate right to biological parenthood that many, gay or straight, seem to feel entitled to.

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Gay Dad Life

Gays WITHOUT Kids (If Just For a Day...)

Andrew Kohn explains why he decided to leave his kids at home this Pride

I'm not a monster. Yes, I saw the wagons carrying lovely toddler children waiving their flags and eating their graham crackers. The children were plentiful wearing their Pride family shirts, bejeweled in rainbow. The weather was perfect and the crowds were as prideful as ever. But my husband and I had a day where we didn't have to worry about someone else, not on the constant lookout for the next available bathroom or calming emotions because we could buy one unicorn costume and not every unicorn costume. We had a day without kids.

Yes, Pride has become commercialized. Some companies want my gay money, but others march and have a presence because one gay voice spoke up and asked why the company hasn't marched. I marched in the parade with my employer – who marched for the first time this year – because I started the conversation about why we hadn't marched before. My husband and I were present. We honored Stonewall. And praised Nina West. And we did it without carrying a bag with extra panties and a couple sippy cups.

Believe me, I get sharing the day with your children. With your family. But in my house, we live Pride every day. Two white dads caring for two black kids makes us walking billboards for equality, love, and acceptance. I don't need a day to celebrate my family with my children. We do it in the grocery store. We do it at preschool. We recognize our uniqueness and celebrate it. My children don't need a meltdown and a long walk to tell them about their history and their fathers' connection to the past.

Instead of worrying about where we would find lunch and, again, where the closest bathroom was, I saw beauty that took me by surprise – and I was able to be in the moment with it. Trans men waking boldly and bravely around only wearing only their bindings. Watching high school kids sitting in the grass, wearing crop tops and eating french fries, literally carefree looking up at the clouds. We experienced a community that was free and uninhibited, if just for one afternoon, where who you are isn't odd or something to be hidden. But rather something that is a definition of you and should be your reality 365 days a year.

I know that being gay and having kids can be overwhelming at times. We ask ourselves if we're representing our community adequately (or have we become too heteronormative?). If we have children of a different race, are we giving them the experiences they need to know who they are, as well as navigate that world with gay parents? Are we so embraced at school functions because of our contributions to community or are we a token family? And yes, I'll ask it, are we good enough for acceptance by all gay families, who as if we're single again, judge each other on wealth, looks, and status? No family is better than any other, and gay parents certainly have opportunities to be better towards one another.

Our Pride ended in a small fight while walking to the car, like all good Pride's should. But it wasn't about kids bickering, or kids getting upset they didn't get the right treat. It was about us centering ourselves in a community that isn't exactly welcoming in certain spaces to gay families other times of the year. It was about us catching up with our past while also seeing our collective future.

And the kids didn't seem to mind. They had fun with a babysitter and lived their Pride out loud when they shopped for daddy and papa gifts for Father's Day. That's our Pride. Maybe when the kids are older, and really get the meaning of Pride, we'll start marching together in solidarity. But for right now, daddies needed a little time alone to reconnect with their LGBT family. And while there may be too many beer ads and not enough voter registration tables, we celebrate visibility and love. And my husband and I had time together, reminding us of who we are, who our original family was, and how we will connect who we are now, and our children, with that family as it grows.

At the end of the day, we're all in it together. And my children will be enriched by the experience. Just not this year. This year, we fertilized our roots so that our branches can grow.

Antwon and Nate became dads through the foster care system. Nine months after becoming licensed, they received a call on a Tuesday, and two days later, their daughter moved in. "It was very quick," said Nate. "Honestly, it was more just shock and nervousness for me."

As new parents, Nate took unpaid leave for two weeks, before going back to work part-time. Antwon didn't receive any leave.

"It's definitely important to have time off to bond, but it's also important to be financially stable when you do it," said Antwon. "I don't think you should have to choose between staying financially afloat or showing your kid love... and I don't think anyone should have to make that choice."

Only 15% of dads in the U.S. have access to paid paternity leave. We want to change this.

Watch Nate and Antwon's video to find out how:

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Like Antwon and Nate, we're helping Dove Men+Care advocate for paid paternity leave for *ALL* dads! Over the next three months, we will be sharing stories of gay dad families and their paternity leave experience. Our goal is to get 100,000 folks to sign the Paternity Leave Pledge.

Dove Men+Care has collected over 30,000 signatures on the Pledge for Paternity Leave in three short months, in a mission to champion and support new legislation for federally mandated paid leave laws in the U.S. With the conversation growing on Capitol Hill, Dove Men+Care will target key legislators to drive urgency behind paid paternity leave policy and provide a social proof in the form of real dad testimonials, expert research and signature support from families across the country.

Our goal is to help Dove Men+Care bring 100,000 signatures to key policymakers in Washington, D.C. for their Day of Action on the Hill, and drive urgency behind this issue.

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Gay Dad Life

Gays With Kids Turns Five!

Wow! Time certainly flies when you're busy becoming the world's biggest online resource and magazine for gay, bi and trans dads!

As if we don't have enough going on this June (Stonewall's 50th anniversary! Father's Day! Taylor Swift rounding up all the gays in West Hollywood for her latest music video!) we're also celebrating another milestone here at Gays With Kids: we're officially turning five this month. (And we don't look a day over two, right?!)

To celebrate, we took a look back at some of our most popular essays, photos, news stories and more. What do you want to see us cover in the NEXT five years? Let us know at

#10. The Hardest Part of Foster Care? The Wait, Say These Dads-to-Be

Several years ago, we brought you this article: The Hardest Part of Foster Care? The Wait, Say These Dads-to-Be. The article included a video of Antwon and Nate, who were in the midst of their process to become foster dads, which quickly became one of our most popular posts of all time. In this video, they shared how difficult it was waiting for "the" call from the agency letting them know their lives would be forever changed once a child came to live with them.

Want to see how the dads are getting on several years later? Check out this updated video here!

#9. Famous Gay Dads and Their Kids!

Our article, Famous Gay Dads and Their Kids, featuring well-known gay dads from Neil Patrick Harris to Ryan Murphy, quickly became one of our most popular. In the years since, as the ranks of gay dads has continued to grow, we've brought you MANY more stories of gay men in the limelight who are venturing into fatherhood. Check them all out here!

#8. The Story Behind America's Youngest Gay Dad

The Story Behind America's Youngest Gay Dad, which ran back in 2015, is also one of our most popular posts of all time! The post explores the story of Brian Mariano, who became a father with an ex-girlfriend while still in high school. "Everybody in my life is really supportive of me," he said. "If it's someone new and a friend mentions I'm a dad, they will stop. 'Wait, what? How are you a dad? You're gay.' It's like that 'Mean Girls' quote sometimes. You know – 'if you're from Africa, why are you white?'"

#7. When His Son Got a Tattoo, He Freaked Out. Then He Saw What it Was

This article, When His Son Got a Tattoo, He Freaked Out, definitely plucked the heartstrings of our readers! Which is why it's one of the most popular articles on our site of all time.

"Guess what dad I'm getting a tattoo," Richard's son, Jonathan, texted him. "Don't you dare," was Richard's response. But Jonathan went ahead with it anyway. At first, his dad "fumed." But then he found out what the tattoo was.

"So I got my first tattoo!!" Jonathan wrote on Facebook, of his roman numeral tattoo on his side. "This date is the day that my life changed. This is the day my dads adopted me. The greatest day in my life knowing that for the rest of my life I would finally have a loving family that loved me for me!" (Another one of our most popular posts is this photo essay of gay dads who explain the meaning behind their tattoos.)

#6. 8 Black Dads Share What Black History Month Means to Their Families

Last year, during February's Black History Month, we ran an article titled 8 Black Dads Share What Black History Month Means to Their Families. To create the post, we asked our community a simple question: as a Black gay dad, what does this month mean to you, your family, and your community? The answers we got back were reflective, poignant and deeply moving, which is why this article became one of our most-viewed ever.

Check out the story here.

#5. 19 Photos of Matt Dallas & Blue Hamilton That Will Make You Green with Parenting Envy

Ok the popularity of this article, 19 Photos of Matt Dallas & Blue Hamilton That Will Make You Green with Parenting Envy, doesn't need that much explanation. Gorgeous, talented, successful and good dads? What's not to love! Also check out this more recent post, Things Husbands (and Gay Dads) Do According to Matt Dallas and Blue Hamilton, which is also quickly climbing the ranks of our most popular!

#4. A Gay Dad's Message From His Heart to his Facebook Friends

This article, A Gay Dad's Message From the Heart to his Facebook Friends, by gay dad Michael Anderson, ran in the troubling aftermath of the 2016 Presidential election, when so many LGBTQ people, our allies, and other vulnerable communities looked (and continue to look) towards an uncertain future.

"Suddenly I don't feel secure anymore," Michael wrote. "Vice president-elect Pence has an extensive anti-gay record from supporting gay conversion therapy on kids that literally includes trying to (but failing to) electro-shock the gay out, to signing legislation in his state in 2013 to jail any same-sex couple who attempted to get a marriage certificate. All of the progress that we have made that gives my family a sense of belonging and security is very likely to be erased."

For more of our ongoing political coverage, including the 2020 race, check out these articles as well.

#3. Helping Gay Men Afford Adoption Through Sizable Grants

Our third most popular article, Helping Gay Men Afford Adoption Through Sizable Grants, features our good friends Help Us Adopt, an amazing non-profit organization that helps adoptive parents offset the substantial costs associated with the process. They are also dedicated to inclusivity, and are one of the few financial resources available for gay adoptive parents. Check out this great profile of their work!

#2. 9 Times Gay Dads Crushed Their Pregnancy Announcement Pics

Gay dads love a good photo opportunity. So obviously this photo essay of gay dad pregnancy announcement pics is high up on our list as well. This photo essay, 9 Times Gay Men Crushed Their Pregnancy Announcement Pics, is our second most popular. Check out this most recent roundup of pregnancy announcement pics, which is also climbing the

And Our MOST Viewed Article of All Time Is... 

Gay dads do Halloween right! So it's no surprise that this article, 13 Dads Giving You Major Family Halloween Costume Goals, is our most viewed of all time! And though Halloween may still be months away, why not prepare early with a look at some of our other most popular Halloween articles!

Gay Dads Snap Pics at the Pumpkin Patch
Nobody Does Halloween Like Neil Patrick Harris and Fam
31 Gay Dads Serving Major Halloween Costume Inspo (and Where to Get The Looks!)
Get Your DIY Skills On for Halloween, Dads!


Lastly, a big thank you to all of our readers! It's thanks to you that we now can claim the biggest online community of gay, bi, and trans dads in the world (not to mention two GLAAD award nominations ;) We can't wait to see what the next five years bring!

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